Would you classify BDSM as abusive behaviour?

[jennifer_bloom]

[TremorJay]

If you like the abuse, that doesn't change what it is.

[Sevenpointfive]

i say yes because people get killed this way

[AustinMan]

As long as it's safe, sane and consensual, it's just consenting adults doing what they do.

[1231prncss]

If its consensual between both partners then no its not abusive
If only one partner is interested in bdsm and tries to "force" it on the other then yes abusive.

[Liz_thorne]

If its consensual it is not abusive

[MrKinktastic]

The line between abuse and play is consent. Basically its abuse if its forced on one or the other party but if both want to engage in the activity thats between the two/three/more of them.

[ZackBan]

Of course not. Within the right limits it creates an unbreakable bond between the two it goes deeper than the sex. You're literally fucking someones mind just as much as their body.

[Astarlessnightsky]

No, because its consential for both parties. Both are getting pleasure from it, even though it may not look like it to an outsider.

[Kurαȷ]

Abusive, no.
Psychologically maladjusted, yes.

[m0b1us]

It's a very fine line between abuse and play, even if it's consentual. Sometimes people use it in relation to trauma they've experienced, such as for the purpose of altering the emotional connection to the trauma because this time they're in total control over the act, limits, and ability to stop at any moment, as well as the partner being their choice.

For me, having been badly sexually abused by foster parents who made a point to ensure the abuse was centered around control and humiliation and torture to me and my body, then no I absolutely can not ever engage in that kind of play no matter how consentual it is.

[Jjpayne]

It's up to the person, to some it's pleasure to others it's pain to others it's both but needs to be consensual for both

[SydneySentinel]

I don't think so. Not if both parties agree to it.

[Anon_loser]

If it’s not consensual then it’s not bdsm, it’s abuse. If it is consensual, it’s not abuse

[Ronald_25]

If it is a fetish then I want my girlfriend to BDSM the crap out of me. Otherwise if it is one sided then it is just abuse 🤷🏽‍♂️ both parties need to be happy doing it, otherwise even the giver can feel uncomfortable.

[MackToday]

No it's consensual.

[AynonOMouse]

Nah. If they both enjoy it then it is fine.

[Titanic1912]

I don’t even know what BDSM stands for.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

It all depends on who you ask.. which renders the question redundant.

[NorthwestRider]

It is not boomer

[Walrus_au]

Depends on the communication and consent status between the participants.

[yucel_eden]

It completely depends on the act, but mostly is yes.

The difference is it is consensual abuse. The abuse is what gets of the sub.

[mendyglow]

Yeah agree

[swettannie]

wait what? of course no