Would you consider a blowjob cheating?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It doesn't matter whether you consider it "technically" to be cheating.

You are in a relationship. You either had an explicit discussion, or you have an unspoken understanding with your partner, that you are dating exclusively and will not pursue a relationship with anyone else. You also have an understanding that neither of you will engage in any physical affection or sexual behaviors with anyone else. Isn't that what you expect of your partner? If you went to her apartment and discovered that your best friend was there with his head between her legs, devouring her pussy like a hungry animal, would you simply say "hello, how was your day?" Wouldn't you be upset and feel that she had betrayed you?

If getting a blowjob isn't cheating, then you should be able to do that with someone else while your girlfriend is present. Would you do that? If it isn't cheating and your girlfriend isn't present, you should be able to go home and say, "Hey! Guess who I got a blow job from today?" Would you tell her about it.

Whether you call it cheating is irrelevant. It obviously betrays the trust that your girlfriend has in you and it means that she will not be able to trust you in the future, so the only real option is for her to break up and find someone who is more trustworthy and who honors their commitments.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Depends, if I told my wife I was going out to sleep with someone else, wouldn't matter what I did with them, if she felt some incredible urge to have another penis in her mouth, I'd be confused for sure, but it wouldn't be cheating.

Where it crosses the line to cheating in my book is that first attempt to lie, deceive, or hide. I mean, very rarely does anyone really get hurt besides a prick to the pride from fucking someone else. The part that really hurts and devastates a relationship is that you can't trust each other anymore... because of the lies.

Ironically the person that cheated can't trust anymore either, because they realize how easy it is to screw someone else over when they care about you. Cheating is bad, I would recommend against it, if you feel the need to get a blowjob, try talking about it with your old lady first. I guarantee it won't go down nearly as bad as you think, or if she finds out about it later and chokes you in your sleep or something.

If she blew some other guy or wants to, well, you've got to square that with yourself. But you have to seriously enjoy humiliation and degradation to stay with someone who has, and will probably continue to manipulate you and your trust.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Yes I would. Any sexual act performed with someone other than your partner (including oral sex) if you're in a committed relationship is cheating. I mean would you think your girlfriend cheated or didn't cheat if she said "I didn't cheat, he just ate me out" ?
If a man is in a relationship getting blowjobs from anyone but his partner, he cheating. If a girl giving blowjobs to anyone other than her partner she cheating.. .
And people should remember, you can get STD'S from oral sex...

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Depends on the terms of the relationship. Some people would even consider grinding at a night club as cheating.

not_a_twinkie · Answer

Um yeah, definitely

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I would! Only someone such as bill clinton would think otherwise.

itsmyownname · Answer

If your partner haven't explicitly said it isn't, it's definitely cheating! Why shouldn't it?

loves2learn · Answer

Yes. Very much.

ConfusedGinger21 · Answer

I agree on saying it depends. What was the intent, was it somebody he/she knew? I wouldn't consider it cheating but that's me and I know friends who have done worse and not thought anything bad about it.

John_Galt · Answer

In a monogamous relationship, of course.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Erm just a little bit.

fjh80 · Answer

Yeah it's cheating! If it's with someone who's not your girlfriend, then it's cheat. Kissing is cheating. What kind of mental gymnastics are you pulling of to think that's even a question?