Would you ever consider having sex before marriage?

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lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

yes, was just talking about this with girlfriend.
My values say don't do that, purity.
But I had no training in life, church, or family how critical and possibly messed up intimacy/sex can be. That had better work or someone/both persons are going to suffer and divorce is probable. I've seen this specific scenario occur... no imtimacy, divorced in 6 months... they were committed Christians. Heard of it more than once.

Gotta make sure that stuff works, however you do that. Maybe there's another way. The amount of suffering people can endure these days isn't what it used to be back when there was a lot of pressure around staying married. That "beast was released in the 60's 70's with no fault divorce. But as well, maybe it was awful for many people to be married and they just survived... that's not healthy.

I tried to be pure in a relationship and it's torture. That said, there is a good purpose behind holding off... offspring can be made, bonding, etc.. Make your decision. And at 35+ ages... it's the females who can be really aggressive.

Soleil8000 · Accepted Answer

I don't know that there is a point.
The whole 'sex as a delicacy' is a mistranslation from Slavic languages where 'seks delikt' means 'sexual crimes'.
Once you remove the idea of it as desert after food, and get to feeling the attachment form on a mammal level, you only end up feeling like sex to procreate/have a child.
In all honesty, without forcing each other and being forced by propaganda, I don't think humans would ever have it except for procreation.
Maybe babies feeding from breast gives orgasms/orgasmic feeling - and perhaps girl babies would feed off of their dad's penis too (I have no children so don't know how they grow/discover their biological surroundings
(Biological gets mixed up with 'biblical' far too often)

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. You certainly wouldn't buy a new car without test driving it first, would you.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. That is a huge compatibility requirement.

Markm3212 · Answer

yes i would as i would want to know if we are compatible on all levels, sex is an important part of marriage and if you do not get along in the bedroom department then its difficult.

Boromir · Answer

I think it’s more the other way round… Would not take the risk marrying someone without checking sexual compatibility first…

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't consider getting married if we HADN'T had sex. That would be insane.

boltfox20 · Answer

Did and did. Still do, as a matter of fact. My fiancé and I enjoy it quite a bit. ^_^

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah being compatible is important.

imagine marrying someone, then finding out they are not sexual compatible, don’t like sex, believe it’s only for making children, they want to and that’s all the sex you will get.

RobT312 · Answer

Too late. Yes I have had sex before marriage. In the very least it’s a good idea to make sure you are compatible

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yes of course, but then I wasn't born in the 1800's to an Amish Family.

Tamera952 · Answer

Yes of course, ... I'd encourage it.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

I never considered waiting to be married to have sex

NathanDavis · Answer

too late... lol

slatyb · Answer

I wouldn't consider getting married without having had a sexual relationship for some time.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

You mean like right before the marriage? With everyone in the church waiting and listening to that horrid organ music? Sure why not. Have some fun! You will be feeding them all in a little while so let them wait. It's your day after all.

AviatorTom · Answer

I did, and I think it's a good thing to have sex before marriage. It's one way to determine how compatible you are.

HighValue · Answer

Yeah since I seriously doubt I would want to get married until the laws are changed.

Cloud-9 · Answer

Hello 21st century called,  Seems weird to me not to do it before.  There is a whole other side to the person you wouldn't know before marrying.  Just sayin 😉

exitseven · Answer

Yes, and I would also not consider not having sex before marriage.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I do. I need to know if we are fully compatible

BobbyC65 · Answer

You don't need to be married to have sex I wasn't married at 24 years old when I lost my virginity to an 18-year-old girl. 💞

MysticDevice · Answer

Already did it. Marriage is slowly becoming a thing of the past. Or rather the religious ritual part of it. Sex before marriage simply isn't taboo anymore.