Alpha male dominance during sex.

[zalew]

Recently I hooked up with an ex, we had fantastic rough sex five times in eight hours, exploring every position imaginable. The dominance is new we never did that in the past, he would pull my hair, spit in my face, call me a dirty bitch, thrusting really hard, slapped my butt very hard, and much more...The thing is in the cold light of day he is nothing like that.. I sent him a sext asking if he had ever had his prostate massaged while being f***ed or sucked? His reply was, "why would you ask such a question?". Followed by, " I have experience many interesting things in my lifetime!". Is he disgusted, or embarrassed or have I read the tone of his text wrong or what, his response is not what I had expected...

[KJT6989]

In my experience this is a topic that should be talked about face to face because straight alpha males tend to be embarrassed about this because they seem to think if they like it then they must be gay! But most feel about this the way most women feel about anal sex! They are comfortable taking about it even if they have done it because it is considered taboo in society!

[Racez]

He might be hinting that sex is not what his life is all about.

"I have experienced many interesting things in my lifetime." Those words makes him somewhat alpha and very worldly. His text is not what you might had expected.

Perhaps he's a man that goes through the world thinking that what happened in the bed, stays in the bed.

[zalew]

He is very much the Alpha male and is very worldly. How can he be full on in bed then not find a sext worth an answer?

[Anonymous]

"if I sext him to come f*** me he will respond with "I'm on my way."so how do I turn this round and get him wanting me again?"

I think you asked and answered your question in the very same sentence. ;)

[zalew]

Good one, but if he's being weird over the sext is that not adding to me coming over dominant again, what do you suggest if he is still being like this after I say come f*** me?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess it's not clear to me from what you wrote whether you like the dominance thing. Do you, or would you prefer he be less dominant and more neutral? Is it possible he thinks you like it but you really don't?

[zalew]

This was my first experience of dominant sex and totally unexpected, it was interesting but I don't think I could be dominant to the level need to feel realistic enough to enjoy.

[Opinion Owner]

"I don't think I could be dominant to the level..." OK, now I'm really confused. Where did the part about YOU being dominant come in? I thought HE was the dominant one. Do you want to be dom too? It doesn't sound like he wants you to, and it doesn't sound based on the above quote that you want to either. So what is the problem? I just don't understand what your question is, I guess.

[zalew]

Yeah, its getting confusing even for me. He is Very dominant, this was my first experience, I do not want to be dom but I did enjoy the new sclerosis. Was I being dominant in bring up. Prostate messages while being f***ed or sucked, he was a bit off in his reply so I thought maybe he thought my sext was a bit on the domm side and he didn't like that rather than anything to do with his butt hole...

[Opinion Owner]

OK, I'm with you now. Sorry. Yeah, it sounds like the prostate massage just not his thing. If you want to continue the relationship, and it sounds like you do, I would suggest just letting him know you like what he does and you want some more. That's probably all you need to do to turn him on! :)

[zalew]

He said, "it sounds as though you would be willing to make any unfulfilled fantasies I may have come true?" Is that good or bad!

[Opinion Owner]

If you're willing, I'd say it's very good. :)

[kheserthorpe]

The fact that he has rough sex does not mean he wants a prostate massage. Some people like one, some both, some neither.

[LoveBambi]

...you let someone spit in your face?

[zalew]

No, he did it spontaneously, I was shocked but didn't make anything of it, later I said I did not like it. It was very rough dominant sex that was part of a fantastic experience.

[LoveBambi]

Tf am I getting down arrowed for?

[MaleSexSlave]

A lot of guys will be hesitant to have their prostate played with. Have you ever tried to be the Domme? Why don't you try some bondage and slowly work the prostate into the scene. If he is hesitant just reassure him and try to get him to just try it. If your not into being the Domme try and work the anal in during sex. Get him really horny and you be surprised how the male mind stops thinking haha. During sex rub his ass crack and stimulate it. Then ask him again during sex. Hopes this helps :)

[Anonymous]

may be he is not interested, if he likes to be the dom he's probably not going to like that. Or he just didn't know how to answer because he isn't sure about what you want to do.

[Anonymous]

Sex is the most primal thing.

It helps us get in touch with our true roots(sometimes animals).

Personally I am not that much of a dominant person in normal life but when it comes to having sex,my primal side is activated and I get extremely dominant.Sometimes to the extent of man-handling the opposite sex(not in a bad way though).pulling her hair,pushing her neck from the back while f***ing her doggy style,forcing her to go deep throat on me is very common.won't get anymore graphic here on GAG...but you get the point!

So yeah it is quite possible that he is not that dominant outside bed.

[Anonymous]

Idk it's kinda confusing. I say bring that up before sex and ask if you can try it on him

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe he finds its gay for whatever reason