Am I being too insecure about what a few girls have told me about my...thing?

[Anonymous]

Mm, I'll just start by saying that my penis is only 4 inches long (length) and 4 inches around (girth) at the hardest point of my erections. So yes, my penis is well under the 6 inch average length and I don't know what's the average girth but I can certainly tell that mine is really thin. Girls that I've known have told me either; A) My penis is too small to satisfy any girl, and that I should give up any hope of dating/sex because of that. B) The only thing that matters is if she loves me and she'll be satisfied if a guy simply gave all his effort and did the best he could with what he has. What does everyone here think? To girls, do you think that someone is more attractive, more of a man, and would satisfy you more if he has a bigger penis? Do you think that you'd be very disappointed, offended, or even leave a boyfriend if you saw he had a small penis? Or would you be happy with whatever he has? What would you say to a guy who wasn't well endowed to make him feel better, but at the same time being honest? To guys, if you have a big penis, would you feel like you can do better sexually than those who aren't as fortunate, solely because of that? If you have a small penis, what have you experienced? Good or bad experiences? I've found myself confidently confused about this, and I really don't know what to think. As much as you probably wouldn't believe considering people have talked to me about this, I'm still a virgin. Because a lot of my friends and not-so-friendly people have joked or been serious about this, I don't know how I'm going to do the first time I'm up to bat. I sorta feel bad because I have some sort of expectations for that first time and I've worried myself if it won't be how I expected, or if it'll be a horrible experience that will hurt me emotionally because maybe the girl will make fun of me or just leave on the spot because of my size. (or lack of, in this case) I'm not looking for pity or reassurance or whatever. Don't answer this with a candy-coated response as if you're trying to make someone better, answer as if you're as honest as you can be. ._.; I don't care if you have an opposing opinion, I'd just appreciate it if you would maybe give me any solutions to my dilemma instead of just saying something like "small penises are gross lol." Blah, I'm stupid, I'm asking the internet about this. What's wrong with me. probably tl;dr too. >.>;;

[Anonymous]

You're not stupid for asking the internet! We all do :)

Personally, I don't think a guy is any more/less attractive for his size lol. Would it satisfy me more? From my own personal experience, no. The first guy I had sex with was pretty large, it wasn't so great since I was a virgin and all. I had a lot of trouble getting it in, and I would end up crying sometimes because I was just really tight. It got better eventually, but we only had sex like 9 times so it pretty much hurt every time. After I broke up with him I felt... terrible, obviously; we were together for 3 years and it was really awful. The weeks before it ended he didn't really pay me much attention, so I felt ugly and whatnot...

About a month later I was at a friends birthday party, and there was this guy I was kind of close to... we ended up having sex that night and he was about 4 inches, too (maybe a little less actually). But it was honestly one of the best I've ever had. And while I was kind of just using him at the time, and he knew that, it was fantastic. And we're still friends now, I often think about that night and it's greatness and hope that when my new boyfriend and I do choose to make love it'll be as great as that night was.

Also, I shouldn't have to tell a guy anything about his size. In my opinion, it's not something I should have to make him feel better about because I don't think I'd have sex with someone who wasn't confident about their size. And when I say confident I don't mean "I know my size is great," I mean just not being so insecure to the point where I should have to comfort you. I'm not sure if it's coming out the way it should, so let's put it this way: I wouldn't have had sex with my friend if in the middle of everything he would ask if he was big enough. I myself have my own set of insecurities, sex should be a break from those on both accounts.

Let me say that you sound like a great guy. You're very well spoken and showing concern for something that matters to you in an honest way. No girl in her right mind will just up and leave because of your size, no girl sleeping with you is going to make fun of you. Just do your reading and be aware of what women like in bed, it really helps for any guy to come in knowing how to do general things, regardless of experience or size.

And I know it's easy for me to say "don't worry about it," so even if you can't worry about it less just know that the penis is a powerful tool and when used properly... lol. But in all seriousness, the female gspot is like 2+3 inches above the opening, and most girls can't orgasm from sex because this g-spot and the clit don't get enough attention. So learn about those first, and focus on that :) This way you know your partner is leaving satisfied!

[Asker]

I still don't feel totally confident but now I do feel a little better about myself! >.< Thanks, this is a great answer. :)

[Opinion Owner]

That's understandable, confidence isn't just built in a day! But you'll see, one day you'll make someone really happy and everything will make more sense :) Just do your reading and stay open to suggestions. Thanks for picking me :)

[mearbear]

ok, well I've been dating a guy with a penis that is barely average, he had people make fun of him. I love him for nomater his size, it doesn't matter, not on size, on how caring you are.

[lAcadial]

My friend says: it's not the size, the thickness, its about the way you use it :D lol. I heard that from many girls.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

The girls on this site claim its all about the way you use what I have. Hence why they're on a website looking for dating advice and not out shagging guys.

[Asker]

I'm not sure what that has anything to do with about this.

[ItalianBro]

How long is your tongue?

[Asker]

Dunno, it's thick and floppy though. Lmao

[mollykinz1015]

i dont care about penis size. what matter is whats on the inside