Am I the only guy who thinks oral sex is degrading a girl?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I wouldn't expect a girl to give me oral. Enjoyable as it would be I kind of think it's degrading the girl. I'd do plenty of other stuff with her. Missionary, doggy, fingering whatever. Not anal. Am I weird? Am I the only guy in the world who thinks like this?

[MrX12345]

I agree with the orginal poster, i too think its degrading towards women. Oral sex has become so normalized within our society no one thinks twice about it. And then many of you make the argument well what if a guy goes down on a girl. My opinion on that... is why would any guy want to considering the many dicks thats been in the same spot. I would actually respect a woman more if she wasn't inclined to doing it. It shows me that she's not like all the rest. I think women who give head are typically whores. I've read one story a woman blew some guy then minutes later made out with some other dude. Its crazy. You women say its not degrading but it is. If you're blowing your boss to get a promotion your degrading yourself to get to a higher position. Put it this way.. we know killing is wrong, right? But what if I didn't think so? What if I stole goods but thought to myself oh its ok, cause I've done it so many times. I mean shit, if you told someone to suck your cock. You are literally being disrespectful to that person. Telling someone to go eat a dick is an insult. But yet im baffled why women think its ok. Guys if you have a daughter and you walked in her blowing some guy she probably just met, how would you feel? Exactly... im going to leave there. But again to the op you're not alone.

[Quadrophonic84]

A LOT of girls love doing it. Really, really love doing it. In fact all three of the serious gfs I've had wanted to do it to me more than I ever asked for it. I pretty much never had to ask for it. Since it gives them pleasure in multiple ways (the sexual thrill of having a penis in her mouth and the emotional pleasure of closeness and knowing she's making me happy) I don't think it's degrading as long as it's caring. If it's a "hey b*tch suck my c*ck and then get out" kind of thing, then yeah, but in that sense any other sex act would be degrading too. I don't think any sex act can be fundamentally good or bad, it's all about context and the specific people's feelings. One thing that girls have asked for does seem borderline degrading to me is coming on her face. two of the three gfs would ask me to come on their faces from time to time. It's just a whole different way of thinking.

[Sayitalbeit]

Actually as a bartender and a girl with a lot of girlfriends we are no fans or "love, love, love" doing it. Many will tell a guy that or put on this act to be the laid back cool girlfriend or hookup to come back too.. but many I know are not in love. Most don't mind. I will say the biggest complaints are too long or not clean or a guy with ED who goes on and on lol. I've heard it all.

[selfishstars]

I don't believe that any sexual act is inherently degrading. it's the intentions behind it, or personal feelings surrounding it, that make something degrading.

I really enjoy giving oral sex. It turns me on and I love pleasuring my partner. We love and respect each other, and he also enjoys giving me oral sex. Oral sex is something we both like and want to do. Why would that be degrading?

The definition of degrading is "Causing a loss of self-respect; humiliating." Giving oral sex is not humiliating to me, nor does it cause me to lose self-respect.

[Minxxe]

yes it can be degrading if the guy takes his moves from p*rn or if he thinks he's entitled to oral without earning it. it's a vulnerable position to be in for a woman, he has complete control of his body and yours so you need to be at ease with him and to trust he's not going to make any sudden, stupid "porn-moves".

i think there is pressure to give oral and a lot of girls give oral as a way of not having full sex, they think it's the lesser intimate act of the two but they do not always know the health risks associated with giving head to random men.

[actricalian]

The most sensitive part of his body is in almost direct contact with the sharpest and hardest part of hers and she's the one that's vulnerable? I'm surprised I even have to point out how ridiculous that sounds.

[Thiezz]

I have to agree with actricalian on this one :D

[Minxxe]

if you've both had a **** in your mouth then fine, you have your opinion and I'll have mine

[Thiezz]

If that is the requirement then yes, it seems I have earned my opinion :p

[Sayitalbeit]

Agree 400%

[Sayitalbeit]

Honestly, this is so well said. As someone who has heard a lot of opinions and stories I will say from a girls perspective, this pretty much hits it point on!

[Anonymous]

Idk about guys but I being a girl don't like it all that much

[cun7n1nja]

I only think it's degrading if she feels degraded. I've never felt degraded when giving a blowjob. If I want to do it, I don't feel like it's degrading. And if I didn't want to do it, then I wouldn't. If I were pressured or pushed into it or even forced, then absolutely I would feel degraded, and that would be the end of that. But that's never been the case, I actually enjoy it a lot, particularly with my boyfriend.

[heatherlu]

It's only degrading to her if she feels that way.

Honestly, when I'm giving a guy a blow job, I don't feel degraded at all.

What's degrading about wanting to please a guy? It's not like I'm being forced to do it, it doesn't mean I've lost all self-respect, it just means I enjoy giving a guy pleasure.



Would you feel degraded eating a girl out? It's the same thing.

[Asker]

I'm not sure. I mean I really want to please a girl. That's important to me. But I wouldn't care if oral wasn't involved from both sides

[heatherlu]

Yeah but what I'm saying is - you like the idea of eating a girl out, right? So why would you think that girls don't like the idea of giving a blow job?

[Asker]

I meant I really want to please a girl but I don't know if I would want to do oral on her either. So I wouldn't expect her to do it to me

[heatherlu]

Oh, okay.

[Asker]

LOL I must be a minority

[JackieTreehorn]

Used to think that, now realize that come isn't as bad as us guys think it is, it's just because we're straight males and we're naturally repulsed by it. Also, girls could say the same thing about guys eating out their pussy, how degrading it must be to shove your face down there and have to eat her out. So, all in all, it's not degrading if the person involved doesn't think it's degrading.

[l-hedoniste]

Humiliation comes from intention, not action. If a girl likes oral, than you're degrading her by *not* giving her oral, since you're making a (wrong) decision for her that she's perfectly capable of making herself.

[SexySam2013]

I don't think its degrading, I actually enjoy giving head, I've always wanted to try 69 but never have haha, and the anal thing I understand, I hate anal sex

[jackflynn7]

Nothing degrading about giving or receiving oral sex between willing lovers. OK, we both catch a lot of fluid but it is the pleasure we are providing that is important.

[Thiezz]

Things are only degrading if at least one of the people involved feels they are being degraded. If the woman giving oral doesn't feel she is being degraded, who are you to question her judgement? :p

[Shaun]

Yes.

[Karma84]

If you are the only guy it’s not a bad thing! I’ve been starting to feel this way as a female. I feel this pornagraphic, dirty notion of what sex should be is all wrong. I didn’t mind doing it at first and have in past relatioships but recently feel it’s degrading and dirty and makes me feel disrespected. Now my boyfriend says I’m selfish for that

[TheDivergent]

I totally agree with you. As controversial and judgmental it can sound; this how I always viewed it. I completely fail to see what's so 'liberating" or "empowering" about it. Having to put your mouth in one of the dirtiest places in the human body is repulsive enough to turn me off. And that's exactly how a lot of females start thinking before having to digest all the shitty pornified version of sex they learn as they grow up. Most men talk ill behind a woman's back after she gives them oral sex. and then lie to their face by telling them it's "an act of love". Honestly, this is pure evil! . I would feel much more respectful to a man like you, than the douchebag who only thinks about getting blown up by as many girls as possible.

[Sayitalbeit]

Agreed! And I respect what you wrote-

[Anonymous]

If you are true about your gender and opinion and not joking around , i think you are precious ;) :) You have a conscience and its hard to find a man like you , most of the men are selfish and dont give a damn about their parttners when it comes to sex , they actually dont/cant differentiate between sex and fuck , they actually like to degrade women, and women forget that they are respectful and not whores from porn films, women dont need to do any disgraceful stuff to please their boyfriends/husbands. You are very much normal and dont need to worry about your preferences. Dont get affected by social/peer pressure. Infact Oral sex can lead to cancer and STD's , HIV, herpes... etc.

[Opinion Owner]

I believe you are talking about a blowjob (woman to a man ) that could be a degrading for a woman. Oral to a woman can't be degrading for a woman.

[Anonymous]

I would have to agree.

[Thiezz]

Agree that Question asker is the only guy and that he is weird, or agree that oral is degrading? If it's the later, do elaborate.

[Opinion Owner]

that oral sex is degrading. That's just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

You're really sweet. For the longest time, I felt as if giving oral was a chore.

Soon, I realized that if you love someone, or even just feel perfectly comfortable with someone, you won't mind at all.

Hope this helps :)

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Thats very sweet.

[Asker]

:)

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's degrading if both are willing. it's only degrading if he forces her when this isn't something that she wants to do

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

My friend said that but I told him then is it degrading if a girl wants to be eaten out, shut him up