Do guys compare their sex partners?

[Anonymous]

I am just started dating a younger man (11 years younger). I am SO into him. Neither of us have had a lot of past relationships but I am nervous about him comparing me to his past long term girlfriend. I've seen her and she is younger than me (his age), thinner (she's probably a size 6 & has very straight build) and has blond hair. I am older, a size 10 (and have had kids so I am much curvier), I have a little bit of a tummy--seriously, not much but its not firm like it used to and have long dark brown hair. We have not yet had sex and I am normally very confident about my body because I've been told I have a nice figure. But, I am feeling really unconfident because of him being younger and me being larger than his past girlfriend. Guys, honestly, how much do you compare the girls you've been with as far as their physical appearance? And, how much does it matter to you? I want to be confident when I am with him but I am afraid these thoughts are going to be at the back of my mind & I will not be able to enjoy the sex because I will be worrying about covering up the parts of me I am afraid he won't like.

[GIntrovert]

I've never compared in the moment when I'm with her.. my mind is preoccupied lol.. But later when I'm not thinking of her directly, I sometimes compare... More about how she treats me, and her personality... I've never actually physically compared them until right now...

If he didn't want you he wouldn't be with you, remember that..

[CrazyLegs]

we do compare -- but lose the worry and wow him in the sack --- no fear :)..get your groove back...and he will compare you in a good way

[pandey]

hahha its just a feeeling and feeling can b different it depends upon your mood and environment around us

[Anonymous]

yes we do compare

[Asker]

Can you be more specific? Like...is it more how good they are at sex? Or, are you looking at their bodies and thinking, "oh, I don't like that...so and so had a nice ass"? And, if you are comparing, is it something that would make or break a relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

Most guys will compare everything (even if they say they dont), and it CAN be relationship breaking in the long term why not work on losing your flaws? you said you had a tummy? so start running ?

[Chiefsoccer91]

That was rather insensitive, I think. Flaws or no, he should love you for who you are. And if he's worth it, he'll take the good with the bad that it comes with.

[Opinion Owner]

This is real life, not fantasy happy go lucky land

[Asker]

Re:My tummy & running. I work out at least 4 days a week and sometimes 6 days a week. Run, walk, swim, do weights, etc. I also eat very lightly. Its very hard to completely lose the tummy after having babies. So, believe me, I've done the best I can but its never going to be like it was. I am 5'6" and 138 lbs so I am by no means fat. I am curvy which I actually like because I used to be very straight (before kids). I would not even worry if it weren't for the fact that his past girlfriend was tiny