He asked for a BJ straight up?

Question

So this guy and I are friends, I really wanna give him a BJ. (We're just friends). We were hanging out one night, And he asked for one. I said no, cause I find it weird that he asked. Now he thinks I don't want to anymore but I do I just don't want him to have to ask but I don't wanna make the first move. What Do I do? He literally said, "I think I deserve a BJ now." It just made things weird, We laughed and I said no. I don't think he should have to ask for it, it should just happen. How do I let him know I still want to without making a first move? (unless the first move is nothing major)

Subotai · Accepted Answer

Wow bold move on this guys part.  Not saying that's a good thing or a bad thing just objectively saying wow.  First of all get the idea that your just friends out of your head right now.  He straight up asked you for a sexual act that you are saying you really want to give him.  So your in a bit of a pickle it seems(and no I didn't mean that to be a phallic metaphor necessarily).  You don't want him to ask for a bj but you want to give him one and are unwilling to make a first move.  He probably thinks you just wanna be friends and is a bit embarrassed.  I think you do have to make a first move but it doesn't have to be a grab for his zipper.  Let him know you wanna go on a date some time.  Let things go from there, if and when you decide your dating leads to some private alone time with him he will probably try to make a move make out with you touch you etc if you don't say no eww back off well there you go .  The honest to god truth is that woman almost always make the first move and basically reserve the power to choose what men they want to be with and what kind of activities they wish to do with them.  Sure a man is supposed to do the asking to fulfill some outdated romantic notion ingrained in our society but most men won't even ask if a woman doesn't send verbal or nonverbal signals she will probably say yes because we don't enjoy rejection.

sikoo31 · Accepted Answer

ok so what you want is for him to indirectly insinuate that he wants one?

i can think of a few solutions: put on some p*rn in front of him to get him in the mood... tease him with a sexy outfit and innocent flirting... talk about bj's like tell him about blow jobs you've given, ask him about the one's he's received and when you get comfortable enough, make a move if he takes too long to make it him-self.

the problem here is you don't seem to be comfortable enough with him to jut be honest and open with him, so it makes me wonder how you think you'll be comfortable enough to blow him...

if you keep things the way they are now, it just won't happen.

enlightenment · Accepted Answer

you should've told him that if he asks for it he will never get it...he has to take it...but now, sorry girl.  I think you should make the first move now.  Just kiss him!  Let the rest happen.  But if you are just friends, why do you want to blow him?  are you trying to win him over?

Loyaly_Ignored · Answer

... You refuse to give him one when he asks, but you will not initiate... sounds like it will never happen.

Gregs · Answer

no p**** on the side?

Cartiphilus · Answer

Wow, when I was in that age range there were many friends that were girls that I would have loved it if they gave me at least a bj or better yet spread their legs for me.