He dumped me after bad sex and I still want him back?

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We are classmates come from 2 countries and join the same department in university in a third country. He is American and I'm an Asian girlWe had been dating for 2 months and we were official with our relationship. All our classmates and friends knew that we were together. He did care a lot about my life, my day, my family and even some stuff of my close friends. We enjoyed spending time together, sometimes we could not hang out, we would talk on Skype until the 3 or 4AM, shared all things. I used to think that we were not only a couple but also good friends. He made me trust him totally. I came over his house sometimes to play game, drank something and talked but we did not have sex.Some weeks ago, we spent a Saturday night together with having dinner with classmates, went to a lounge with cocktail, played game and ended up having sex that night. We were a little drunk at that time. That was the first time I had sex, even I'm a 24 year old girl. I was crying...I was so nervous at that time and so on, maybe because I'm an Asian girl. In the next day, he still seemed happy with me; we spent time to go out having lunch, and watched a movie on a couch. Then, he wanted to have sex again, but I was not confident to have sex in light of day, I was so shy, I acted like a kid, and seemed very uncomfortable. He stopped, and also felt so uncomfortable with my reaction. He took me back home, and said that we would talk on Skype tonight, and still hugged meHowever, since that time, he was reluctant to talk to me, I was so worried, and I asked him. He said that he felt guilty like he forced me or pressured me to do something I did not want to. And I acted like a very little young girl, so shy and awkward for a long time. He said that maybe we should take time to have sex again.After that, I felt he didn't want to spend time with me..I kept asking, I felt everything changed after I took a big step with him. He said that he could not control his feelings; maybe we should wait and see for a while. I did a very big mistake after that. I lost my virginity for him, and I'm an Asian, I was so depressed. I drank a lot, got drunk, and I called him (so stupid :((  ), he worried at that time, called me many times but I didn't answer. He called me until 6AM, when I got home, he was very upset and he wanted to end our relationship afterwardI think I did some stupid things which made him far away from me. Some first days, he said that he just felt uncomfortable because I looked very uncomfortable. Maybe we should not have done of that big step. And I kept asking, kept saying that I felt he was changing right after our first sexNow, we broke up, and I still to see him because we go to the same school. It seems he tried to avoid my eyes...I don't think he is a bad guy, I don't want to think I was used. I really want to get him back, what should I do after I did a lot of mistakes like that? He said that he doesn't want to make me become a more mature person right now

oasis · Accepted Answer

*hug* forget what he saids. you your self must become mature for your self.. take a deep breath and move on..it will be hard..but it happens.. I understand that sex is can affect someone a lot..when its their first time.. and I am sorry it play out this way..but don't make your self feel bad.. just taek a deep breath..and move on..

from now on..be more easy on your self..and find out how you want to do things.. but over all just take it easy..as much of this might feel hard..its not..you really need to tough it up and move on.. you will learn from it. what to do and what not to do. and next time you date..just take it easy..

justaskin8888 · Accepted Answer

just move on...you need someone who actually gives a damn whether you're enjoying sex or not; or cares about your feelings.   I'm sure he's not a bad guy... but, he's not the best either.  I'm sorry this happened to you.  Now you can make better decisions in the future.

darlanoy0510 · Accepted Answer

Sex is important in the relationship but it shouldn't be the cause to break up your relationship. If so mean he didn't care for you except himself.  Move on please.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Guess not much you can do right now as it seems he has decided to move on

Jaybabe77 · Answer

I agree with the other girls that answered, maybe you should move on, and not try to wait it out to get better because you may be waiting forever.  I'm positive you can find someone that is worth it and feels  the same way for you 100% :))