How many people have you slept with?

[erburns]

So I recently started seeing this guy, and the other night we were laying in bed talking and somehow the question of how many people we've had sex with came up. He told me his number, then asked mine. I was completely taken back, and didn't want to answer seeing as my number is decently larger than his. I ended up somehow changing the subject and he let it go. I've never been aked that before so early in a relationship, and honestly don't feel quite comfortable answering yet for fear of him jumping to conclusions, i.e. me being some sort of whore. I am not so much ashamed by my number because I am almost 21 and I go away to college and hey I've made some mistakes. My question for you guys is what do you think is an acceptable number for our age group 18-24? Are you comfortable telling people your number when asked?

[YellowSidewalkChalk]

wow these answers are really pathetic. calling women sluts is nothing but narrow minded people trying to label a woman negatively for embracing her sexuality. I love sex. I wouldn't lie about my number to a guy even it it was 100 men. you get what you see and if you are some narrow minded, conservative, judgmental prick then we can just stop playing games before things even get serious. like people said, views on sex matter to me and the last thing I want is someone who thinks that something as natural as sex is a negative or something to be ashamed of.

i think you should be more confident in yourself with this and less concerned about this. I'm not saying you have to tell him, I'm saying that I would. do you really want a guy who will judge you on your sexual experiences? and I think its fair to tell him since he told you.

i know it is hard to find open minded people depending on where you come from, but I honestly think that being with a guy who won't judge you on your sexual experience feels so much more liberating and great than dating a guy who you feel you have to maintain a level of innocence for. you'll feel like you are home with him in a way, that something like sex in the past (whether you regret it or not) doesn't define who you are and that your worth is more than how many guys you sleep with. your value is in the person that you are, your way of treating people, especially him, your goals, etc. those are the types of guys you want to find.

the guys who say they would sleep with a promiscuous girl but not date her make no sense. they are assholes. unfortunately a lot of guys are like this. sheep in the herd syndrome, nobody thinks for themselves these days. if society says a girl is a slut by certain standards, then hey she must be a slut. its ridiculous.

you are not a whore honey. you are not trash, you are not a skank, slut, ho, etc. remember that aside from actually being a paid whore/prostitute, these are just labels that have been created throughout history to make women feel bad about sex. simple as that really. don't let it bother you. the people calling you these things are not the people you want to surround yourself with. at least that's my opinion. I don't know maybe you disagree.

I mean I think honesty is the best policy because if he somehow found out one day he might resent you for keeping it from him. who knows he might be okay with it. I do know that a lot of people wouldn't be though.

good luck sweetie!

[jacquesvol]

I like your answer

[cun7n1nja]

I don't think there IS an acceptable number. Or rather, an unacceptable one. If you're being safe and not hurting anyone in the process [i.e. cheating, contributing to cheating, general scandalous behavior, etc.] then who cares? I'm twenty, and I've been with seven people. I'll tell anyone that if they ask. I see no reason to lie or hide that number from anyone because I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. I take proper precautions against pregnancy and STDs, I get tested regularly, I don't sleep with anyone's boyfriends or anyone else otherwise 'off limits', I don't two-time anyone. I have no reason not to be honest.

I think that in a relationship, who you've been with and what you've done in the past, is in the past, and it's in the past for a reason. You've moved on. But that doesn't stop the other party from getting upset about it. However illogical it may be to get upset at you for things that happened before they were even in the picture. I think that you should be open and honest with each other in a relationship. With that in mind, I won't just throw my information out there except where it applies to sexual health, because it's irrelevant to NOW except in that regard. I have no problem discussing my number if the other person truly wants to know. I have a don't-ask-don't-tell policy. People have a bad habit of asking questions they really don't want to know the answer to. If I offer up info, I'm throwing it in their face. If they ask ME, then I'm just being honest because they wanted to know. If they don't like the answer they got, oh well. It then becomes THEIR problem, because I refuse to apologize for having a past. I live for the present. If they understand and are alright with it, then cool, we're on the same page. I just think that if you're going to ask a personal question like that, you should consider whether you can handle the answer or not, before you ask.

[ribbonsandlace]

I'm comfortable telling people my number, but I spent a long part of my youth being ashamed that I hadn't slept with more. So silly, and I'm glad I've grown up in that regard. I think because when I was younger, my friends were all quite sexually experienced. I never lied about my number, but I didn't feel comfortable talking about it.

I'm 24 and I've slept with three guys. I'm happy with that number, and I'm glad that I never compromised my morals just to fit in with the crowd like some people I know. Having said that, I honestly do not judge other people for how many they've slept with. Whether it's 5, 10, 100 people - it's a subjective thing and everyone's threshold is going to be different.

I don't think that you can really quantify an acceptable number. Like, you can't really say "Okay, 10 is the acceptable number for people aged up to 24. Once you pass 10, you are officially promiscuous." If you meet someone who finds the number of guys you've slept with unacceptable, they probably have a different sexual mentality to you.

I know a girl who lies about how many guys she has slept with. Told her boyfriend she'd slept with 2 people, which he was okay with... when she mentioned later that it was five, he freaked out. If only he knew that her REAL number was over 150. The problem that I see there is not the actual number (even though I personally could never sleep with that many people in my entire LIFE), but rather her attitude towards it. Clearly it's something she is ashamed of, so what she has done is put herself in that position where she feels like she is required to lie about her past. Not so cool.

I think an acceptable number is however many you feel comfortable sleeping with. Own it, it's your body, your life, make your choices and get behind them and don't let anybody shame you out of it!

[Bizzaro_Elmo]

18 to 24 you BETTER say any number between one and six. If you don't then be prepared for the consequences. At least with that number he can assume high school factors in there somewhere. But if you number is in the latter teens then there's no way doubt can salvage your reputation. You won't be meeting mom anytime soon, if ever.

The thing is no guy (unless he's an avid Porn Theater attendee) wants to know how big a slut his girl has been. I haven't asked my girl because I don't want to start asking MYSELF questions:

"That many huh? Well then what the hell makes me so special? How do I rate against ALL those other guys? DO I rate at all? Am I just another 'd***-in-passing?' Or am I just the easiest sucker she's found so far?"

I don't care who you are, you want to be special to the person you're with (if the two of you have been together more than 3 months) and I think this is a very "loaded" question to bring up in a relationship. Not before the Ring and definitely not after. Some might not care after because the life together has been built and past boyfriends are past boyfriends, but others can easily let this question destroy what took so long to build.

Think about it before you decide to answer with the truth. That goes for guys and gals both.

[Marrryyyyy]

Lol..why at least 1?

[Bizzaro_Elmo]

Well, at least one because no dude will believe a chick hasn't had any d*ck. Even if it's true and she's an actual virgin, it will still be hard to believe. So avoid the same suspicion and add in that one just to placate him and skip the jaded bullsh*t views. ( like mine. lol )

[Anonymous]

I'm 24 and I've been with two, all I'm going to say on the subject. It's not that big of a surprise that either partner ask a question like how many people have you had sex with. People wan't to be confident especially guys, allot of guys want a higher number than the girl since they feel they are competing with that many less X lovers for the title of best lover, and with a higher number for themselves, then the depending on the guy they might think well I have more experience under my belt or something along those lines. Some people are just incredibly passionate about sex. I knew one girl who by senior year of high school she had sex with well over 400 guys, I'm curving it low because I'm not sure about the true count though I'm pretty sure it was closer to the high 500s. She even says sometimes she wakes up in a car driving home with a total stranger whom she remembers nothing about, now that's a real issue I wouldn't even say slut, that's a girl with some serious problems. Numbers are just BS that some people think matter, all that matters is you're happy with the person you're with now, and you can't regret every stupid mistake you make, you live you learn, and move on lol.

[thetheme]

No matter what you say as an answer it will be too much for him. It is best not to bring up the past. Just be glad that you are with each other now, that's all that matters... Plus you are never going to know EVERYTHING about a persons past sex life. Questions like that just starts drama and negativity. Sex is not a "mistake" or an "accident".

[baffledlady]

i have also dealt with this before. I always feel really uncomfortable saying what my number is because its usually a lot higher than whoever I happen to be with. a friend of mine takes extreme pride in being a one hand gal (5 or less) while other girlfriends think that any single digit is acceptable. for guys I guess most people would say anywhere between 2-30 is acceptable for someone our age but for girls most people think that 2-15 is more than enough. since I definitely fall over the 15 mark, I would hate to be for someone I would be seeing to think of me as some sort of slut and so I prob would not tell them...

[bigred7667]

I don't know a single guy who thinks that 16 acceptable for a 21 year old(guy or girl)....but who knows maybe we just crazy

[baffledlady]

Im being really generous with the numbers here lol. most pple feel that 1-10 for anyone is good but for a college teen...i skewed the numbers lol....especially because that way it works in my favor lol

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

Why do some guys feel the need to ask that question?...

anyway I ain't saying my number.. :)

[LEWnB]

Wow, reading some of these men's answers are interesting and makes me feel a little weird for my promiscuity. But am 20 and I've been with "X" number of men. I can say it's a quite a few. I don't feel like a whore, and I don't feel like a slut. I just really really like sex. So, as long as you're careful about it I don't think a number should matter. There's a reason it's in your past. =] My boyfriend doesn't care about how many men I've been with, he's been with a quite a few women himself, as long as he's the only one I'm with now and vice versa. Some will care, some won't. Honesty is a big part of a relationship and I saw no reason to lie to my boyfriend, and he with me. =] =] =]

[vmw2008]

Well I'm a virgin. But I get very mad at most guys who have a ridiculous double standard. Guys are "the man" if they've had a lot of sex. And girls are "sluts." They push and push girls to sleep with them, get p*ssed when they don't put out, but then they're sluts. I've remained a virgin because of my own standards for myself, but most of my friends love sex. And I think men need to lose the double standard. They complain that women don't love sex enough, but we're punished if we do? Considered undateable? It's terrible.

[nobleziba]

We agree on this.

[josei]

I don't think the number should be too important. If you're worried about it, you could explain to him that you've made some mistakes, but that's only if you actually wish your number was lower. I believe you should never lie in a relationship. I've never liked that question, despite only having slept with three people at 22. I have friends older than me that haven't been with anyone, and when they heard that number they were a little surprised, they thought it was fairly high considering I haven't been in a relationship for the past 3 years they've known me. But there are other people my age that have had sex with way more people and would say, wow just three?

Numbers don't necessarily mean anything. Say someone lost her virginity two weeks ago and has already slept with 5 people? That means about every three days she's gone out and met someone new. Or maybe she doubled up one day. That is totally different than a girl that lost her virginity at 16 and has been in 5 relationships since then. Your number could be really high, because you had sex a lot one year before settling down and deciding to just have sex with someone you have a relationship with. I don't think that should reflect badly on a person, just used as an indicator for what they're looking for when they have sex with someone.

[aly-marie]

It would be really hard for me to pinpoint an acceptable number, especially because if I really love someone, I'm not going to judge them if they seem to have a high number.

I'm 18 and I've only slept with 2 people, but that's because I'm really reserved and it takes a lot of time and effort to get me to open up. Plus, intimacy is very important to me, and I like it to be special; higher numbers of partners make it harder for me to believe that someone has a true connection with me.

But I understand that people have lots of different views. The last guy I was with had lost count of his number, but he had given up a lot for me and spent so much time on me that it didn't really matter; I knew I was really special to him, so I didn't judge him for it.

Generally I just don't think it should be something to judge someone by. You can ask someone out of curiosity, but like other people said, just make sure you're ready for any response you might get.

[dollme777]

10

[Twitch33]

I am 21, and have slept with...5 guys before I slept with my husband (before we were married) he lost his virginity to me, so I think that if you just be honest with him...if he doesn't like it, and makes a big deal about it, he isn't understanding enough to let it go, then you deserve better. It is also important that you make sure he knows that the people you have slept with weren't one night stands, and if they were...just let him know the situation...

[dreamtime]

i'm 23, I've slept with more women then the years I've lived.

Girls are more sensitive on the subject if they've slept with more then then just boyfriends as they'll assume they'll get called or looked at as if she's a slut, most guys just think she likes to have fun in reality(not counting religious nutjobs).

[Shaun]

Wrong.

[xBlossomx]

Zero, but I think I will sleep with my fiancé, whenever the time is right. I mean, why rush?

[AnaAmira]

Well... How many have you slept with?

He should have asked you before he had sex with you. It is an important question, and frankly, not asked enough.

Honey, don't make excuses for your promiscuity. The more you open your legs to random guys, the more your value decreases. I am saying this to you, not to be harsh, but to try to get you to wake up. I sure hope you are having protected sex.

Word of advice... Men want sex. That is pretty much all they are seeking from you as a girl (college girl). To weed out the players, hold out on the put out. If they lose interest quickly, then you know what they were after. They are not going to put a lot of effort into winning you if all they want is sex. You are 21, not 40. Your number should be VERY low. Girls these days are so naive. Get some self respect, then find a guy that will respect you and your body.

[Desires]

You're awesome

[AnaAmira]

Thank you.

[Samii00]

Value decreases?Didn't know it made anyone any less than a human

[AnaAmira]

Yes, value decreases. Good men do not want to marry a woman that has been sleeping around. One, it shows that she does not have any self-respect. Two, it shows she does not have any self-control. Three, higher risk of contracting an STD. Four, he would be constantly wondering if she can be trusted. The list goes on... YES! Value decreases. Sex is not a recreational sport, ladies. It is something that you share with a person you love.

[chiefnavarro]

I can agree on the value thing. its just there are so many people in the world why settle for somebody that's had sex with a lot of people. ill always resent it and it would be a problem for ever. especially if she makes you work for it but she gave it up to twenty people she barely knew. that would make me feel like she doesn't like me as much as them. I'm just the good guy that's stupid enough to stay around. that being said I would value that relationship far less.

[azicr]

I'm so glad there are people with some good morals and sense of value around still--well said where is the self-respect people your body is your temple...hehe

[jacquesvol]

It's an artificial value, only used to judge women. If it was a real value it would be used for guys too.

[toulouse]

Well , actually. According to this particular poster and her groupies- YOUR body is HIS temple & his temple is your self respect. -Sounds yummy :)

[enigma2win]

The past does not matter, and you shouldnt be ashamed of having so many partners.

Ur a human being, and human beings need sex to survive, its a biological need.

As a dating coach and I'm also only 22, I've slept with a lot of women, and I am unapologetic for it.

So, don't worry about people judging you, if you know who you are and what ur values are, that's all that counts.

[minnie12]

In which decade? the 80s are pretty much a blur haha

[r_slizzle]

I have no problem telling someone my number, depending who it is of course. I do have a problem sharing my sexual history with the world, so I will not be including my number here.

If people want to judge me based on how many people I've slept with they're free to do so because I know what's true and what isn't. I really think number alone can't tell you much.

[kalg8]

My experience is that the number isn't a question you really have to answer. Ask him another question... why does he want to know? What will he gain from your answer? The answer to that is probably nothing significant. Questions you should answer: have you been tested? Have you slept with anyone with an STI? Those are the kinds of questions that he should be worried about. Your number is your business!

[jacquesvol]

Indeed

[WhatIHaveToSay]

i always tell people to think before they do something because if they're not careful it will come back and bite them in the ass, it's a natural law of life.

where are all those people you slept with now? do they still mean something to you? does the sex you had with all those people? chances are the answer is no. why did you do it then?

then you have to hide it when the time came, as in many people's (mostly women) cases. one thing's for sure, nobody ever hides/lies about anything they're not ashamed of.

learn your lesson.

[spike241]

Mine's 3 but 2 of those I regret. It shouldn't be really high but I'm realistic. I have a 19 friend who had slept with more than 20 people by the time she was 17 and I'm sure some people have slept with a lot more than that

[HumphreyT]

The number you have is acceptable. Be honest with him. By asking what we think is an acceptable number I get he feeling you are going to try to adjust yours when the truth is everyone is different.

As a man I think we should go ahead and accept your number will usually be larger than ours it's not like getting sex is a challenge for a girl.

I've never been with a woman that had less than me.

If he can't accept your number then he is focused on the wrong things. If you aren't comfortable tell him you will tell him later, but as a guy we generally think that means a lot and that you want us to get more attached before you tell us.

For better or worse be honest when you get ready to tell him.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

I'm 17, still a virgin, and proud of it. I don't wanna waste my virginity on someone. So I would be perfectly fine sharing my number with someone. =)

[dreamishobby]

Love ya!

[clovisx]

I've been with 1, since I was 19 years old. I don't think you are slutty or whorish, some people just have gotten more experience. Use that to your advantage and accept it, it's your history and you shouldn't be ashamed of it.

[cichupp]

I am 21 and have slept with 10 ppl... I don't see a problem with having sex. I think guys are

So judgemently. They can have several but us as women are sluts 4 having fun...

[royalwalter3]

do you mean 16 different guys? if so I'm sorry but that's just nasty I wouldn't take a second look at a girl that has had sex with that many guys that's just gross

[HopeIessRomantik]

I think an acceptable number for me is up to 0-5 guys and girls. I don't know, IMO, a higher number means bad. To me, It means they had a ton of relationships that didn't last long -- shows the quality of the personality possibly in a relationship, and also the 'easiness' of the person to get in their pants, and it raises the question if all of their partners were even romantic ones or just one night stands.. and once again, a reflection of the individual in question... sorry, again this is just my opinion..

[Karthathan]

Life is an experience and I have never judged any girl I have been with about her past, in fact I have found that I really don't want to know and have stopped asking that question all together. If she asks I will tell her.

[Phoenix1991]

My number is between 10 to 15. Its not a contest, because if it was, I would never ever ever be able to beat my brothers record, he literally Lost count at the age of 18 and he's 28 now lmao.

[Julia_Dorst]

I'm almost 18 and I've slept with (including my current bf) 5 guys.

[Desires]

Slut

[Julia_Dorst]

Thank you, Well I'm from holland, and sex is way more open over here. And my current boyfriend is now my exbf...

[jbowy4]

Woah don't you think that's a bit much?

[23tdmoss]

i was born in holland I might move back in that case

[Reeses-pieces777]

I prefer to be as close to zero as possible for myself-none for me. Guys will judge you by your number and some guys don't, usually the guys who don't judge you for the number, do not care. That number is set at different values by different people who grew up in different ethical upbringing or how they learnt whether a certain number is valid.

[Vyxzuw]

It's really not an issue of a number, but rather of how close it is to their number.

Just as you said you didn't want to say because it was higher than his, a guy doesn't want to hear that a girl has had a lot more than them. (Being higher isn't a big deal, but a lot higher is.)

The reason why there being a large difference is a big deal is that it can show differing views on sex. A guy who beliefs in only having sex in long-term relationships will not like hearing about a high number. While a guy you is more casual about it probably won't care. (And those are casual but do are jerks anyways.)

However, if two people really click, and want to be together, then the number shouldn't matter.

[ArizonaRX]

If you tell us your "real" number I'll tell you mine. I bet I can shock you.

[Don_Garb]

I'm at about 100, and I just turned 53. Most people who meet me think I'm weird, and as it turns out, women who are intrigued by unusual characters are often nymphomaniacs. So I've been with a lot of women who would rather do it than talk about it.

[JustDance]

grats on 100 lays Lol.

[BrettH]

well me I'm 20 and I've slept with 2 but fooled around with many more. really me I use sex as expressing my feelings to the girl when saying I love you is not enough. the first time I lost my virginity I was 17 and that seems to be the average age for most people to have lost it. to me its not the # that you have slept with but the feelings you had when you did.

[joraz]

Funny...I got asked by my Girlfriend last week. She looked like she wished she wouldn't have asked after I told her.

Now, she brings it up in a joking manner alot. But I think it bugs her.

If the person asks they better be prepared to live with it.

When I was your age the # was 12. Now it's around 150. What can I say...I like sex!

[nom1394]

Yeah, that'd definitly bug her :')

[raabzbaby89]

3, and I lost it almost a year ago...one being a one-night stand, and 2 being FWB. I'm ready for sex with a Boyfriend right now to be quite honest. and yeah I do think that being in college everyone should be allowed some mistakes such as one-night stands cause I've been there lol

[the-82]

Who did you give your virginity to

[raabzbaby89]

A friend named yoan, why?

[MsLadyChaos]

Should this number really matter? It does bother people a bit but it should not matter. What should matter is that if your in a relationship and there is only going to be 1 number and that's with him/her. It's asking about a past that has nothing to do with the person you are with now.

Chickle Chickle <3

[MrmagOO]

About 150 -200

[kriskiss]

at your age if its more than 10 then ya kinna slutty

[FlightAuror2]

I've only slept with two people, the first was my ex, the second was someone just to see if I could even bare to get on with someone else (I hadn't really gotten over my ex...). I think the main problem that guys have with the number is that we can't change our size to suit yours...let alone I don't want to know the things she's done, how many people at once, how many pregnancy scares she's had, etc. As long as you both enjoy it, it shouldn't matter.

[Jsvrgn]

I am 17 and have been with 3 guys.. all bfs. I don't think there is an acceptable number. I think people need to be happy with themselves and what they do.

[Epiphanies]

Personally, I'm not a numbers girl but a friend of mine is 21 and is sitting at 11. My guy friends balked at that one.

I was talking to another guy yesterday and he was speaking of a girl who is 19 and slept with 7 guys in three years. He insinuated that this would be one of the major reasons she was a "slut".

[danalane]

I'm pretty comfortable, people will judge you either way, too many or not enough lol. Personally 4 since I turned 18 and I'm 19 now maybe that's too much but I think sex is good for you and as long as you trust who you're with it's healthy.

[Bruce]

I have so many notches cut in the bed post..the post is almost cut in half...not true.

You didn't make mistakes...you had sex and found later that he was not as good a choice as you could have made...it was an experience...don't call it that and feel that you did something wrong...To hell with taking blame for your sexual experiences...they are yours, nobody elses.

your memories, good or bad...no guilt ! Okay ?

Bruce

There is no 'acceptable' number...my wife told me that 30 men had screwed her before we married...so what ? She had fun

[conqueso]

I'm 22 and my number is 4. I don't like to sleep with people until I get to know them. I need to read their energy and decide if I want to let them inside of my body, and mixing with my energy. I also only sleep with people I'm exclusively dating, and I don't want my number to get past 10. Ever.

[queenb2000]

I'm gonna be 23 soon and I'm a virgin...no shame. I obviously don't have a "number" but I'm gonna be perfectly honest with you...I'm probably gonna be a little uneasy with a guy that's been with more than 5 ppl. Don't ask why, that's just how I feel. These days it's really hard to find a guy whose only slept with 5 people but meh.

[lananoel]

My number is 1 and I'm 20. I assume that the lot of people start at age 16. By age 30 it should be no more than 10 people. But I'm a sexual prude. I will have sex with my ex until another man to love comes along. LOL!

[dreamishobby]

LOL!

[dudeman]

Thats not prude that's kinda slutish

[lananoel]

A person that sleeps with the same person until they find a new relationship is NOT slutty.... As long as my ex isn't in a new relationship... IDIOT! What kind of slut has only been with 1 person...?

[dudeman]

its the nature of it, its a friends with benifits its a slutty thing to do I didn't call you a slut but you are acting like one

[lananoel]

right your still a f***ing idiot for saying so... there is nothing slutty about sleeping with ONE person... goodness open your mind You narrow minded POS!

[angiewaln]

I don't think it should matter.. some people have pasts that they aren't proud of. If you really care about someone it shouldn't matter how may people they've slept with.

[Marfan]

I'm always comfortable: 13. If we're strictly talking P in V penetration: 7. For reference, I'm 38 and the last woman I've slept with - or ever plan to - is my wife.

[oasis]

its not mistakes. it happen it happens. my friend she did the same.after we broke up. she slept with 9 other people. and I also made out with her. during break up time. lol. she told me how she wouldn't do that again about just playing around. she now foucs on main person from now on. and its not bad. it just she learn that's not what she wanted anymore play around.

as for me..just 2. lol that's it my ex she talk about that how she was like. I don't know what to do I slept with so many people. she thought I would think bad about her and I was like no . and any guy or girl you get with has a problem with that then their not worth it

[MrWizard]

Personally I've only slept with my wife.

I could see myself dating someone who had sex with a few people they were in deep relationships with, but not someone who participated in casual sex. Just not a good match with how I see sex in a relationship. Really, how many people have you been madly in love with by age 24?

[sonic241928]

I agree. The number isn't the only thing that matters; attitudes toward sex are a part of compatibility too.

[kiki_bu11]

I have only had sex with 1 guy, but that's because I don't feel comfortable having sex in a non-committed, non-loving relationship, and I've only been in one of those. I think 21 is pretty high, and approaching over the top. But as you've said, people make mistakes.

[zzach8]

ha I guess it depends on who you r... personally I don't usually care but then again I usually don't ask, anyway I know girls who have been with like 10, 20, 30 whatever

just wrap it up and ur cool, and all these guys on here that are like you have to be 5 or less or if they are giving you maximums are retarded and unrealistic, or maybe they just hate sex?!

[katiesmuff]

First of all it is not a question a guy should ask, and certainly one you should not answer even if the answer was 0. It is and never will be any of his business anymore that what he has slept with is any of your business. If it is all about STD's both of you get tested.

[curvedcock4ladies]

Well said

[l-hedoniste]

It doesn't matter, the number, and if we've had enough to lose count, we're making the number up anyway.

[lefthand]

It's kind of funny to ask "What level of corruption is ok?" At what point does having sex make you undesirable as a sexual partner?

You see the sex negative bias in that question?

The idea that the number of partners you have is more influential that the character and quality of sex you have is a little silly. People have the sexual history they do, it was necessary to make them who they are today. I don't have apriori judgments to make about that.

[honeyltsme]

I am comfortable talking about my number - I've started pretty late but boy have I made some shameful mistakes. I stand by my actions and if a girl I am with that wants to know, she deserves to know.

I would say in terms of your total number before you reach 25, an average of 2 per year is acceptable, 4 per year is pushing it. Mind you this is only my rule of thumb - if you started at 15 and was going through 4 new guys per year like the little engine that could, ending up with 40 notches on your bed post by 25, that is selfless and impressive, but it does not necessarily make me want to be number 41 unless there's something very special about you that makes us click, in which case no number would matter so long as your v@gina still works.

[bytesunfish]

If you think you telling him should wait, let it wait. You should probably tell him before you become sexually active, though. You shouldn't be ashamed of your past and shouldn't hesitate to tell him everything once you become closer, but for now that is a distant future.

Personally I've only slept with a very small number of girls. I won't give a number, but it's less than a half dozen. I have however shared a bed (for sleeping purposes) with several more. Sex means many things to many people. To me it's only between two people who truly love each other, but I'm kinda an oddball.

[Cartiphilus]

Please do not be ashamed of the number of guys you've 'known'. My first girlfriend had already 15 past lovers before me and she was only 19. Every single girl with whom I've had carnal knowledge has had far more lovers than me. Each one of them have taught me something new behind closed doors. To answer your question I have truly lost count but it's at least 25.

[mandi92]

i am just like you, if the question is asked and their number is lower than mine I don't feel comfortable telling them expecially when its early in a relationship, I am also scared of them thinking that I am some kind of slut but yes I've had some drunk nights and made a couple mistakes there's nothing we can do about it now but yes I feel that they shoudl wait to ask that question so they can get to know you more so that when you do tell them you know they won't judge you because they then know what kind of person you are, not a slut or whore or anything along those lines. I personally have slept wiht 3 guys but my two closest girl friends have slept wiht 5 or 6 so I think anywhere between 1 and 7 is fine but I'm not saying more is bad but that's just more of an average for our age.

[NiceChest]

2 or 3

[mhairix]

One