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How many people have you slept with?
erburns Xper 4
So I recently started seeing this guy, and the other night we were laying in bed talking and somehow the question of how many people we've had sex with came up. He told me his number, then asked mine. I was completely taken back, and didn't want to answer seeing as my number is decently larger than his. I ended up somehow changing the subject and he let it go. I've never been aked that before so early in a relationship, and honestly don't feel quite comfortable answering yet for fear of him jumping to conclusions, i.e. me being some sort of whore. I am not so much ashamed by my number because I am almost 21 and I go away to college and hey I've made some mistakes. My question for you guys is what do you think is an acceptable number for our age group 18-24? Are you comfortable telling people your number when asked?
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What Girls & Guys Said
69 110I'm pretty comfortable, people will judge you either way, too many or not enough lol. Personally 4 since I turned 18 and I'm 19 now maybe that's too much but I think sex is good for you and as long as you trust who you're with it's healthy.
I have so many notches cut in the bed post..the post is almost cut in half...not true.
You didn't make mistakes...you had sex and found later that he was not as good a choice as you could have made...it was an experience...don't call it that and feel that you did something wrong...To hell with taking blame for your sexual experiences...they are yours, nobody elses.
your memories, good or bad...no guilt ! Okay ?
Bruce
There is no 'acceptable' number...my wife told me that 30 men had screwed her before we married...so what ? She had fun
I'm 22 and my number is 4. I don't like to sleep with people until I get to know them. I need to read their energy and decide if I want to let them inside of my body, and mixing with my energy. I also only sleep with people I'm exclusively dating, and I don't want my number to get past 10. Ever.
I'm gonna be 23 soon and I'm a virgin...no shame. I obviously don't have a "number" but I'm gonna be perfectly honest with you...I'm probably gonna be a little uneasy with a guy that's been with more than 5 ppl. Don't ask why, that's just how I feel. These days it's really hard to find a guy whose only slept with 5 people but meh.
My number is 1 and I'm 20. I assume that the lot of people start at age 16. By age 30 it should be no more than 10 people. But I'm a sexual prude. I will have sex with my ex until another man to love comes along. LOL!
LOL!
Thats not prude that's kinda slutish
A person that sleeps with the same person until they find a new relationship is NOT slutty.... As long as my ex isn't in a new relationship... IDIOT! What kind of slut has only been with 1 person...?
its the nature of it, its a friends with benifits its a slutty thing to do I didn't call you a slut but you are acting like one
right your still a f***ing idiot for saying so... there is nothing slutty about sleeping with ONE person... goodness open your mind You narrow minded POS!
I don't think it should matter.. some people have pasts that they aren't proud of. If you really care about someone it shouldn't matter how may people they've slept with.
I'm always comfortable: 13. If we're strictly talking P in V penetration: 7. For reference, I'm 38 and the last woman I've slept with - or ever plan to - is my wife.
First of all it is not a question a guy should ask, and certainly one you should not answer even if the answer was 0. It is and never will be any of his business anymore that what he has slept with is any of your business. If it is all about STD's both of you get tested.
Well said
its not mistakes. it happen it happens. my friend she did the same.after we broke up. she slept with 9 other people. and I also made out with her. during break up time. lol. she told me how she wouldn't do that again about just playing around. she now foucs on main person from now on. and its not bad. it just she learn that's not what she wanted anymore play around.
as for me..just 2. lol that's it my ex she talk about that how she was like. I don't know what to do I slept with so many people. she thought I would think bad about her and I was like no . and any guy or girl you get with has a problem with that then their not worth it
Personally I've only slept with my wife.
I could see myself dating someone who had sex with a few people they were in deep relationships with, but not someone who participated in casual sex. Just not a good match with how I see sex in a relationship. Really, how many people have you been madly in love with by age 24?
I agree. The number isn't the only thing that matters; attitudes toward sex are a part of compatibility too.
I have only had sex with 1 guy, but that's because I don't feel comfortable having sex in a non-committed, non-loving relationship, and I've only been in one of those. I think 21 is pretty high, and approaching over the top. But as you've said, people make mistakes.
ha I guess it depends on who you r... personally I don't usually care but then again I usually don't ask, anyway I know girls who have been with like 10, 20, 30 whatever
just wrap it up and ur cool, and all these guys on here that are like you have to be 5 or less or if they are giving you maximums are retarded and unrealistic, or maybe they just hate sex?!
It doesn't matter, the number, and if we've had enough to lose count, we're making the number up anyway.
It's kind of funny to ask "What level of corruption is ok?" At what point does having sex make you undesirable as a sexual partner?
You see the sex negative bias in that question?
The idea that the number of partners you have is more influential that the character and quality of sex you have is a little silly. People have the sexual history they do, it was necessary to make them who they are today. I don't have apriori judgments to make about that.
I am comfortable talking about my number - I've started pretty late but boy have I made some shameful mistakes. I stand by my actions and if a girl I am with that wants to know, she deserves to know.
I would say in terms of your total number before you reach 25, an average of 2 per year is acceptable, 4 per year is pushing it. Mind you this is only my rule of thumb - if you started at 15 and was going through 4 new guys per year like the little engine that could, ending up with 40 notches on your bed post by 25, that is selfless and impressive, but it does not necessarily make me want to be number 41 unless there's something very special about you that makes us click, in which case no number would matter so long as your v@gina still works.
If you think you telling him should wait, let it wait. You should probably tell him before you become sexually active, though. You shouldn't be ashamed of your past and shouldn't hesitate to tell him everything once you become closer, but for now that is a distant future.
Personally I've only slept with a very small number of girls. I won't give a number, but it's less than a half dozen. I have however shared a bed (for sleeping purposes) with several more. Sex means many things to many people. To me it's only between two people who truly love each other, but I'm kinda an oddball.
Please do not be ashamed of the number of guys you've 'known'. My first girlfriend had already 15 past lovers before me and she was only 19. Every single girl with whom I've had carnal knowledge has had far more lovers than me. Each one of them have taught me something new behind closed doors. To answer your question I have truly lost count but it's at least 25.
i am just like you, if the question is asked and their number is lower than mine I don't feel comfortable telling them expecially when its early in a relationship, I am also scared of them thinking that I am some kind of slut but yes I've had some drunk nights and made a couple mistakes there's nothing we can do about it now but yes I feel that they shoudl wait to ask that question so they can get to know you more so that when you do tell them you know they won't judge you because they then know what kind of person you are, not a slut or whore or anything along those lines. I personally have slept wiht 3 guys but my two closest girl friends have slept wiht 5 or 6 so I think anywhere between 1 and 7 is fine but I'm not saying more is bad but that's just more of an average for our age.
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