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How many people have you slept with?
erburns Xper 4
So I recently started seeing this guy, and the other night we were laying in bed talking and somehow the question of how many people we've had sex with came up. He told me his number, then asked mine. I was completely taken back, and didn't want to answer seeing as my number is decently larger than his. I ended up somehow changing the subject and he let it go. I've never been aked that before so early in a relationship, and honestly don't feel quite comfortable answering yet for fear of him jumping to conclusions, i.e. me being some sort of whore. I am not so much ashamed by my number because I am almost 21 and I go away to college and hey I've made some mistakes. My question for you guys is what do you think is an acceptable number for our age group 18-24? Are you comfortable telling people your number when asked?
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What Girls & Guys Said
69 110My wife's partner number is larger than my own. It actually turns me on because I think of all the practice she got that makes her the best I've ever had. She says the same about me. To some guys the number doesn't matter, to others it does. The ideal number does not exist. What is his ideal number? If he is insecure, lie about it and make up a number a little higher or a little lower than his. Don't make it too far off, and remember that number... it may come up again if you stay with him.
Sometimes it's okay to lie. Also, guys tend to exaggerate... upward.
Okay I'll bite.
Let's count.. S, A, N. Okay, I'm 25 and I've penetrated 3 women and slept with them. Kissed and made out with 2. So that might make 5...
But lets go with 3.
Erm I am reluctant to disclose it, because then other guys generally think I'm pathetic and then we'll fight.
But I think it's the quality that matters. 1st was AMAZING! She was superb. 2nd was alright. 3rd was the best so far because we connected. More to come =)
ive been with 8.
Whoah you hoe
Im not a hoe..really
I think you need to read AnaAmira's comment
Naw I'm not going to because people have different opinions and different outlooks on things most people that know me know that I'm not a whore
Your only a hoe if you went from guy to guy and there was nothing there like all were friends with benefits or 1 nighters, how many were actual relationships
I didn't just go from guy to guy in a short period of time. None were ever actually real relationships. But personally I know I'm not a hoe and that's all that counts.
One, my current girlfriend.
I don't think there's a specific number I approve of. I think it's more of an issue with responsibility. A girl who is sexually open, safe, and fully aware of her sexual exploits is fine. A girl who has her drunken nights of having sex with whatever has (or doesn't have, your choice) a penis is not fine. A girl who desperately wants to have sex with whomever she can to feel needed/beautiful/accepted/whatever is not fine.
If a girl was safe and responsible with her sex life, I wouldn't have a problem with it. However, if her number was high enough (probably 10+), I might ask her to have an STD test just for my safety. I don't think that's an unreasonable expectation.
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so tell us how many erburns...
I think lowball average is around 15-20 for women and 05-15 for men (yes its a fact that girls sleep with way more partners than guys if you really think about it since guys have to put in more work).
And of course there will always be those who are very experienced for men and women and those who aren't as experienced, or should I say fortunate enough
all the guys I know get with WAYYY more sex than the women. I think more men try harder to get laid, and they try more often. their standards seem to be lower as well. women tend to take sex more seriously, and don't have very many one-night stands as men, thus their numbers tend to be lower. unless they have a male mentality, and just get with anyone for the hell of it. but majority of girls aren't like that.
ha college is the deal breaker... I'm not even in college yet gotta finish two more years I can make it... but I've already been laid at college (I visit georgia tech Agnes scott ect.) you should not be ashamed at the number of people you've slept with and it does seem really creeper that he asked that. and don't listen to these people online the more youve had the better lookin you typically are, but don't just lay people for the fun of it that's a guys job =P
lol my number is pretty low so I don't care if I get asked.
Ideally id want to be with someone with a low number. Girls with high numbers just turn me off for whatever reason.Especially if the number went way up given a couple years at college...big big turn off
Yeah there's some notorious whores in college no surprise
i am in my 30's and it's 7, pity me. huh. sometimes I would like it to be more, but I am not proactive a bout getting some and I really don't want to catch something.
Well if I were the one who asked I wouldn't really have an acceptable number in my mind. people are different. and if someone asks then they should be able to handle it; either way if I asked and the number was high id be satisfied that at least I didn't get lied to. its better to avoid like you did than lie, lies in the beginning are relationship killers.
i only did it with one person. had plenty of chance for hookups but that's nasty
I can count the number of people on been with on my fingers.
ohhh and tip to the people who say, " they didn't count cause we wore a condom" it does make you a whore, guy or girl.
Some people say that it doesn't count because they wore a condom? That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Thank god they are using condoms because we don't need them passing on their moron genes to the next generation.
i need to learn how to spell. wow.
what's your number?
Yes, tell us so we may judge.
16.
You beat me and all of my friends. tbh, I say "congrats!"
It is up to you, because no matter what there will always be someone who will have a negative opinion of you no matter what your number. If you think you have made some mistakes in the past the best thing to do is to learn from them.
2 so far... getting more
Just 4.
An honest man..........thank ou Can you believe mr. lover boy/ladies man..........is 26 and doesn't have an " exact count" but "somewhere around 20" some of his outgoing friends have 40 or 50.......There are those that DO and those that TALK ABOUT what they dream about.
Slept with? I'd say any were 5 and lower number of guys...sry :S
Personally It doesn't matter what a girl did or didn't do when she was not with me,what I care about is that she is with me now and that's what matters.I am not saying that I would not listen to her talk about her pass because I love to listen to a girl talk about that and I would not judge her.If she said 10 guys I would say OK and if she said 20 plus I would giggle and look at her hold her cheeks and kiss her and tell her how much I adore her and how proud I am of her for not being ashamed to tell me.If it feels like a problem for her we are all imperfect creatures and I would not think anything of it.If A girl asked me how many relationships I've been in I would say,I've been in relationships but none worth holding on to.So maybe this answer,you could apply it to the sleep with question.
Thank you! I wish more people could think like you (not just in the boyfriend girlfriend situation either) :)
Very mature and well said. I wish I could feel that way too... But I can't imagine having sucked 20+ d***s in my life at age 30. I'd jump off a friggen cliff. But you've given me something to consider when I frown at these girls choices..
- ALKILJOSEPH Beautifully said :)
i think kussmaulk is rigghttt,
its the number you feel comfortable with.
I've been asked and I don't really care when people ask
daaaaaaaamnn
okay I thought I'd never say this to any1 on this site but...wassup ^^