I can't stop having sex with my ex.

Question

i still have sex with my ex even though he treated me badly but the sex is so good I can't stop. help

Professor_Zoom · Accepted Answer

So the sex is so good that you'll continue to be around someone who treated you badly? I know a lot of women who do this. They're with a man who treats them like crap, has no respect for them, plays them out on a daily basis, but they stick around because the man f**ks the s**t out of them. Don't let the d**k make you sick. You can't find someone else who knows how to get down? Someone who's not going to treat you bad? Because you know you're not helping in the respect department as far as your ex is concerned. Let me tell you what he's saying to his friends, "FRIEND 1: Man you're crazy. If you keep playing your girl like that she's going to leave you. YOUR EX: And? So what if I p*ss her off. As long as I keep hitting it right, she'll keep texting me and knocking on my door every night. FRIEND 2: See that's why girls are stupid. As long as the sex is good you can treat them anyway you want. That's why I don't respect them. YOUR EX: Man, I forgot all about her b-day one time, didn't even get her a gift. I didn't give s**t. I still tapped that ass that night though

Trust me, that is what the are saying. Believe it. It's not worth it. Stop having sex with him and find some other guy.

fluff-face · Accepted Answer

Buy some toys and develop some will-power. Or find a rebound and develop some will-power. (Or buy a rebound and develop some will-power?)

either way, you can find things that might help, but they're all useless if you've got no self control, and there's nothing anyone can do about that except you.

kcm_05 · Accepted Answer

I had this same problem with someone I had been seeing. he never treated me poorly we just had different goals in life. the sex was sO amazing though. it was like this crazy sick addiction. then one day I woke up and asked myself what the hell I was doing... like I was never going to get a REAL relationship or anything more than sex out of this guy. we spent one morning together and he taught me how to make musky lures and I never went back after that because I was falling for him and knew at that point I needed to detach myself from him. I'm sorry that your ex treated you badly, and I'm sorry that the sex is so good.. just know that you are better than being treated like crap and sticking around... no one deserves that. take his number out of you phone.. don't answer the door if he drops in... just don't be a a part of his life anymore! It's hard to do.. but once you do you will feel so much better about yourself and you will find a guy who can lay some pipe without hurting your feelings in the process.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. You can either simply stop the sex until he starts treating you how you should be treated. Don't give him any unless he's treating you with respect. By continuing to do so, you're really enabling him and allowing him to believe that what he is doing is fine and dandy. Don't ever let a guy take advantage of you. If you continue the sex, that is exactly what your doing.

Or 2. Just lose all emotionally attachment to him whatsoever. Don't see him as a potential life mate or even a passing boyfriend. See him as what he is, a bootycall (like one of the guys said) and do exactly to him what he is doing to you. He's using you for sex, use him for the same reason too.

abra_b · Accepted Answer

Women release "bonding hormones" during sex, especially during orgasm.  This makes her feel connected to her partner even when there isn't a good bond.  So, you're kind of like an addict.  You might crave something, but when your head knows its a bad move, you've gotta go with your  brain.  You're being manipulated by your own chemicals -- rise above the impulse so this guy doesn't have power over you.  Buy a vibrator or something, don't contact him anymore, exercise self-control -- you'll feel really proud of yourself.  Then, once you've broken his hold, get back out into the dating scene and find a GOOD guy who brings the great sex.

s3tupMayne · Answer

You just need to find someone else who can f*** you better than he can.  Plain and simple.

shazzababy · Answer

You should really stop. Because by having sex with him you are still connecting with him. and by having sex with him you are validating to him that he can treat you like sh*t and still get what he wants. If you stop sexing him, then he will click that he cannot treat women sh*ttily and still get laid. You CAN survive without sex. And your emotional stability is more important anyway.

lorahayes · Answer

just say to yourself- he's a d*ck who treated you badly, he doesn't deserve sex from you! I'm sure you'd be able to find sex somewhere else... so don't give into him! he's benefiting from it too and you shouldn't be giving him that. be strong! :)

Starling · Answer

You know I'm sure there's many people who would tell you cracks really good too, doesn't mean it's good for them.

alialiali · Answer

Girl you need to stop. If he treated you badly you're hardly punishing him. So what if the sex is good, the sex could be better with some other hot guy you're gonna meet. Stop having sex with him and give yourself some time to move on and find someone who's just as good or even better who treats you like a princess.

lilwintergirl · Answer

here's the answer! get over it. why are you letting him use you!  all he wants is sex and who gives a flying ****! get some will power and get over it! were women, we can do anything. they have toys and shit for that, find someone else. but don't be a slut. he treated you life shit! why put up with it. its like you don't care about yourself! grow up and being independent. this is pathetic. im saying this cause i care! don't have sex with that idiot again. don't let him treat you like nothing and give your body to him! that's ridiculous. grow up!

sumina7 · Answer

In what way did he treat you bad?

Wont_Re_Veal_ · Answer

you have to stop having sex with your ex, there is a reason why ya broke up and why would you wanna go back and if he treated you badly then what's the point? stop having sex with your ex and X him out of your life.

sarahjohnston09 · Answer

You have to figure out what is more important sex or your dignity.

loyal-love · Answer

best way to get over one man is to get under another

bunny1 · Answer

there's no shame in sticking around for the sex. satisfy your needs girl

l-hedoniste · Answer

What does anyone do with someone who's a good lay but a bad partner?  Enjoy the ride, don't commit.

WeaponZero · Answer

There's nothing we can do to help.  It's all on you.  You just have to quit, like smokers have to quit that.  You need to cut him out of your life completely.  Take his number out of your phone.