I'm a big 6'3" 185lbs (not fat) 39 year old black woman, and I'm dating a 34 5"6' 132lbs Asian man. Why am I always dominant? Please HELP!!?

Whenever we have sex, I sometimes have a hard time feeling him inside me. Not only that, but he's very submissive and I always have to F**K him Amazon style.
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How can I make him more dominant? and bigger? Please help.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Question: Did he approach you or did you approach him from the beginning? Not being funny but your size probably intimidates hims, based on your measurements your a lot of woman he's not going to be able to toss you around or do much take control of the situation physically, you have to learn to be more submissive and give him the opportunity to take control. Maybe also watch some p*rn with him and show him how you want to be treated during your sex. You also may want to have him use a cock ring or something that will make him feel more girthy while inside of you. Furthermore you may want to lay flat on your stomach with you legs closed and have him enter you from behind. He's just a smaller man but you have to communicate with him and let him know what you want.

    • I approached him to initiate the relationship. The whole 'tell him' and 'show him' what you want is not appealing, but I guess I have no choice. Thanks for your input.

    • Don't feel that way, communication is very Important in a healthy relationship... You will not grow as a couple if you don't communicate! Don't make him feel bad or beat him down about it, you have to also remember that you are the one that initiated everything so don't quit now if you really like him you have to make sex enjoyable for yourself too he will learn eventually. Cause if you don't you will start looking elsewhere to be satisfied the way you want. Like I said look into the cock ring that will help a lot I'm a freak so I like experimenting with stuff! Girls love it! Your obviously a take charge kinda gal, embrace it don't look at it as a bad thing!

  • I don't know what to say maybe switch it up or something but personally I would prefer having the woman on top of me that's so I can look up at her but that's just me. It's possible that he likes looking up at you I know I would even though I'm not submissive one bit.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't be afraid to tell this man what you want. Tell him to take charge once in a while and try different positions and or oral sex. When he does engage in such acts of coitus be sure to let him know you're loving what he's doing to you, purr or moan his name. If size is a problem and you are having difficulty feelin him during penetration, try exploring the fun world of sex toys with him but, first talk to him and see how he feels about the thought of trying it with you. You both might enjoy it and it could add a note of adventurous eroticism to your experience in the bedroom together. So give a try why the hell not? If worst comes to worst there are always refunds for these sorts of things.

    • Thank you. Very Informative.

  • I was in abit of disbelief when i read this.

    There must be other ways he can please you without doing certain positions.

    • Yes, he can but I only wish that he would make love to me better.

    • Well he sounds like an average lover. Standard...

  • spike his drinks with human growth hormones. he'll be bigger than you in about 6 weeks

    • lol oh you.

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  • Just make him eat pussy to make up for his lack of size. Whatever position you do, the size difference is bound to cause problems unless you like doggy.

  • Encourage him to try other position , like he is on top , if you want to be submissive , then yo

    • He's just so timid.

  • You're too big to be a woman, instead of catching feelings you should be catching this alley oop. Put your helmet back on and get in the huddle.

    • that's not nice.

  • this can't be real