If I can't make him cum when I ride him, does that mean my pussy is bad?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been my only sex partner. I'm 18 and he is 20. He has had a lot of sex partners in the past. It makes me feel really insecure. Riding a guy I've heard is the easiest way for a guy to cum because it gives them a good view and I've heard it's supposed to feel incredible for them. But when I ride him, I cannot make him cum. I don't know if any other girl has gotten him to cum like that but I'm assuming that since he's been with so many girls that someone probably has.. we've been together for.2 years but I haven't made him cum by riding him for the whole two years. When I ask him about it, his excuse is that he is hard to make cum. And this was true in the past because he had a habit of lots of masturbation and porn, but now he doesn't. He cums fast in doggy. He used to like cumming in missionary but now he doesn't. He seems to just like doggy now and I'm beginning to believe that my pussy just isn't that good for him.. I've never made him cum by riding him and I've rode him every way. Cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, fast, slow, hard, soft, etc. And still nothing.. he acts like he enjoys it, he moans, his eyes close, his toes sometimes curl, etc. But I cannot make him cum like this and I'm thinking it is because my pussy is trash. Maybe I feel loose when I'm riding him..

[Anonymous]

It’s got nothing to do with your vagina. It’s about the way he gets stimulated based on the position.

When my gal rides me and she’s upright or even leaning back (because one of us wants to rub her clit) I can literally last as long as I want. If she leans forward (enough to kiss me), it’s game over very quickly unless I spend a great deal of effort preventing myself from cumming.

Plus, with you on top and you in control of the motion, you should do what feels good for you. Don’t worry so much about him. I guarantee he still enjoys it! When he wants to cum, he can move the way he needs to move to make himself get there. With you on top, if you lean forward, he can hold you down onto himself and do the thrusting himself.

In any case, get the idea out of your head that your body is somehow deficient. That’s not the case.

[abc3643]

Actually, no, riding him can be tougher. When I was young, I generally did not pop when I was ridden. I did that because I enjoyed it and could last forever, but what I enjoyed was the look on her face as she was having the time of her life. Then, once I wanted to pop, we moved to missionary and I brought it home.

You see, with cowgirl, the woman controls the motion. She rides him so that she can have her orgasm. But the rhythm that he needs for orgasm may be slightly different and/or she may not be hitting the tip of his penis in the way he needs. Thus, he can't get that necessary sensation for orgasm.

That said, my wife and I do cowgirl and I concentrate enough that I can usually pop... but that was a long time ago in a galaxy far far away.

Anyway, it takes practice.

[abc3643]

Oh, it MAY be your pussy - a loose pussy does not help the situation - but it could simply be what I said about not having the right rhythm for him to take it over the finish line.

[Asker]

I'm worried that I may be loose. The most number of fingers he has been able to get inside me is three. Does. that sound loose?

[abc3643]

I wouldn't worry about it. If you are really worried, don't do cowgirl and let him ride you doing it missionary. He'll pop.

[Asker]

If I can fit three fingers inside, is it a bit loose?

[abc3643]

I have no fucking idea! I don't go around measuring pussies with fingers. I wouldn't worry about it. If he is the only guy you've ever had, then you are tight enuf for him. Those "3 fingers" might be because of the size of his dick.

[Asker]

Alright. Thanks for the help even though you're rude. Have a nice night. I hate myself.

[abc3643]

Actually, I had an idea... Google "handjob techniques". There is a series at PornHub with that and these are very good videos. Now, while in cowgirl, try to imagine doing with your pussy what the woman is doing with her hand in the videos.

[abc3643]

If your boyfriend is Japanese, THEN you need to worry about being too loose.

www.hulu.com/embed.html

[Asker]

I can't do. that. I have bad, loose pussy.

[SeanshterMonster]

Dont tell yourself that. Everyone is diffrent, no such thing as a "bad pussy".

[Wonderer89]

Yes. That’s exactly what it means 🙄 your pussy is terrible.

Seriously, you’ve asked him - and he’s told you a very reasonable explanation and now you’ve asked here to have 10 men tell you variances of the exact same thing yet you keep arguing back to bad pussy.
The even bigger turn off for a guy, is having to constantly bring up an insecure girl because she won’t listen to reason and needs far more validation than is reasonableb

[Asker]

Lol. K. Thanks. Don't have to be rude but whatever. Thanks for wasting. your time by commenting on this. Seriously if it's so dumb, don't waste your precious time by commenting and being bitchy. Yes I'm aware that I have problems and unfortunately my self esteem is at its worst at this point in my life, so yeah. I definitely suck at being a girlfriend and I was already aware of it before you typed. this. I can't help the way I feel about myself and actually I go on this site to. prevent myself from being a burden on my boyfriend but I still am. So maybe he will be better off with another better girl. Thanks for making me realize that im. not okay even though I was already completely aware of this before. Have a nice night.

[Wonderer89]

Why is it rude to agree with you? You’re arguing with everyone who doesn’t and telling them they’re wrong so I’m just telling you that you’re right

[Asker]

No you're just being sarcastic in a bitchy way and I don't appreciate it.

[Asker]

I feel terrible enough about myself so have a wonderful night.

[Wonderer89]

Right 😊 if you say so.

[SeanshterMonster]

Ouch. Dont you think you were a bit harsh.

[Wonderer89]

@SeanshterMonster nope, not at all.

[SeanshterMonster]

she's hating herself because she thinks this is a problem, so you say more reasons to hate herself making it worse. That's harsh.

[Wonderer89]

@SeanshterMonster no, she already had people trying to make her feel better and she told every single one of them they were wrong. So she wasn't asking for help or to feel better or she would have been open to them, therefor she’s obviously right

[SeanshterMonster]

Or she's beating herself up, people in a down situation like this or like others beat themselves up and on the inside it's hard to take in positive things other people say about them. I accidentally do it time to time, beat myself up and only realise it later that it's not really true.

[spliff]

Nah u good Lady, some folks be sensitive and that definitely has an affect on them when they hear it how it is. Especially if there’s a bit of hood behind your words. Lol Ighhht! U good, she good not sure bout the dude, he sound like a loose booty anyway. 🤦🏾‍♂️🤙🏾👍🏾

[Asker]

@spliff does it sound like I'm loose then?

[Drooogie4]

Riding usually seems to take guys longer. 5 years in I still have a hard time making my guy finish from that. And I think it really has to do with the angle. Not that you're loose or anything.
If he gets off in other positions, you're fine. I promise.

[Asker]

He gets off in other positions. Doggy is his favorite and he can cum fast from that. But he has been able to get three fingers inside me before. It was only once and it was a bit uncomfortable but I feel like three fingers is a bit loose for people at my age..

[Drooogie4]

When you're actually ready, you loosen up. Thats part of being truly aroused. And think about it, 3 fingers isn't bigger than a penis. It doesn't make you loose.

[Asker]

Yeah, but I feel like it feels loose for him and he just won't say anything because he's afraid of hurting my feelings. He's been with so many other girls and it makes me feel terrible about myself.

[Asker]

Please talk to me?

[Drooogie4]

Like I said, if other positions work fine, you aren't loose

[Drooogie4]

If you were, you would be in any position. And if he gets off fast in others, you are the issue. There isn't an issue. It's just a challenging position

[Asker]

So being able to fit three fingers isn't loose at all?

[Asker]

And if you will talk to me, I want to say something. We started dating 2 years ago. When we first started doing sexual things, he warned me that it was hard to make him cum. He would never cum from head or handjobs. And the night he took my virginity, he didn't even cum. We still used condoms. At this point, I actual felt like it was me. He assured me that he had problems with people in his past too. He told me that he masturbated and watched porn too much. A year later, he could cum only sometimes and only in certain positions. Then I got on birth control and let him go without a condom. This helped but not as much as I thought it would. Then I told him not to masturbate and watch porn so much. He started college and eventually stopped porn and masturbating a lot. He has been able to cum with me ever since then except when I ride. But does it. sound like all those issues in the past were from me being too loose? I didn't think masturbation made guys completely not orgasm with a girl..

[Drooogie4]

I really 100% dont think you are the issue. Excessive porn and masturbation can create those issues.

[Asker]

So being able to fit three fingers inside isn't loose at all?

[Drooogie4]

Is 3 fingers way bigger than his penis? If not, then no.

[madhatters4]

it's not your "pussy". if he finishes other ways clearly your vagina is not the issue

doggystyle is the easiest way for most guys to finish because they can penetrate deeper

you are fine. don't worry

[MrKinktastic]

No, I almost never cum from cowgirl and I find most women tight.

[pepperhicks]

No, the best position varies by person and even varies by session. Nothing wrong if his fav position is doggy. The girl riding is great for me sometimes but not others. Understand that riding is a bit of a risk for the guy. Say he slips out and you do not notice and come down hard on his cock. It happens and it hurts.

[Celtero]

Nah, could be you're just bad at riding... or he has an easier time finishing when he's in control.

[Asker]

I've rode him everyday thoufh. I don't know how I could be bad. I've asked him. what I should do different and he says nothing. I've rode him in plain cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, hard, soft, fast, and slow, etc. I don't know what else I could do. I don't know how. i could be bad and he won't tell me what else i. can do. So now, the only thing I can come up with is that my pussy is just bad..

[Asker]

*every way not everyday

[Habib_M]

what kind of doggy? Do you kneel or lay flat on your stomach raising your ass a little?

[Asker]

Both. He likes it when my ass in the air for him though.

[Asker]

Why does it matter? He has told. me to lay on stomach during doggy before. Does. this mean I'm not tight enough?

[Habib_M]

it is just because he likes your ass and wants to look at it during sex and has nothing to do with the tightness of your pussy.

[Habib_M]

also he can see your butthole in this position. he might indirectly want to have anal with you too

[Asker]

Okay but why does it matter if I'm kneeling or. laying on my stomach though?

[Habib_M]

when you are on your stomach your pussy will get tighter but when you kneel it wouldn't be very tight

[Asker]

He tries to push me down on my stomach when im. in that position and he has told. me to close my legs tighter when we're in doggy.. maybe he does. think I'm loose.. And he has joked around about me being loose in the past.. But I'm only 18, I do kegels when i remember and I have regular orgasms.. I really shouldn't be loose.. But doesn't it kinda sound like I am? And he has been able to put three fingers inside of me.. :(

[Habib_M]

no. even more than 3 fingers can enter a NORMAL vagina so you should not be worried. maybe his dick is small not your vagina loose. I can't send you picture of how should a girl be in doggy position because my xper is not enough. you can send me link of how exactly to lay so that i tell you if it is correct or not

[Asker]

He has made jokes about me being loose. And basically what happens is that I start out kneeling with my back arched and he pushes down on the middle of my back until I'm on my stomach and my ass is in the air.. He has also told me to put my legs closer together before too.. And no, his dick isn't small. Is like 6.5 to 7 inches and the girth isn't small either. So really my vagina has to be the problem right? Otherwise, why would he joke that I'm loose?

[Habib_M]

I think you do this position in a correct way. Stomach on the bed with ass in the air. I think he likes to see yor ass during sex and loose of vagina is an excuse to encourage you to have sex with you in doggy position. I have done this position many times because it is my favorite so i am sure he just want to see your ass all the time during sex

[Apope16]

No. Everyone has a preferential position. Its their own pleasure and fantasy... not based on you. I can't cum i. Doggy style. Just doesn't get me to that point. Everyone is different.

[newPython]

I made a printout of this so I can jack off to this while reading it in the toilet. Thanks for making me horny.

[BigRob420]

Is he leading with you on top? The other thing is I don't generally cum while she's on top because I just love that look of orgasm in her eyes and think it feels better to cum when she's shaking from cumming. You know when you feel the contraction inside of her.

[bubbakong2006]

Not at all somethings wrong most guys can’t take much of a sweet pussy riding there cock without cumming pretty quick that feels so good when the women rides on top sure he’s not masturbating on the side to not cum like that

[pooper89]

Well sex isn’t everything. I’m sure you please him in other aspects of the relationship

[Asker]

Yeah but my vagina is too loose

[pooper89]

Do kegals

[Asker]

I do kegals.. he has been able to fit three fingers inside me before. It only happened once and it was a bit uncomfortable for me but he was still. able to do it. Does that sound loose?

[RedThread]

Of course not...

[hegel]

Not sure, if he is really in to you? Do you blow him? Some guys need to be blown in order to cum?

[sinastyle]

Enjoy on top by yourself. Don't think so much about him.

[LolaPink722]

I have never made my guy come from riding him either , but that’s becaus i really don’t know how to ride, I’m usually the one on my back getting banged in missionary and he comes just fine like that 😊

[Asker]

He has been able to fit three fingers inside me before. Is that loose?

[LolaPink722]

I don’t know , have u tried asking him, i personally have never had 3 fingers inside me before ever

[Asker]

He says i feel tight but I'm afraid he just says it to make me feel better or. ro prevent hurting my feelings. He only wants doggystyle which makes girls feel tighter..

[skateordiesv]

I've had girls that have that issue with me its literally due to their movements being meh while on top. What makea a guy feel good and a girl feel good when she is on top can be completely different

[Asker]

So could it be that my pussy feels bad or loose. to him when I'm on top?

[skateordiesv]

Not loose or bad. It may feel great but its about the motion you do while on top...

[iFarted]

Do kegal and clamp on his dick with that kegal powerrrr

[BeyondCuriosity]

Riding is not usually the easiest way to get there for me, and when it has been there was some exploration done to make it that way. I don't thing it has anything to do with you being loose or anything. He's still getting it from doggy, so that wouldn't make sense. I feel like I sometimes go through phases of what I like in bed. Maybe he's just liking that position at this point in time? Speed and positioning might be some things to experiment with. Secondary stimulation of other parts might help too, if you're really out to make him cum this way.

[howdy1]

No there is nothing wrong with your pussy. He probably prefers some positions more than others. For example, missionary dosen't do it for me, however if she is on top I have to hold back

[JohnK123]

Try different techniques and positions maybe lean more back I honestly don’t know just search up ways to make a guy go faster best of luck

[QuietRunner]

riding takes the longest for me