My boyfriend always finishes before me

Question

When my boyfriend and I have sex, he usually finishes before I do. He always says he'll go down on me or whatever, so I can finish too. The problem is, he never actually does. He ends up falling asleep or "gets distracted" so I get a little upset that he doesn't follow through with his word, because obviously I'd like to finish, as well.Whenever I try to talk to him about it, he gets upset and starts saying that he's inadequate. I've never thought or said that about him, because it's simply not true. Should I just not bother him about this anymore and try to accept that it will be this way as long as we're together, or is there some other way I can solve this issue?

stubbsy · Accepted Answer

Insist on plenty of foreplay before sex, don't touch him unless he gets you tingling all over first, because most guys are in need to know that they please their girl, so letting him know that sex alone just don't do it for you and that fore play is going to be more of an option for you if you are going to enjoy sex, because if you don't enjoy it, what's the point on doing it right. Most guys take the time to know his girl inside and out, where she likes and don't likes, and what gets her shaking in exstacy and what makes her shake in anger, so tell him that you want to be able to communicate sexually, not just have a one way conversation, good luck, and your well within your right to feel short changed,x

Lheimroo · Accepted Answer

Yea, seriously - get him to give you a lot more foreplay! You wanna orgasm during the act, too, right?

Foreplay is awesome. The problem with guys is.. get us excited, hey, sex feels freaking awesome, and somebody who's too eager and inexperienced enough is gonna pop quickly. It's just not like it is for girls. Girls gotta get up into the mood, get there more slowly, sex can be uncomfortable if they aren't ready for it .. for a guy, his penis is his best friend. A guy can go from zero to 'ready' in a few seconds, there's no issue of discomfort.

Jennifer2048 · Accepted Answer

I had a boyfriend once that always finished before me too. We finally had a talk and I assured him that I was not mad, upset, or felt that he was inadequate in any way. That I just wanted to orgasm too. From then on, as a part of an extended foreplay, he would eat me out until I came at least twice before he ever penetrated me. That turned out to be awesome because after two nice orgasms, I was hot and ready to f***. Our sex was great after that. Unfortunately some of his other traits were not fixable.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

Try something called foreplay.

A little touching and kissing before the sex.

Allow him to go down on you before actual penetration.

It sounds as if he ends him doing a lot of the work during sex and

wears himself out (which is why he falls to sleep).

lala-193 · Accepted Answer

try asking him to go down on you before you guys have sex

Lakeburn · Answer

Definitely have him get to lickin' before he gets to stickin'.  There are things that we, as guys, can do to prolong our performance.  It's not a perfect science, but he shoulddo some research.  From there it's practice, practice, practice.