Wow... quite a story.
I'm afraid that whatever you do you'll have an uphill battle from now on with this fella.
It seems complicated. He has his injury and doesn't get much out of sex... OK. You do, however- and you want to have more... much more than you are getting. This is very understandable. You do NOT have a one-track-mind. You are perfectly normal and typical.
Usually during the first months of a relationship people are simply all over one another- at least that's been my experience.
He is not being terribly considerate of your needs (and I'm being polite here). He could still do ALL SORTS of things for you/to you with his tongue and fingers- for YOU. This doesn't seem to have occured to him at all, though. He seems pretty attuned to his own needs- but not to yours.
It isn't terribly likely that the situation will change much in the future- though I hate to condemn... it just seems that this is a show of personality. It's also possible he is simply clueless about what to do for a woman. Still- the end result will be the same- for you.
You are not being selfish- on the contrary you seem willing to bend over backwards for the guy. You say that you can see being together with him for a long time- but I wonder just a little bit why...?
What I don't get is why should YOU buy him some toy? Has he lost his own wallet?
It might be best that this guy purchases his OWN fake vagina, some day. Then, once you've moved on for a man more willing to consider your needs and desires (and the simple wish to bring you pleasure- because he WANTS to do that), he can stay home alone with his new little friend.0 0 0 0I think he should not touch his d*** for 3 weeks.
I'm 100% serious.
Google 'death grip' he's not the only guy like this.
The question is will he work to fix it? If not dump him.0 0 0 0There's a site all about death grip and it sound exactly like what his problem is. Theres lots of good advice on there so we'll have to try this out. Thanks!
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0 2Re: the specific question about the fleshlight. Got to be worth a shot, I would have thought.
More generally: if the reason that the only way he can come/get pleasure is through his solo technique, this has got to be purely because of the highly specific way he has developed his technique as a result of the sporting accident, right? So it would seem reasonable to suppose that it will, in the end, prove just as possible for him to get the same or better pleasure from sex with you if only the pair of you find the technique that works for him. How about trying to convince him to try various things with you to see what works?
Accusing you of having a one-track mind sounds to me like a defence-mechanism. He is trying to avoid difficult conversations about his sexual difficulties. So you might have a bit of an uphill struggle trying to get a dialogue going on this one. But once you do get one going it will be worth it. Key thing: however frustrated you get, try not to let it descend into an argument.
Good luck.0 0 0 0is he able to come when you give him a blow job?
#1 he should brobably stop using his hand. he may use such a tight grip, that a vagina can never match, that he needs to re-train his penis to be able to come from something looser than his vice-grip, like your vagina or mouth
#2 he should consider using viagra or cialis, which will make him rock-hard0 0 0 0
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