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Why won't my boyfriend return the favor (oral sex)?

Ive been with my current boyfriend for about a year. For the first 6 months we f***ed all of the time but then we hit a dry spell. Now I hardly ever have sex cause he is not in the mood, and when we do he just wants to f*** my mouth, pussy, and ass. He has maybe given me head once in the past 6 months! I don't understand why. there is not a damn thing wrong with my pussy. I think it taste good. what am I doing wrong? is it cause I ask him for it? cause whenever I do, he pitches a fit.
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  • hes just being selfish! I love oral sex so he's being really mean here!not having oral sex would be a total dealbreaker for me. its basic-its not weird or out there at all. Girls will usually orgasm with oral sex but not necessarily sex itself so it is essential for girls.

    Just give him an ultimatum like you won't give him blowjobs unless he gives you oral sex too lol. Or just not have sex til he does! Some guys just don't like it but if he's getting a bj, then you should get some too! I don't like giving blow jobs at all but I would if I was getting oral sex.

    People are saying about bringing in sex toys but I say no. You want oral sex, not other stuff. Like if nothing else works then bring in sex toys but only as last resort to keep him interested. It does sound like he's gone off you because he's "not in the mood". What guy is not in the mood?! It could be that he has something worrying him, you need to talk to him and ask him straight out cos something is definitely wrong here.

  • Dump him. If you actually ask him and he says no then you need to break free. Anyone who doesn't want to eat p**** is full of problems. There can be no compromise on this issue. Open, free and satisfying sex is the core of any good relationship. First things first though: communicate. Ask him straight up what is going on and why he won't satisfy you the way you wish. You deserve a man who will enjoy anything with you and enjoy pleasing you and being pleased by you.

    Best of luck.

    • Your right ! Lots of guys love to eat :-P I love to :- P anytime I can ! God gave your women an awesome gift of your body ! When I please a women, it sexual please me to enjoy her :-)

  • refuse to give him anything. let him know how it feels...lol seriously or go find a guy that can plz u...ask him if it grosses him out or anything before you dump him though. talk to him and tell him that it means a lot to you to get pleased also...my guy makes sure I go 80% of the time before him...then after that ill do whatever he wnts :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • Hey neighbor!

    First of all, looking as good as your picture does you got a dud there. Get rid of him and find a guy that's crazy about you! Sex is a two way street. When it's good, it's more like I-85 at rush hour! Or it had better be right! His side of the road can't have ALL the exit ramps and if that's the way he wants it then you have more of a problem than just a little unsatisfying sex. YOu got a relationship that is one sided too.

    Listen, a LOT of our lives consists of doing the right thing BECAUSE of the consequences. If a person has no consequences to their actions to have to deal with then they will slip into ever more selfish behavior. Right?

    So, either this selfish guy gives you a pretty damned good reason WHY he doesn't want to return the favor or you give him the heave ho. That or you get real comfy with a buzzing little helper. :)

  • Let's just say, it's biochemical. If there was something really good about your stuff that he liked, he'd be all over it. It's nothing to do with your attitude or disposition, so don't get angry about it. Either move on from your guy, or try to make do with the status quo, which does not sound like the best option from what you have said.

    We could start worrying about silly stuff like what you're eating and how much exercise you get, but I mean that's going to take years to change the chemistry of your vajayjay. What can ya do.

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  • It sounds like he is no longer into you. If he isn't returning the favor, then you may want to do the same.

  • You are gorgeous. I would not be able to keep my face away from your sweet spot. You would be asking the question "how do I keep him from giving me so much oral."

  • I like L-hedoniste's reply ;o)

    either ask him right out why he won't and tell him its not on,or stop giving it and wait till he asks why you aren't doing it

    • I agree ! Good point !

  • It's not your genitalia. He simply doesn't like to perform cunnilingus. Nothing against you at all.

    What is a problem is that the newness of the relationship has worn off for him, but not for you. It's easy to see that you both view this relationship as a sexual issue, not in the light of a loving, caring relationship. Sex is meant to be cooperative, not competitive.

    Ted

  • If it was just a lack of oral, you could solve this problem by telling him how much you like it. You tried that (good for you!) and he acted like a baby. I think he should be disqualified from your sex life.

    If my girlfriend f***s me all the time and gives me oral, anal, and vaginal sex - then asks for nothing but oral once every few months - I do exactly what she says and ask her what else she wants from me.

    Actually, I think I just described a couple of my all-time best relationships.

  • I'd probably dump him because he sounds like a selfish wuss, but you should at least call him out on his behavior. No eating out, no b. j. See how he likes it.

  • Maybe because of taste, but that is no excuse, he can't be a real man until he puts out, and gives back. Truthfully it is unfair, and selfish. but it's the truth.

  • "Let's talk about what to do after you eat me out" or "I've decided; I don't sleep with men who don't eat me out." or "You don't have to eat me out, but *someone* is going to eat me out. A lot. And them I'm going to f*ck them. A lot."

    There's a million ways to do this.

  • Your boy is selfish that's all I gotta to say.

  • Just how do you know it 'tastes good'? All I can tell you it took me many years to finally seriously try doing cunnilingus.

    • She probably stuck her finger in it and brought it back to her mouth

    • Disgusting

    • Someones mature

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  • If he's in a non-sexual mood (judging from your pictures I don't quite comprehend that, but...anyway) and doesn't even want much "low-effort" sex, then he's really unlikely to suddenly up and go for the "high-effort" sex like oral.

    But getting back to oral, maybe he just sucks at it? (er, so to speak.) Knowing what to do can make a big difference in enthusiasm.

    As I mentioned in another thread (apologies for the repetition): "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner (Amazon link ) has earned itself a permanent place on my Kindle. :) Definitely opened my eyes to what was possible!

  • Maybe he thinks you taste/ look/ smell horrible.

    • If that was so, why would he still be with her?

  • maybe he,s bored with you he could banging another woman,all I know I,d spilt it,lick it,hit it and quit it! JUST KNOW THAT! damn you,re HOT!

  • Not sure why he won't give you oral maybe he has had a bad experience but if he did it only once he wants you to stop pressuring him he will come around and do it you stop giving him oral and he will catch on.

  • We all go through sexual phases and our ups and downs. You can't expect to be having sex like rabbits consistently. So there's nothing really wrong there. But what is wrong, is his selfishness. He's allowed himself to get his way, and so have you allowed him, and now he feels that's enough. He's not taking in your consideration and your needs. You need to talk to him about it. Complaining with subtle reference isn't going to get through to him.

    • Did someone say.....rabbits? :)

  • You obviously have bad hygiene. Or you have one ugly arse p**** with lips that flap in the wind. Get over it... Or scrub :D lol

    • Ur an ass swagger.. maybe he's just a jerk like u

    • Charming

    • You're an idiot

  • Some guys just don't like to give oral. I have actually never done it myself.

  • I absolutely LOVE giving Oral sex. Maybe he just isn't into it? Or, Maybe there is an issue deeper than just the topic of oral that he has. talk with him about it.

  • You're giving him anal and he doesn't even go down on you? What an ungrateful jerk! I would worship a woman like you! I personally love oral and will give more than I receive

    • We need more guys like you!

  • because you are a slave to him, not the other way around. make him happy and stop complaining.

    • Make him happy?? he is not making her happy ! she's giving him heds ,what is he giving her in return! f he doesn't like to go down on a gurl then she's not supposed to go down on him! plus he is not even sleeping with er anymore!! this is just f***ed up! id dump his ass right away , way too selfish!

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