Why would he say he was just kidding?

[Anonymous]

Now I knew a guy for quite a while and I trusted him to the point of being friends. We hadn't talked in a while so I texted him asking him how he was and he initially asked me to hookup which I denied because I am a virgin and am embarrassed about that. A few week later I saw him and tried avoiding him thinking he wouldn't want to talk to me because I had just rejected him, I was wrong. We talked for over an hour that day and the next day I thought about give into his offer and I asked him if he was still up for it which he was. We were going back and forth for a few days because he had only wanted it in my bed. One day I took the teasing too far and he wanted pictures. I didn't send them and he got mad saying he was just kidding. Two days later I decided to send him one and I had never done this before because I am a virgin and just not like that. I trusted him so I sent it. He didn't get nudes but they were close to being nude. He kept asking for more and more and more until he asked for a nude where I drew the line and said you'll just have to wait and see to which he replies I don't know. Then he stopped talking to me and a week later a girl wanted his number and I asked him and he said ok when did she ask and I told him you were flirting with her and he got mad saying I was not flirting with her. We stopped talking for a month and one day I got mad and finally asked him and he said I was just kidding about the pictures I don't give a fu** if you believe me or not. I get why he would say that if he didn't ask for a nude because he didn't like what he saw but he did ask for a nude meaning he liked what he saw...right? Why would he say he was just kidding?

[hisangel]

I completely agree with ArizonaRx.

One of the hardest things to learn is that even the nicest guy can turn pretty mean when you bruise his ego, accidently or intentionally. Even if he is a nice guy, his ego got bruised that he couldn't get you to send naked pictures so he is going to pull the "Well I didn't even care about you anyway" line that a lot of guys pull. Trust me, it will happen a lot. When a guy turns on you, it's a good sign you've bruised his ego.

Plus, some guys will throw a fit to make you feel bad for telling him no so you will turn around and do the chasing. I mean he's got you posting questions over this so it's working. It already worked once where you were afraid of losing the friendship after you said no to a hook up so now he will try it again probably hoping you will change your mind again.

But I truly hope you stand by your first decision. He clearly just wants sex and doesn't even have the decency to be kind about it. Or at least he isn't smart enough (and probably too young) to realize every girl is an option so be kind to them all!

And please, in the future, don't take a guy being willing to talk to you for a few hours as a huge thing. Guys will put a few hours in for sex, easily! It's when he puts in hours and hours, day after day, in conversations that are more than just sex, that proves he wants you, not just your body.

[ArizonaRX]

I agree with guys talking to a girl for hours just to get in her pants. That's very true. But, much of the other stuff is done by females as well. But, from your reference point and the party in question is a male, we will let the one sided "guys do this" slide. lol j/k but very good points.

[hisangel]

Sorry, didn't mean to give off the "all guys are bastards" vibe. I just was saying that it is one of those things that shocks you as a woman the first time it happens to you. But I agree, women and men do very similar things.

[luciaa]

this guy is such an asshole. Why oh why the hell do you still talk to him? Don't send him anything! Don't be a fool! He only wants your body in pic or in life. He needs a good slap. Don't let this guy get anything from you!

[ArizonaRX]

This post is strangely similar to a post I replied in recently.

He said he was kidding because he was trying to save face for asking and not receiving what he wanted. He damn well did want nude images of you and when you denied him that he tool it personally and is trying to make you feel bad about it.

Screw him. Let some other girl deal with this immature kid.