Go to a bar, get really hammered and your confidence will go through the roof. If you don't like drinking, start at home, its like anything else, if you do it long enough it won't be so bad later. And all you have to be is attracted to someone. They don't have to be the right one or have a meaningful impact on your life. Sex and relationships are two totally different things, yes they overlap sometimes but the highway has a west bound and and east bound and they have nothing to do with each other. If lose the V-card your confidence will also go through the roof because you'll realize its not a big deal. In a relationship its an after thought, so dont worry about meeting someone and not being adept. Just get shit faced until you go home with some girl you think is hot and start living life. Learn that sex is not so important. Travelling, meeting people, fighting for what you believe in, finding love (not sex), these are the things that matter. And once you get over this very small herald, you will be more open to these things that will bring you happiness.
0 0 0 1"I find myself in a daily Catch-22, I feel like I'm depressed because I'm a virgin and I've never had a girlfriend, and a virgin who has never had a girlfriend because I am depressed."
Very well said. I understand what you mean.
1) How is life outside of women? (Work, education, career, physical health, family life, social life, etc)
2) What are you doing outside of dating that makes you proud of yourself?
3) Have you tried dating women whom you are truly compatible with and share commonalities?0 0 0 0Apart from attending a few speed dating nights which were terrible, I've never been on a real date with a woman. My social life is pretty much non existent at the moment, I just started a new job which is very busy. However even when I did have an active social life I was too shy and introverted to go out of my way to approach women I felt attracted to, which happened rarely as most of the girls I was interested in either had boyfriends already or made it known they were not interested.
What about #2 and #3? Don't fret over shyness and introversion. Firstly, you should embrace it (I'll expand upon that after I get more details). Secondly, you do a lot better in the domain of shyness than you give yourself credit for. You've actually approached women, so your situation isn't as dire as you may think.
This may sound lame but to be honest I can't think of anything I do that really makes me proud of myself. I have tried seeking out women I share commonalities with in fact they are the only girls I seek out, but after I've gotten to know them and asked them out on dates, every single one has rejected me, I've only known heartbreak when it comes to women and my faith in women is pretty low. I haven't actually approached a girl in nearly 3 years. I didn't see the point, I just got sick of the constant rejection.
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Seriously, if it's the right person I would never care if he was a virgin! I'm sure you will find a girl! Can't you write a bucket list and just stick to it? Like this year I will try to be brave enough to ask a girl out, just do it and you will find it more natural.
0 0 0 0What's PUA?
Anyways... no... Just chill and hang out with A LOT of people often - you're bound to get someone interested in you. =)0 0 0 0PUA stands for "Pick Up Artist"
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1 7That's so cute that you're a 26 year old virgin in my opinion
0 0 0 2No don't give up on love finding u. Just be yourself and your match will come along one day.
0 0 0 0Your call but instead of only waiting do something with your life
0 1 0 0Yay! Same boat!
I realized a few months ago, in my loneliness and abysmal depression, that I wasn't looking for someone because I wanted it, but because I felt like I had to. Obligation to fit in. To understand what the big deal is.
I saw this quote and it really cleared things up for me: "I don't need someone to save me, I just want someone to be by my side when I save myself."
Try thinking of it this way: when she finally does come around, it'll be that much sweeter. This is just a fatty learning curve with plenty of room for mistakes. Mistakes that you can learn from.
Besides, the girls here seem like they are supportive. Take the hint and work on thyself. A hobby, a talent, an image, anything.
Good luck!0 0 0 0Maybe hire a dating coach?
0 1 0 1Look up David Wygant, or Johnny Berba
You can't be shy, man. You have to be somewhat outgoing and definitely very confident. Then, you'll get girls.
When you're down on your luck, remember that even Adolf Hitler and Joseph Stalin got married.0 0 0 0thats why i feel like Wolverine right here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdqYUnHpQm00 0 0 0If I knew you I'd be like:
Wtf are you doing sitting on your lazy ass? Get outside now and hit on girls! If you get rejected then move on to the next girl! Stop acting like a bitch and man the f up!
But I don't so I'll just say that it's not difficult to find a girl. It's difficult if you keep putting yourself down. Go to places where your ideal girl might hand out, so not a club at 1am. Unless thas what you're into.
Just start asking girls out here and there, or even just ta to them. It'll boost your confidence. If they say nohen move on the next one.
Stop being depressed! Tell your friends about your troubles, or at least tell them to help you out with dating.0 0 0 1
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