A guy I’ve been kinda sexting with told me he masturbates daily while thinking of me, how am I supposed to reply to that?

It’s my first time experiencing something like this so I’m still exploring what I’m comfortable with and find myself out of words most of the time and not sure what to do with that info

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  • Um encourage him by sending pics? Tell him you think about him too?

    You don't have to engage with every idea or thing he texts you. Considering the asynchronous nature of texting, you can just leave him on read if he says something not particularly sexy.

    You can just wait until a dirty thought enters your head while you're doing your usual routine, and let him know, and then leave him on read again, driving him crazy with anticipation and imagining things.

    The power of sexting is imagination. So less is probably more.

    You should reframe the context of this in your mind. You're the lady. He's the dirty boy that's slowly seducing you out of your inhibitions. Instead of thinking about it as, "What does he expect from me? What do I need to be doing to fit the expectations?" think of it as, "What do I want?" "Has he earned it?" "What do I find sexy?"

    Maybe ham up the role of the innocent girl being corrupted. You can say things tongue in cheek to get him to meet you where you are.

    So simply saying "Ewww!!!" and then letting a few minutes pass, and then following it up with, "No, but keep telling me..." might communicate to him how ambivalent you are about it, and hopefully you two are close enough that you guys can sort of understand what actually is going on. Because being explicit kills the mood. Haha, see what I did there? I mean "explicit" in the literal sense of communicating clearly and without ambiguity.

    Remember, anything you don't like, you can just not reply to.

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  • I'd have better resoponses to these things than you would.
    However in so doing I will also take the edge off it. While this small comment might be very meaningful now, it has that meaning because it stumps you. If you were used to it and had a perfect answer? It wouldn't need a perfect answer anymore.

    And that's really the best I can put it for you. You don't need to be experienced, smooth or anything like that. You only need to make it clear where you are and stand. Your own ability will set the stage.

    As for suggestions though? Well, asking for more details is rarely a bad thing. You could even help correct or adjust them as it goes. Like a little interactive story. Or just sexting.

Most Helpful Girl

  • If he is telling you that, you've clearly turned him on so keep doing what your doing. Either that or he wants you to tell him you do the same thing. Men like you to be blunt and are visual in their sexuality.

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  • Do you want to stop it, or crank it up to the next level?

  • Did I really need to know that?

  • what do you want,

    that will guide how you respond.

    welcome to the time of life of mating and reproduction...

  • You reply with what you feel. If the idea of him masturbating while thinking about you turns you on, tell him that. If it makes you say ewwwwww tell him that too. Or tell him you don't know what to feel. That's part of the excitement of sexting and feeling each other out (so to speak) through words.

  • if you’ve been texting with him, he assumes you know that he’s been masturbating well thinking about you. That’s what’s happening on the guys end during Sexting. He probably assumes that’s what’s happening on your end, too. Perhaps he’s being too blunt in his presentation, but I imagine he doesn’t think he’s telling you anything you don’t know. You should just talk to him about it.

  • You're supposed to creeped out by the thirst and red flag being displayed.

  • "I would like to watch you or get a video clip doing it. I want my picture in view".

  • You could say you're happy that thinking of you helps. If you're more curious, you could ask what exactly does he think about.

  • How do you feel about him and do you also masturbate thinking of him? Where do you want things to lead?

  • You sound immature tbh, it's just words.

  • Well you are sexting with him so it makes sense that he might do it his because you could be the one to get him all worked up.

    Regarding how are you supposed to reply. I say reply with what you're feeling. If you like it or don't like. Either way it's ok to set some boundaries with your level of comfort.

  • You're the one sexting with him. Wtf did you think was going to happen?

  • Well your sexting him, ofcource he's gonna masturbate to you daily.

    But if you mean trying to respond to it sexually, say something like "I'm on my bed touching myself, wishing you were here with me, if you want some pointers of what a guy likes to hear during sexting, message me, I'll give you a few sentenses you could send to him depending on the context of what he sends you

  • You're sexting with him, why does this shock you?

    • Cause it’s never been this direct and explicit it was just lowkey sexting so I’m not sure how I’m supposed to respond to that info I still feel a bit awkward

    • I'm assuming you're quite young still?

    • Wouldn’t say I’m that young (early 20s) I just never really put myself out there in the dating scene till now

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  • However you want to

  • That's a good thing. Say thank you and how can I help?

  • Be flattered

  • May be you can tell him that it gets you excited and ask him what exactly he thinks while doing it

    Gives you another session for chat

  • Than say to her , same as like you i thinking about you when i masturbate

  • Continue the chat if u feel like

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