A person on GaG called me shallow after I wrote I rejected a guy entirely because I didn’t find his face attractive. Do you agree?

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His personality isn’t bad. I just didn’t feel interested in dating him entirely because he doesn’t have a good looking face in my opinion.

Im being honest here I wouldn’t feel interested in dating a man with a good looking face but bad personality.

I want to date a man who I think is good looking and has a good personality

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

I don't see that as being shallow, at all. It is what it is. Men and women both do that routinely, in that we see people that we see as attractive and others not.
When I was younger, I KNOW I was rejected by younger women because they did not think I was attractive enough for them to go out with. That is simply HUMAN!
Take this as an example of what we are talking about:

In my 20's, a girlfriend said to me: "Valerie said she did not know what I was doing with you. YOU can do much better than Bruce. I was hurt of course.

A MONTH LATER, after a wedding, the BRIDE said to ME: Bruce, what are you doing with SUE? She is UGLY, you can do better! 😂😂😂🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Looks like some people's 'looks' are subjective. If he is not attractive to you, don't go out with him!
Simple - ignore the 'shallow' comment from your girlfriend

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It's not shallow. People are entitled to their preferences in appearance. There are certain facial shapes and features that others may find attractive even though I don't. I'm not looking for a certain standard of classic beauty, but I do think a face is important when it comes to physical attraction.

Just because a woman had a wonderful personality wouldn't mean that I would want a romantic relationship with her if I wasn't physically attracted to her.

DollAlone · Accepted Answer

Just cause someone is attractive doesn't mean you have to be sexually attracted to them so no your not shallow because there are also many people who are not typically good looking get laid all the time. Its all about personal opinions and preference. What you find not so good looking, others may find desirable. So why settle for less? Go for what you want!

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

It is shallow but you can't help you find attractive. I feel the same way. I wouldn't want to date a guy if I don't like his face, no matter how good his personality is. I too want a guy who I find handsome and has a good personality. Try not to feel too bad about this. We all got preferences. I wouldn't want to date a guy that's shorter than me either.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes, you are shallow and I agree with him. However, you have every right to be shallow and can date whoever you want. Just don't try to make excuses for it. It IS shallow.

Sour-rose · Answer

Well okay? You shallow, cool. Time to see if there other fish is better lookin' than the last

IMuser · Answer

Attraction does not give a fuck to good or bad. Ultimately, humans are animals whose behaviour can be overridden when their instincts activate.

dustybiker · Answer

If you’ve brought it up at least twice now it must effect you.

Berethor · Answer

You want him to be good at everything AKA perfect, no surprise here. :)

wittymilf · Answer

No point in dating someone you’re not attracted too, obviously you weren’t attracted enough to his personality or you would have found his face attractive.
if you don’t want to seem shallow maybe don’t break it down to specific physical attributes when discussing if you’re attracted to people 🤷‍♀️, just a human as a whole.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Yes that’s shallow… but better question… will that man with a hot face be hot after 30 years? Will you leave when he’s in an accident and gets disfigured?

ShadezMcgee · Answer

There is nothing wrong with turning someone down for not feeling attracted to them physically, but it is shallow.

I am only speaking from experience. I turned women down because physical attraction is important to me too. It isn't fun to do, but I can admit that bit about me is shallow.

AviatorTom · Answer

You voiced your opinion, which you have every right to do. And the person has that same right to call you shallow, which your opinion is. IMHO, you may have missed out on one if the best guys ever, just because of his face, but you'll never know that. We all have faults, none of us is perfect.

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

Maybe you are. But even so, its your preferences, your choices, your life, your world and nothing we can do about it.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

If you're not attracted to him then it would dumb to have sex with him

If you're not gonna have sex with him then that's at least one uncrossable boundary he will some day want to cross

Your honestly doing him a favor and he just doesn't know it yet

metalhead_66 · Answer

I think that you did the right thing, because you should always choose to be with someone that you're comfortable with and attracted to. Because if you don't, chances are that many problems would arise because of your uncertainty of your decision. Just follow your gut.

HighValue · Answer

Not shallow. A person needs to be at least somewhat attractive to you in order to be interested in them. That is totally reasonable.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

It is shallow though.

MountAverage · Answer

No. Physical attraction is important.

boobliker · Answer

in truth it what we first see about anyone that gives us the first impression of them. so you are right to say what you did.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

sounds fair to moi me

noohair · Answer

Everything can be wrapped up into one word, chemistry. That word is safe and you don't have to elaborate. That way you don't appear judgmental and shallow.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Yep!

indian_incel · Answer

gtfo troll

Anonymous · Answer

I guarantee you that 99% of the people who told you this is shallow would do the same exact thing themselves. I don't need the guy to look like Chris Hemsworth or anything, but I also can't be UNattracted to him. I promise you nearly everyone on this planet feels the same way, whether they admit to it or not.