So the girl I’m seeing wants to be tied up. I’ve only really done light bondage, but I really want to get restraints and tie her to my bed and have my way with her.
i just want to be good at it. Any help?
If you’re only using straps or handcuffs, which as a beginner you should because rope can be dangerous if you don’t know how to tie up properly, there’s nothing to be good at. You just strap her in.
If you’re looking for ideas of what to do once she’s tied up, try tie and tease.
It’s best to use a vibrator for this, one which stimulates the clit rather than a dildo. The best vibrator for this is the hitachi wand. If not, you can do this manually/orally if you’re good with your fingers/tongue.
The idea behind this is that you want to tease her by bringing her right to the brink of cumming, but for the first maybe 3-5 times she gets there, don’t let her cum yet. Just stop whatever you’re doing to her clit, take it away for 30 seconds or so, and then carry on.
You need to know when she’s close to cumming, so have her tell you. You can have her just tell you that she’s close, or if she’s really into Dom/sub role play and dirty talk, have her ask you for permission to cum each time, and then when it’s time tell her “cum for me now”. Call her a “good girl” while she cums.
If done right she should have a powerful orgasm, and it probably multiple orgasms. Then afterwards she’ll want to return the favour.
Thanks for the advice. I'm going to buy restraints and become familiar with them before we experiment.
Dude, that’s awesome.
i got into it in my 20’s. My girlfriend at the time wanted nothing to do with it … however my fiancée loves it. We do it for dom/sub roleplay. Love being restrained and love tying her up…. I’m also trying to learn the art of using ropes.
Thanks! We had a great conversation about what we want to try, I am normally really aggressive in the bedroom and she loves submitting, so I think it's gonna be incredible.
Nice! I gave always been very aggressive too! Light bdsm and restraints taught me how to switch and be a little submissive… tons of fun!
Those best qualified to give advice might be a little tied up at present ….
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