Any tips for a girl new to sex that wants to get better at it?

I've had sex with a few guy before that said I was kinda vanilla and/or a "dead fish" during sex. That's true I kinda just lay there and would let him do the work. However I'm with a new guy now and we're getting close to having sex and I want to be good for him.
How do I become more active when I have sex?
Guy: what do you like girls do do while you have sex?
Girls: any tips on how to really wow a guy in bed?
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  • Many guys had replied and wrote well about the ohysical aspect. I think you're intelligent enough to apply them.

    I shall touch on the character side.

    1) be sexially confident. No, its not about being slutty although the line is hard to draw. Some guys do like slutty girls though.

    But I dare say, most guys like girls who are open to sex and sexuality, verbal about it outside the bedroom and free about initiating sex inside.

    Apart from making sure that the light is on when your clothes are off, remember to smile and show him that you're enthusiastic about sex. Its really contagious and sensual.

    And don't forget to show him that you enjoy his presence. Make some noise when he touches you, be natural. Tell him verbally how you like your clit touched and your vagina fingered.

    Finally, a great turn on is showing that you trust him and become vulnerable. Don't just be naked in body. Strip your mind naked, just for him. Let him know your fantasies. Tell him your dark secrets, sexually. Role play if you like to. Use toys if you enjoy them.

    Try out these. I'm sure he'll have a good time, making you a great lover he won't easily let go.

    • Thank you I'll keep that all in mind

    • IMPORTANT: Don't act like a slut. While it could be fun the first few times, it does give a bad impression. Be yourself, be sexially confident but not desperate. Win more of him than just his penis.

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  • Try getting on top, and learn how to move your body in tune with him. It can be really empowering. Figure out what gets you moving and feeling sexual, music, romance, candlelight, etc. Exaggerate what you're feeling, at least a little bit. If it feels good, be vocal. If you want something different, ask for it. The less you're worrying about it, and the more you're embracing the moment, the better you'll be.

    • Yes! Be vocal! Moan!

    • Thank you I'll try that

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  • watch a bunch of amateur porn and see what looks good and try that. try one thing at a time, not all at once

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  • Ever try a type of pelvic lap dancing sometimes called "the Electric Slide"?

    With or without lingerie... you get yourself 'cowgirl' and position his penis such that
    your outer vaginal lips and clitoris slide back and forth along the length of the underside of his penis
    and he's soon erect and you increase your downward enthusiasm as if you were
    using him as an object to rub one off on.
    Sooner or later he'll either cum or slide up and inside you as slide along his erection. Yummy!
    Fellatio is over-rated.
    Enjoy YOUR controlling BOTH your's arousal ~

  • Kiss, caress, suck, lick, hug, squeeze, pull, jerk, twirl, and so on)))

  • Its a hard Question because I don't know how you do it I would say we all have an Energy if who we are with in when making love or even fucking and most people only feel that energy in the very last minutes when ther comes a moment when your energy's touch and in that Moment you both come alive you know your partner is ready to come. Well remember that Moment and do wait for it to happen make it happen in the very first touch kiss ,, if you want to wow someone touch there energy from the start that's my kick start I want her to feel it the moment I put 1 finger on her the moment my lips touch hers or her neck with my lips , I think a lot of girls hold back because they don't give in to it and let themselves go and EXPERIENCE how beautiful making love really is because they are embarrassed by it or they don't want anyone to see them thst way for me I love it and I think it's very sexy ,, the best way to be good at something is to experience it and never make love the same way twice

  • Practice makes perfect! Don't forget birth control/condoms everytime

  • Depending on how daring you are:)
    Hit me up if you want to talk about it

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  • Asking questions is good, but you have to ask him (and any guy you have sex with) because you need to get to know him and what he likes and wants. Like women, we are all different.

  • Talking dirty is probably the number 1 thing to work on first. A little moaning is nice but just don't over do it. Maybe dig them claws in their back to let em know you are really into it at the time. Learn how to ride that " D" and i don't mean gyrate your hips. I'm talking about bouncing up and down while crouched down on your feet or knees. Master this without slipping out and he'll remember you for a long time. But one slip and miss can ruin his night. May even be a trip to the ER for him. Now get out there and practice tiger lol.

  • Get some toys from a sex shop (e. g. vibrators, lubes, nipple clips, dildos, cock rings, etc.), try role playing, sex games, or watch porn together. Wear lingerie. Try tying him up and having your way with him and vice versa. If you have a bush, shave it or trim it. Shave his pubes if he doesn't already. Try other things besides intercourse such as a titty fuck or giving him a hand job or blowjob. Try flavored BJ gel. Swallow his cum if you're both okay with it. Challenge him to eat you to orgasm. Try some flavored products like "Pussy Licker" or some whipped cream around your vagina and of course put some on his dick for you to enjoy. Hold your pussy open for him so he has good access to your clit with his tongue. Try a different position besides on your back such as cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, or sitting on his face. Try sex in the dark and with the lights on. Have sex at different times of day other than bedtime and if different places besides the bedroom such as in the shower, kitchen, outdoors, white watching TV, in a vehicle, etc. Communication is very important.

  • read up and try finding out what you like then get into what you both do

  • You're doing it right now. Seeking advice and perspective.
    Explore, don't rush. Set time aside for long sessions. If he's a quality guy he'll learn to be patient and explore you too.
    My wife and I joke about how I'm the luckiest pirate in the world, just stumbling across an island and tripping over new treasures. Because I explore her body thoroughly. I lick and touch and squeeze every part of her body. For example, one day I was kissing her tummy and started kissing one hip right over the bone. It tickled but I heard her moan so I started probing with my tongue and she moaned more and... BAM! she came. No pentration, no touching her boobs, she came from me kissing her hip bone. 😳 We were both surprised. Be willing to try anything. Keep your partners pleasure as your motive. Encourage him to do the same. Patience...
    Good luck.

  • My tips for you is get married first

  • I wouldn’t jump into a freak show quite yet. Just try different positions. Get on top, close your eyes, and play around until you decide what movements feel good. Get on your knees, stand up, doesn’t matter. Just start with something different

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  • It really depends on the position

    • I've only ever done missionary What else should I try

    • Well you can't be a dead fish in either cowgirls, and any other one where you're on top. Of course he could. You could try standing sex, both of you have to be active then.

    • Ok we'll give it a shot

  • first you need to figure out what you like. Try different things... Try being on top where you can work back and forth and feel the pleasure. Try turning around it feels different. I am talking about cowgirl and reverse cowgirl. His dick hits different spots depending on which direction you face but you have to work it too. Doggy style allows him to work it and has better penetration. Have him go down on you and eat your pussy, grab his hair while he is down there, don't pull hard but let him know you like it.

    message me for more ideas...

  • Get on top and ride him cowgirl.

  • follow me I can give you some tips but we like confident freaks in beds

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  • Get involved, not a bystander

    • That's what I want to do but I'm not sure how

    • Don't be afraid to touch him, and comunicate, ask how he like things like blow jobs

    • Ok thanks

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  • Use your hips! Help him out! Arch your back, ride him

    • Ok thank you

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  • Add bdsm you will cum hard together kinky is thrilling

    • What's bdsm?

    • Bondage

    • Oh ok That's on the list we will try it

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  • OK... this is easy. If you are into him enough to have sex then SHOW IT!!! If you are bored why are you having sex? Just touch him a lot, that is a great turn on. Also, you can tell him how you feel or what you want in a way that isn't terribly dirty but still very erotic. For example, you can get him excited by telling him leading up to sex that you really want him inside you. Or you can make little noises or moans or whatever. Just be communicative. If you don't know what to do or are nervous, tell him that and you can even make that statement sexy!!

    • Ok thank you I'll try that

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