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Are all men secretly bi curious?

I think as humans we all get bi curious at some point. Whether the curiosity strikes as kids, or in college age, whether we actually act on it or not I think we ALL get curious about same sex sex at some point. Here's the thing, straight men will NEVER admit it! I think it sucks that a woman can experiment so easily & society won't judge her, in fact she'll be encouraged because lesbian sex is considered attractive. Guys: any of you been bi curious? Do you think straight men are more bi curious than they let on? And remember: just because you've thought about it doesn't mean you're gay! Even if you had gay sex you're not gay if you hated it! PS - I also don't buy into gay men who act to proud to admit some form of straight curiousty. I'm sure plenty of gays have been straight curious but won't admit it due to their ego.
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  • I don't think most men are, nor do I think it's as common for men as it is for women, but yes it is much more common than men like to admit. That's not saying much though because most men just don't talk about this!

    No matter how much an individual guy thinks it's BS, there is stigma against appearing too feminine in our - scratch that, pretty much all - societies, and attraction to men is associated with that. People (especially men) will generally respect you less, and besides there is a perception that women don't find bi guys attractive. It's stupid and I wish it weren't the case (what is wrong with being a girl or a feminine guy?) but socially that's a very legitimate thing for a man to worry about. Who has time to be idealistic when a perfectly good friendship/relationship could be harmed by talking about it?

    It's not always internalized self hatred, like some people say. I am attracted to some men and feel no guilt about it. Guys and girls are attractive in different ways and I think to just be attracted to one sex would make my inner life less interesting IMO. But in RL I don't admit this to most people. I feel neither ashamed nor less masculine because of it (as if that should even be something to be ashamed of), but what do I have to gain by letting potentially bigoted people know about it, especially since I prefer women? There's just no incentive to be honest with men unless you know your girl is cool with that sort of thing (mine knows since she's pan herself and is pretty much indifferent to it), whereas with girls it's a turn on.

    Again, I don't think it's super common (unless your definition is vague enough to be just "I wonder what it would be like" which is so broad it includes pretty much every human with a functioning imagination), but it is definitely moreso than men let on.

  • My story is very short and simple: 1st i have never had any gay experience whatsoever till the moment; 2nd - I do not feel at all atracted to guy just by watching him on TV shirtless with abs and so on, like a normal gay or bi guy would feel aroused, i dont; 3rd when it comes to women i follow her with my eyes if she apeases me and feel excited and aroused by it; 4th i ended up watching bi sex videos on the web, however here is the tricky part i do not feel excited due to the amazing abs the guy has or something, i feel excited when the three are exchaging touches, kisses and so, so it would i feel aroused about the atmosphere and the sounds of it, than by then guys themseves; 5th gay pron as in just guy on guy, does nothing for me, i have tested it myself and by tool, does not move; 6th even though i am bi-curious and eventualy turn this into reality i would still not consider myself bissexual, because i do not feel romantic atraction with guys as i feel with girls; 7th even though i feel aroused by the sex videos, like i said before i do not feel aroused by men in daily life, nor do i have any crush for some of my close friends or people i know; 8th i do fantasise about the threesome for sometime now; 9th i think it maybe because i got bored of the normal gril on guy videos and needed to change and see something new; 10th - there is an intersting fact that i tend to feel more aroused, about these bi p*rn videos, only when i have not had sex for a while and even more intersting than that is that when i jerk off thats it, i close the website, do not feel the need to watch it all the way to the end.

    I am 25 by the way and currently single!

Most Helpful Girls

  • I agree, I hate that "lesbians" are thought to be so hot. That's disturbing to me but not because I'm straight.

    Guys shouldn't judge themselves so harshly. Gay is gay, whether it's lesbian or whatever. If you're a guy and you hate gay men then liking lesbains makes you a hypocrite.

    • I don't think lesbians are hot, its an instant turn off. Realistically it isn't a good thing but in an ideal word most would prefer a threesome with them

  • I think a lot more men are curious about experiementing with another man but have too much pride to admit it.I am bi and for the longest couldn't admit it I guess it is a pride thing for both genders admitting they have curiousity about the same sex.

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  • I am confident in my sexuality and I know that gay is not contagious. I admit being curious about bisexuality. It only stands to reason that women know what feels good so why not try it with another women and see. The same reasoning holds true for men. Men aren't you curious if another man is more knowledgeable of what a great bj feels like as opposed to a women,

    Guys that deny it just ask them if they have watched shem*** p*rn or tr***y p*rn.. When they watch DP do they thing the guys are concerned about rubbing up to each other. Come on fess up guys!

  • Nope, never been bi-curious.

  • I have gay friends. Hell, my roommate last year was gay and we got along fine. We talked about all kinds of stuff along those lines. I don't feel threatened by homosexuality whatsoever.

    But I can honestly say I've never felt any sort of attraction to other dudes. It's just not there for me.

    And when it comes to straight vs. gay vs. bi... for me, I try not to overcomplicate things - if you are a dude and like penis in your mouth and asss, you're gay. If you also enjoy girls that just means you have more diversified sexual interests, but you're still gay. Not in a derogatory sense... just that I don't see the point in some people trying to label themselves 'bi' in order to lessen the stigma of being *gay*.

  • I don't think so... if all men were like that wouldn't I be able to satisfy my own curiosity?

  • Why would I be curious about a gender I already am... its uninteresting and not hot. I don't see why I need to have some form of curiosity just because I am fully straight, I know what I am and I do not believe "experimenting" is needed to determine that. I can't remember a time where I have ever wanted to do anything with a guy, guys are not hot imo lol

  • I don't think so and I'm bi-curious

    • what makes you curious or what do you think about, talk to me :)

    • I'm more into girls but sometimes I'm interested in guys but I'm kinda turned on and grossed out at the same time so it might take a while

  • i consider myself bi I mostly prefer girls but I do get attacted to good lookin guys , I usually don't admit it near my home or tell my family or work friends, I don't think they know , but sometimes I see my friends lookin at me too And I Know that look- but they never say anything

  • soo if a straight guy had gay sex, and enjogyed it does that mean he is gay?

    • Yes.

    • *enjoyed. how does the quality of sex affect whether or not if someone is gay or straight? I don't see the logic of : straight man having good gay sex= gay straight man having bad gay sex= not gay.

    • I mean more so if you actually enjoyed the gay sex, rather than good or bad sex. If he liked penis than he's gay, but if he tried it out & thought its nasty than he's not gay.

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  • ur just projecting your female sexuality onto men

    . its pretty common knowledge that men's sexuality is dichotomous (straight or gay, a one or 7 on kinsley sexuality scale), many women are somewhere inbetween

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  • I won't generalize and say that all men are secretly bicurious...but I will say the same proportion of women who are bicurious (when I say bicurious I mean think about the same sex or fantasize about it but not necessarily act on it) is probably the same proportion for men. It's just not socially acceptable for men to talk about it openly.

    I was bicurious...and I was lucky enough to have had a girlfriend who was very open sexually and got me to try things I was reluctant to do (oral, touching of other men). Now, I am fully bisexual, but still in the closet you may say. Very few people know about my lifestyle, which is OK, it's my sex life and no ones business to know that I like men and women sexually.

  • About as far from bi curious as a male could get.

  • Its more common than men admit.. its not as taboo for women to be bi. Most guys thinks it makes them look weak and not macho.
    Me personally, I've never been into guys. I have been the top in some mmf before. But that was at the females request, and they only pleasure for me was seeing her get off...
    Now i do consider myself bicurious, and im uncertain about it. Kissing a guy is a no go for me, makes me feel disgusted. But sucking a cock, or him fucking me... well im curious about it.

  • I do not suffer from any form of homophobia...

  • Here, let me enlighten you.

    When a normal, mentally healthy man looks at another man and tries to imagine having sex... he feels a wave of nausea and revulsion, kinda like when you see a dead rat with the guts being eaten by hornets.

  • I think straight guys are def more curious than they let on, I don't believe any straight guy has not wondered what it would be like to suck a cock,,,
    Guys should be more open about getting a relief from anyone who likes to do so imho,,,

  • lol I'm not curious at all

  • not me babe

  • I had a couple of experiences in my teens (the most I ever did was let a guy who was openly gay give me head) and though I enjoyed it I considered myself straight. Now that I'm older I fantasize about it, I now consider myself bi, only because I know I would act on any same sex offer. However, I'm not attracted to guys really, two guys kissing is a complete turnoff for me, I'm only interested in their penis. I can't wait until I get the opportunity to suck a penis, I know I'm going to love it ;)

    • I hear you, now that you are older part. I have never had any sex with a guy but I am very curious about giving a guy a blowjob. She can"t wait until we can have that experience either. She gets very excited watching gay p*rn and pegging me,

  • I believe that everyone is

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