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Are all men secretly bi curious?

I think as humans we all get bi curious at some point. Whether the curiosity strikes as kids, or in college age, whether we actually act on it or not I think we ALL get curious about same sex sex at some point. Here's the thing, straight men will NEVER admit it! I think it sucks that a woman can experiment so easily & society won't judge her, in fact she'll be encouraged because lesbian sex is considered attractive. Guys: any of you been bi curious? Do you think straight men are more bi curious than they let on? And remember: just because you've thought about it doesn't mean you're gay! Even if you had gay sex you're not gay if you hated it! PS - I also don't buy into gay men who act to proud to admit some form of straight curiousty. I'm sure plenty of gays have been straight curious but won't admit it due to their ego.
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  • I don't think most men are, nor do I think it's as common for men as it is for women, but yes it is much more common than men like to admit. That's not saying much though because most men just don't talk about this!

    No matter how much an individual guy thinks it's BS, there is stigma against appearing too feminine in our - scratch that, pretty much all - societies, and attraction to men is associated with that. People (especially men) will generally respect you less, and besides there is a perception that women don't find bi guys attractive. It's stupid and I wish it weren't the case (what is wrong with being a girl or a feminine guy?) but socially that's a very legitimate thing for a man to worry about. Who has time to be idealistic when a perfectly good friendship/relationship could be harmed by talking about it?

    It's not always internalized self hatred, like some people say. I am attracted to some men and feel no guilt about it. Guys and girls are attractive in different ways and I think to just be attracted to one sex would make my inner life less interesting IMO. But in RL I don't admit this to most people. I feel neither ashamed nor less masculine because of it (as if that should even be something to be ashamed of), but what do I have to gain by letting potentially bigoted people know about it, especially since I prefer women? There's just no incentive to be honest with men unless you know your girl is cool with that sort of thing (mine knows since she's pan herself and is pretty much indifferent to it), whereas with girls it's a turn on.

    Again, I don't think it's super common (unless your definition is vague enough to be just "I wonder what it would be like" which is so broad it includes pretty much every human with a functioning imagination), but it is definitely moreso than men let on.

  • My story is very short and simple: 1st i have never had any gay experience whatsoever till the moment; 2nd - I do not feel at all atracted to guy just by watching him on TV shirtless with abs and so on, like a normal gay or bi guy would feel aroused, i dont; 3rd when it comes to women i follow her with my eyes if she apeases me and feel excited and aroused by it; 4th i ended up watching bi sex videos on the web, however here is the tricky part i do not feel excited due to the amazing abs the guy has or something, i feel excited when the three are exchaging touches, kisses and so, so it would i feel aroused about the atmosphere and the sounds of it, than by then guys themseves; 5th gay pron as in just guy on guy, does nothing for me, i have tested it myself and by tool, does not move; 6th even though i am bi-curious and eventualy turn this into reality i would still not consider myself bissexual, because i do not feel romantic atraction with guys as i feel with girls; 7th even though i feel aroused by the sex videos, like i said before i do not feel aroused by men in daily life, nor do i have any crush for some of my close friends or people i know; 8th i do fantasise about the threesome for sometime now; 9th i think it maybe because i got bored of the normal gril on guy videos and needed to change and see something new; 10th - there is an intersting fact that i tend to feel more aroused, about these bi p*rn videos, only when i have not had sex for a while and even more intersting than that is that when i jerk off thats it, i close the website, do not feel the need to watch it all the way to the end.

    I am 25 by the way and currently single!

Most Helpful Girls

  • I agree, I hate that "lesbians" are thought to be so hot. That's disturbing to me but not because I'm straight.

    Guys shouldn't judge themselves so harshly. Gay is gay, whether it's lesbian or whatever. If you're a guy and you hate gay men then liking lesbains makes you a hypocrite.

    • I don't think lesbians are hot, its an instant turn off. Realistically it isn't a good thing but in an ideal word most would prefer a threesome with them

  • I think a lot more men are curious about experiementing with another man but have too much pride to admit it.I am bi and for the longest couldn't admit it I guess it is a pride thing for both genders admitting they have curiousity about the same sex.

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  • Me, I'm very bi-curious. I have LOTS of fantasies about it. Mainly, I fantasize about being in a situation where I'm with a couple and I'm challenged to play a game or a bet. The loser HAS to suck a cock to completion and swallow it, all of it. If he doesn't, he has to come back tomorrow night and do it again, until he does it right. I love the idea that I've lost and now I "have" to do it. I like the idea of a woman watching and encouraging me to go for it.

    Or, I fantasize that I have to eat another guy's cum, several different ways.

  • I am confident in my sexuality and I know that gay is not contagious. I admit being curious about bisexuality. It only stands to reason that women know what feels good so why not try it with another women and see. The same reasoning holds true for men. Men aren't you curious if another man is more knowledgeable of what a great bj feels like as opposed to a women,

    Guys that deny it just ask them if they have watched shem*** p*rn or tr***y p*rn.. When they watch DP do they thing the guys are concerned about rubbing up to each other. Come on fess up guys!

  • Nope, never been bi-curious.

  • I have gay friends. Hell, my roommate last year was gay and we got along fine. We talked about all kinds of stuff along those lines. I don't feel threatened by homosexuality whatsoever.

    But I can honestly say I've never felt any sort of attraction to other dudes. It's just not there for me.

    And when it comes to straight vs. gay vs. bi... for me, I try not to overcomplicate things - if you are a dude and like penis in your mouth and asss, you're gay. If you also enjoy girls that just means you have more diversified sexual interests, but you're still gay. Not in a derogatory sense... just that I don't see the point in some people trying to label themselves 'bi' in order to lessen the stigma of being *gay*.

  • I don't think so... if all men were like that wouldn't I be able to satisfy my own curiosity?

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