Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’ve only been in one relationship in my life. It was short term and I was not in love with him. I love him and care for him (as in having his best interest) but I’ve never been in love. And it bothers me. I’m already in my twenties. Everyone I know has been in love before. And I should not (don’t) have a timeline.
While it it sounds as if I probably haven’t met the right person yet, I wonder if I should pursue a partner again. I am not interested in sex (oral, anal, vaginal) and would prefer to not gamble with a person that may potentially hinder my schedule or cause more unnecessary problems. The idea of falling in love seems wonderful at a glance but I feel as if relationships are a waste of time. All this effort for something that can simply crumble before your feet without notice.
Are some people simply incapable of falling in love?
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15 44Yes, it's true some people are unable to ' fall in love ',
I myself was in like 3- 4 relationships, all serious. I cared for them, spent time with them, and did all those things, but never fell in love, n same is the case now.
Was it a lack of interests? I’m assuming something must have kept them there for a while since it was long term.
Naah , not lack of interest, It was more of, as if I myself didn't wanted to fell in love, on the subconscious level. But I was giving 100% in every relationship I had, this is wot kept them there, coz I have a sense of humor, responsibility n caring nature. it was always the girl who quit, saying u don't feel our love n I used to say, I guess m not I. Love at all. May be I have nt met THE ONE. But till now never fell in love.
That’s a tough one. I hope you figure it out b
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I hope that too...,😀
Well, I, for example decided to... It's a form of surviving in this world where everything and everyone is expendable and change is constant. Etc.
You might be asexual, look it up.
Well it's sounds like you're asexual and you need a partner that mimics the same motivation. If you are really looking for a partner that is. By the way it sounds, you just want the fantasy. Everyone wants that, but it's not real. It's fiction. Real relationships are non fictional and come with real characters. People that have feelings, need sex in some shape or form, and have/cause problems. You might be better off on your own for awhile.
yes most of you women are incapable of real love
its called monkey branching for a reason
Proverbs 5:18
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth
GOD is saying fall in love in your youth
WHY?
because once you get older
IT IS HARD TO FALL IN LOVE AGAIN BASICALLY IMPOSSIBLE
I do not care what anyone says
there are men and women on here
who still think about their first love
when they where young and they are with other people now
and you wanna know why it's so special
BECAUSE IT REQUIRED NOTHING
no money,
no 401-k,
no status,
it was stupid love
the best kind of love
but after the break up
the next group of people now have to prove themselves lol
get the fuck out of here
find someone to fall in love with THAT LOVES YOU BACK NOT JUST LOOKS +_+
I see "falling in love" as a stylized interpretation of normal animal sexual behavior that attempts to make itself a unique experience to humans by injecting overemphasized importance on autonomy. Marriages for most of human history were seen as a more practical thing done through arrangements between family and prior to that mainly for resources and safety. So I guess what i'm saying is this idea of the one and falling in love and being destined for one another is a fairly new development for human relationships. It just so happens that it gained popularity around the time written history started to become more prevalent and reprinted. So i'd argue that realistically no one falls in love but rather people follow natural biological drives, enter into relationships as they would biologically be driven to do, marry do to societal pressures and then either divorce claiming they fell out of love or stay together because the love lasted. When honestly you could just chalk it up to marrying someone who's personality didn't clash enough to force them to leave each other. Love is a fun idea and a great way to make life feel more exciting than it may actually be but no one is destined for love and likewise no one is destined for solitude. It's all just a number of well made choices. Choosing to explore things in order to better understand yourself and meeting enough people to align yourself with someone who's personality meshes well with your own. From there you're just gambling. It's a lot prettier and entertaining to imagine "love" functioning the way movies and TV shows depict it and that's because those mediums often express our fantasies not our realities. But in my opinion real love isn't something you can fall into. it takes work. a lot of work. Both personal work and social work. You've got to learn how to work well with others and think beyond yourself as well as understand your wants and needs and how to appropriately manage yourself. Then love is literally everywhere and your job as a seeker of love becomes more about focus and appreciating than it is about searching and being satisfied.
''Everyone I know has been in love before.''
That is not true because most people are led by the ego, then the love they think they have for another becomes egoic love which is all about control, games, arguments, codependency, lust, or a connection that does not go beyond the mind. If you cannot stop the thoughts in your mind, then it is likely you cannot connect with another much beyond that.
This is why people cheat, get cold feet, split up, or after a few years move on to another... the ego is strengthened by wanting, more than having.
I remember a girl that realized that all of the guys she thought she'd been in love with were just a fallacy...
The only way to love is to go beyond the mind, and to do that takes WORK. How many people do you know that have a constant voice in their heads narrating their life?
How many people do you know that can turn it off?
Yes psychopaths can’t but they can pretend
I am.
Are you a Virgo?
Scorpio
I knew it
Haha what do you mean?
I was just joking, according to zodiac Virgo's are incapable of falling in love if I am correct.
Narcissists and sociopaths aren't capable of loving.
Worth a little googling to see if you fit that profile?
I’m neither don’t you dare place me in that category
Less of the attitude, kid - I didn't place you in any category, I merely suggested a potential explanation.
What's love got to do, got to do with it
What's love but a second hand emotion
What's love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken
Tina turner you tell em
I like a smart lady like you!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGpFcHTxjZs
I want to say no, but at the same time, I know how many people out there have trust issues. It’s hard to fall in love if you can’t trust the person.
Every guy wants sex in a relationship
Its going to be really hard for ya
Yeah it's very sad, but what to do, no body See's the god in their body. Everybody liked mutation always because it new, more qualities, more to expect, more to give, anticipating it too be more complete also. So, it's hard to separate sex and relationship