Been seeing a woman a really like, but she wants us to have a "semi open" relationship?
But there have been red flags, the biggest one being her desire to try a somwhat open relationship. She has brought the subject up subtly a few times, I told her everytime, not with me, and if she wants that she would have to find someone else. I don't mind her with other women, but no dudes period.
Then about a week ago the topic came up again, and this time we had a more serious conversation. She wants us to be able to hookup with random people when traveling but not in our city, but she also wants us to be able to have threesomes with whoever in our city, as long as its together. But reiterates, that this wouldn't happen often, but also didn't put any limits on it when I pressed. She wants me to DP her with another guy, who she says can be anyone, but I know what she really wants is a black guy with a huge dick. That doesn't really bother me as much as watching her fuck another guy, it makes me sick. And would not be an activity for "us" it would be for her. Also, she admits she has never done this with bfs in the past. I am patient 0.
Last caveat to this. She thinks it is a given that she should be able to hook up with women whenever and however she wants, and while it doesn't fill me with jealousy or anything. It seems a bit unfair. Like just cause she is bi, she can hook up with other people. I am straight, so hooking up with guys does not appeal to me.
I have tried to not be judgmental, but these views do not align with my view of a wife and mother of my kids, which is my ultimate goal. I have told her this, and put my foot down. If you are with me, I am the only dick. She seems sad about it, but doesn't want to lose me. And needs more time to decide. What should I do here? It's starting to feel like this will be an issue even if she agrees with me. Should I cut her loose, or give her time?
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