Why are guys often so rough in bed?

Question

Do they feel pressured to perform or is it simply because they like it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I learned 90% of sex at 16 from a Black man and a 38 year old bigger sized (she is 6’2 and 350lbs) White woman,

He taught me about foreplay and how to be good at it, also about positions and on how to thrusts. He also told me of the muscles I should keep strong to be good at thrusting.

The woman guided me on inserting mine into her and on being rougher during thrusting, She preferred the sex to be harder and more aggressive. She said it was important that the woman feel she had been fucked after it was over. It was around that time too that I had a growth spurt that made mine bigger sized and I had also developed what I liked.

Now? First time with a girl, I do a decent foreplay, if she is being done in missionary she would feel that I was rough when I squeezed her boobs hard as I put myself in position and she would find it a rough act as she feels her vagina being forced to stretch and be filled by the penis a new man had put lots of strength to ensure most of it would have gone deep into her. If she was a bigger sized girl then it would be in doggy and it would be fully inserted into her.
I do it that way because I like it, I enjoy the physical feel and also her reactions, I enjoy knowing that now more than 95% probabilities it is mine that had penetrated her the deepest and stretched and filled her the most.

I will only do deep penetration but would not be too rough during thrusting.

9in_Serpent · Accepted Answer

A number of things could make a guy rough in bed
1. Dominant rough sex is enjoyable for men especially if we are well endowed
2. They are trying to please because girls enjoy rough or raw sometimes
3. They want to appear masculine
4. They have anger issues
5. They could be insecure with their size so they try to distract and over compensate by being overly aggressive in bed

tomboy2003 · Accepted Answer

Because they hate us. They are aroused by seeing us suffer and feel pain. Their brain is totally destroyed by the misogyny in porn, but instead of quitting it they get addicted to it. And when they get totally brainwashed by porn, they assume that all women like what they see in porn. They think it’s acceptable to call us sluts, disrespect us, or cause us pain in the same of “kink”. Men who watch porn or want to be rough in bed are dangerous. Stay away from them. These men lack empathy and education

Samantha36 · Answer

Ooh I love ruff sex

summiter · Answer

Guys see that shit on the porn they watch. There is no reason for that unless both of you are into it.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Because you don’t stop them.  it’s about consent, if you don’t like it say something. Also people need to communicate better.

Samantha_Stevenson · Answer

Maybe because women love it and they know it😏

TadCurious · Answer

I think they get that from porn. Having said that, there are women into the submissive thing that are into that.

Dargil · Answer

They don't know better. They think that's what women want.

Tim2nice · Answer

Because a lot of women love it and if we don’t give it we’re labelled nice and boring. Just communicate better your style and needs and you’ll be alright

HawkPerception · Answer

Rough sex is more dominant and feels better. We really get into our primal selves during sex.

SotiCoto · Answer

Some girls like it rough. Some girls don't. And guys won't know what you like unless you very clearly tell them.

DrPepper12 · Answer

This generation grew up watching free porn and that's where they get ideas from. They think women like it. Some do but communication is key. Say no!

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

They like it and it feels good abd the closer they get to cumming the faster they go building momentum and the fact a decent amount of women enjoy abd ask for it