Boyfriend has become increasingly rough in bed, is this becoming an abusive relationship? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

From the get go my boyfriend has always been the one to initiate sexual contact. When I first started giving my boyfriend oral I noticed he took charge immediately and enjoyed controlling how fast or how deep I took him. Then he started forcing himself so far in that I started to gag and tear up, but he wouldn't stop. When I tried to move away he pushed my head down and told me to choke on it. This now happens every time he makes me go down on him. At first I thought it was just a little turn on for him to do that kind of stuff to me, but it's no longer fun to please him when he's being so rough. During sex he used to be gentle and passionate, but now he'll flip me over and force me into awkward, usually painful positions. He stopped asking or caring if I was in the mood, and now he'll just have sex with me whenever he wants, whether I'm "ready" or not... When I tell him I'm not in the mood he'll get really mad. Usually he'll kiss me, and go ahead anyway. I enjoy sex as much as the next, but this is no longer fun or enjoyable for me. He'll use me until he's done, and never gets me off intentionally. I love my boyfriend, but not in bed. When we're out of the house we always have an amazing time. He treats me well enough and says he loves me every now and then. But whenever we're at home alone, especially in the bedroom, it feels like I'm just there for his personal, sexual pleasure. Does this relationship seem strange to you? What can I do to make him stop using me in the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

Hmm he treats you well enough and says i love you occasionally. Thats not exactly the line i would use to convince someone that im in love or being loved. You really dont sound like you love him... it doesn't sound like he loves you.