Boyfriend has this pic as his screen saver but got mad I posted it online is he right to get mad?

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SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Well, I wouldn't want my girlfriend posting half-naked sexy pictures of herself online either. So I can't say he's wrong.

BUT, at the same time... you DO have a right to post whateverthefuck you want. But he has a right to feel how he feels about what you choose to post.

If you don't see anything wrong with it, but he does... then you two need to talk about that. You have different ideas about appropriate behavior and expectations. You need to come to an agreement on those things, or you will have this same fight over and over because both of you think you're right.

If you can't agree on expectations and what's appropriate. The relationship can't work.

This is actually a lot bigger than this picture. This picture is a "symptom" of a broader problem. (You have different expectations around appropriate behavior in a relationship). You two need to talk. Once he's cooled down if he's still heated. But you do need to talk.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think he has a little say in it as far as being upset. Having it on his screen saver is strictly for him to see, not everyone else. So why post it online? I read a comment that you said it’s a sexy pic. Ok but sexy for who? To me it says I need attention, I need validation, my man’s opinion is no where near as important as all the other men who drool over me. Which leads me to think ok you narcissistic? If you still think it’s ok then I think he needs to find a different girl. It’s disrespectful to him as well as your relationship.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You're giving what you give to him... to other strangers online.  He has a right to be upset.  He no longer feels special.

Guy13 · Answer

No he deserves it as this is very disrespectful towards you !!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are the the girl in the pic?

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I mean if you post pics like that usualt then he should expect you to do that. At the same time… perhaps he was hoping it was a pic specifically for him and not for everyone else. Like you have sexy pics for online and sexy pics special for him. Maybe… that would explain him being mad.

Sunssong · Answer

I wouldn't even want it as my screen saver anymore lol.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Tell him to cool his jets. You can't see your face and no one has a clue it is you. You show no more skin that if you were an underwear or bathing suit model.

So, no big deal.

And, you can tell him it was tastefully done.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's his picture and his personal property. Why do you think you have the right to do anything with it? Show some respect for him and his privacy.

RavVid · Answer

His screen saver is private to him and you posting it makes it public. I can see he'd be mad.

exitseven · Answer

It would be a bigger deal if that was you in the picture.

JosyJosy · Answer

Did you do that before you got together?

humanearth · Answer

So what's the big deal. Its just a photograph

Pacquet · Answer

I’d be mad. What part of you thought that was ok? It’s inconsiderate.

genericname85 · Answer

No he isn't right about getting mad. But you're also not right in putting this online while you're in a relationship.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes; he's right.

Zayed_ · Answer

This picture will turn on men. So, how don’t you want him to get mad?

Brando10222 · Answer

Why would you post it lol?

Mayo503 · Answer

It’s a private pic between you two and yes he should say something but go mad…

Twalli · Answer

Since it's probably of you and he had it as something he found special sent to him from you, I can understand why he got mad. It's ultimately your decision, but he probably finds it erotic and doesn't want other guys to see it.