Can sex really be 'just sex'?

[stratford]

Or does sex always come with some baggage?

[Samantha36]

Easily for me. Not for a lot of guys though.

I have had lots of friends with benefits and fuck buddies. Some went on for years. They were all just based on sex. Some guys would catch feelings and ask for a relationship and then I'd just walk away. I would always tell them beforehand that I only wanted sex

[9in_Serpent]

I cam imagine that must always be a bummer for you when they catch feelings for you especially if you had a really good friends with benefits situation built up

[Raeannox]

Yes it can. By eliminating any “possibility” talk.
Both men and women have a category of what they would categorise as “fun only” for particular individuals.

[RobT312]

Nope it can be just sex. At least for me it was.

i had a bad breakup and in between girlfriends…need time before a new relationship and was just having sex

[menina]

Yes is just sex for some people. If they both agree that it will be just sex, then it will be just sex.

[mandyfire98]

Sex can be just sex if both parties are on the same page and truly no strings attached. If both parties completely accept that what they are doing is strictly for physical pleasure.

[Samantha36]

Yes exactly. I always used to be upfront. Sometimes the guy would say the same but after the first time would be wanting to date

[mandyfire98]

It happens. It comes down to emotional maturity really. Understanding your emotions and what they really mean. Just because you share physical pleasure with someone doesn't mean you are instantly in love. It's just lust.

[9in_Serpent]

As a man i honestly can't imagine ever agreeing to nsa sex and then asking to go on a date the next day lmfao thats just so weird!! The most i would ever do is offer a friends with benefits situation if the sex was really good

[mandyfire98]

But even in friends with benefits there can't be romantic feelings involved or it won't work.

[mandyfire98]

During friends with benefits, sex is still just sex. It's not love at all

[9in_Serpent]

Agreed sex is just sex its very physical urge and act much like eating or going to the bathroom lol and yea that would also be weird as well if romance is involved in a friends with benefits its not a friends with benefits situation anymore lol

[mandyfire98]

That's true

[dustybiker2]

It's a state that two people are vulnerable and not something you share with everyone.. so even though people don't admit it it's never just sex. in my opinion

[Samantha36]

I understand what you're saying but for me, I never really felt that vulnerable. I was just focused on having fun and getting off.

[dustybiker2]

I get what you mean. But my point is it's not just open for anyone. If you draw any limits then you are deciding it's not just sex. It's sex with conditions.

[Samantha36]

Yes true. I think you have to be extremely selfish to be able to do it and I'm not proud to admit that I was.

[DrPepper12]

a lot can't pull it off. They catch feels and uy ruins an NSA relationship. To me sex and live are very easily separable.

[sirderpsalot123]

It can

[CubaPirate]

Babies 👶 are massive baggage

[mickeysmonkey]

It can if you want it that way