Boyfriend watched porn next to me while I was sleeping, am I wrong for being upset?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend was laying in bed with me and I was sleeping. When I woke up he was watching porn right next to me and touching himself. We don’t watch porn together. It made me feel very bad and disgusted he was doing this right next to me when I was sleeping. Is this normal? Another thing I wanted to ask. Once my boyfriend was away for two days and I was staying with his brother and the brother’s wife. My boyfriend is veryyyyy jealous. When he came back he had sex with me just to check i didn’t have sex with anybody or his brother. Is this sick or just a little weird?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Would i personally care? No. Have at it though I would be a little sad that I didn't get invited to play too.


This isn't about what I would be ok though so I would say, you are entitled to feel wronged if you aren't comfortable with it. Maybe just tell him it doesn't work for you and that you'd prefer he take it somewhere else without making it a big deal.

The jealousy/sex test thing is just weird though.

[loves2learn]

The porn is normal. Tell him if it makes you uncomfortable. How could he “tell” you didn’t have sex with your brother by having sex with you? That sounds controlling.

[Asker]

It is ok he watches porn, made me upset because i was asleep and he did it in bed next to me while i was sleeping.

[loves2learn]

I get that. I still think it’s normal. He didn’t think you would wake up.

[TheFlak38]

thats what happens you're a boring girlfriend. And don't bullshit me now that you aren't.

[Ironic_Method]

What would you rather have him do? Sounds like he didn't want to wake you up.

[Asker]

Go to the bathroom

[Ironic_Method]

So you're upset that he woke you up?

[Asker]

No i don’t like porn and i prefer him not to watch it next to me. And to have someone right next to me in the same bed watching porn and masturbating cross my boundaries and honestly disgusts me. So at least i think he could respect me and that enough to don’t do it next to me in bed while i am sleeping and go masturbate in the bathroom or something.

[Ironic_Method]

... have you talked to him about this?

[JamieLoves]

You have no control over what he likes , watches and does. If you don’t like him jacking off, then you Jack him off.. if no.. let the man wack it in peace ! For god sakes

[Asker]

@JamieLoves he can wack off and watch all the porn he wants, but if he wants to do it in peace then why do it next to me in bed when i am sleeping.

[rachel776]

boys do that stuff all the time, don't worry about it

[Asker]

I disliked it because i was asleep right next to him and he was touching himself and watching next to me.:(

[ConstantPain]

What's wrong with that

[Asker]

I don’t like it next to me. Would have wanted him to go to the bathroom

[ConstantPain]

But your fine having sex with him like what's the big deal

[Asker]

I don’t have sex with him while i sleep either.

[JamieLoves]

Yes... would you rather he woke you up?

[Asker]

Go to the bathroom