Can you be in a relationship with someone if you haven't had sex with them?

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  • A relationship is not about sex nor should it have sex in it. That is a marriage. As I had told every guy, if they are looking for sex, there are plenty of other women they can fool around with. Sex is learned, and you must have something stable and the right intentions. The last thing you want is developing attachments sexually with the wrong people, let alone not knowing WHAT or who you sleeping with.

    I can tell a lot about a man and the kind of future I would be having or for my family by how he carried himself and lives. If he is rushing sex, then he should be able to see me as a wife immediately and what to get married to. Even if it's within a week. If he is that quick to pull, back at the thought of marriage. He has already shown his true colors, the mask and the veil of blindness are pulled off. He isn't who he says he is. He is just running through women like paper. Maybe others like getting treated badly by those types of men. Not me. It's why I still have my virginity.

    Sex should be with the expression of love between married couples, a man and a woman. If he is not about that, he is about getting his "sexual needs". He is not about love. That kind of person only cares about performance and gaining pleasure. Not love. Your value as a woman gets reduced to a human but fleshy sex toy. If I wasn't celibate, that is no way how I would desire for my sex life to be based on a man. A real man wouldn't even think about doing that or becoming that kind of man.

    I cannot be in a relationship however with a man who isn't waiting or seeing the importance and sanctity of marriage and how valuable sex is to God and how it should be utilized between a man and a woman who are again married. Again, my main focus is getting to know a person romantically. Because if you don't like them romantically, you may not enjoy having sex with them. It is the gradual steps, continuous growth, maturity, and development as human beings that are important.

    At least for me it definitely should be. You need to learn to be a friend, how to be a romantic partner to a person, and how to get along with each other before even thinking about challenging respects such as sex. Sex is marriage also. The moment you lay up with a person you already married. That's the last thing I want to do is be caught up with the wrong man and now I have to stay with a person who I am not legally married to by law and risk that person having sex (divorcing and then remarrying another woman). I encourage people to please learn about what sex REALLY is before even thinking about just sleeping with anyone, and about what kind of future you want.

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  • Sex isn't the be all and end all in a relationship so duh

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  • I’ve had several great friendships with women who were beautiful, sexy, smart people, without ever putting the make on them.

    In another time, place and circumstance I might have been on them like stink on a monkey’s asshole, but -for whatever reason- that just wasn’t on the agenda.

    It DOES need to be mutually understood that what you have going with each other isn’t going to end up with your ‘Tab A’ being inserted in her ‘Slot B’, big disappointments can ensue if it isn’t.

  • Not a romantic relationship. That's like going to a restaurant when you are hungry, waiting for a table, being seated, having your order taken, but ultimately not being served a meal, but still receiving a bill. Who would do that, and what would be the point?

    I'm an adult, and I expect to have adult romantic relationships, and that means they include sex. Sex isn't the only important thing by any means, but it's one of several REQUIRED things.

    • It's sex. It is not an adult romantic relationship. It is straight-up sex. It is a requirement for marriage, but not a relationship where you are learning and growing in your romance. Sex is not food, and it doesn't matter how "hungry" you are. You develop discipline, or you're just hoping from woman to woman and having no "substance" in your relationships. Perhaps you are into junk food that holds no nutrition at all.

    • @btbc92 You can do whatever you want to do in your relationships. I know what I require in mine, and it's not like this has ever really been a source of conflict for me, because, at least the people I deal with, have the same expectations.

    • It is not about doing whatever I want. It is about doing what needs to be done. It is not about being so much of a source of conflict, but what are you teaching others? Your sexual business is yours. But there is a fine line between doing whatever you want because it is whatever you want verse, telling OTHERS what is and isn't a romantic relationship. That is just sex. If your requirement is fornication. That is your business. But you're going to cause a lot of heartache for others who desire more than just sex. Basically what your talking about is not relationships, just hookups. Be if for months or years, it's hookups. Romantica relationships have 0 to do with what your talking about. And being an adult have nothing to do with sexual choices you chose to make. Because now the question is, why is it a requirement for you if it is not the only important thing? Your single. So what are you really benefiting from it? How again is this relationship requirements if your 51, single and still have no partner or stability if your status is true? What then does it constitute romance if romance is suppose to last and be fruitful? What and how is that going to benefit other people? Should not romance be with love and the desire to love? Either I am missing something or your confused? How is sex going to benefit me as a person with a man who requires me to have sex with him? What is the purpose?

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  • No reason you can't, in fact it can be harder to have a relationship you had sex with first. Sex isn't needed for a relationship either.

  • It's called a real relationship.

  • You don’t need sex to have a relationship, but long term I think you do.

  • Obviously yes.

    huge numbers wait until they are married before they have sex

  • You can but sex can make it more fun!!

  • Absolutely yes.

  • Of course

  • yes, duh

  • Of course! It's called a friendship!

  • Obviously lol

  • of course you can. Many people do not have sex for various reasons.

  • I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year before we went there

  • Sex is not needed right away. It will happen in time

    • Or not at all of one of the two are asexual

    • @Heartache0405 WRONG. Sex should never be the source or reason to enter into a relationship. If you just want sex, you get a prostitute, not a person who desires to have a relationship. Sex is for marriage anyway. You do not want to have sex with a person you can not be responsible for. Most women are not stupid. If they didn't want to one day experience sex, they wouldn't be dating you in the first place. I mean really. A lot of you men, no offense act very dense if not like a dunce.

    • Please stop calling normal and healthy heterosexuality as asexuality or whatever that nonsense is. Before you get called a dog in heat and then feel offended saying it's a man's thing or whatever the excuse is now. And besides, most people presuming or self-claiming "asexuality" is just heterosexual people who may not be comfortable with today's hookup culture and it ave greatly impacted their confidence in who they are as a person. All your doing is condemning a person who they may not actually be. Some even have been molested or abused in the past. Please think before you say such things. Sex is not about performance or just pleasure. It should be about expressing love for one another. If you know you have no desire to love a person, just be honest instead of saying you need sex or want something serious. Serious people do not rush sex nor do they just enter into relationships expecting it. If you are so used to getting cookies out of the cookie jar, that is not that other person's fault you already developed such a "Sweet tooth" and no discipline or cavities. It is not my problem a man didn't wait for marriage to have sex. I am still a virgin. That doesn't mean or make me asexual, it means I am a person who takes sex and relationships seriously. Do not have sex with a person you don't see a future with. Before you may get accused of promising such a future you had no desire in delivering.

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  • Of course. Why rush sex?

  • Yes. A business relationship doesn't always require sex for example.

  • Duh..

  • Sex isn't necessary. I was in a relationship for 6 months before having sex.

  • nope

  • Of course, it's called friendship or relatives!

  • Yes but sex should come eventually (hehe). It’s a big part of getting to know the person.

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