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Can you share your loved one?

Recent events that my wife and I shared had raised a question in my head and I thought maybe I could get an answer here. She and I have the sex life of our dreams but we have been enjoying spicing it up for almost the past year. It started by camming on sex sites and grew into threesomes and now group sex. We noticed that it seems that guys are much more willing to share their wives with other men and yet wives are very seldom ok with sharing their husbands. Which made us realize that our relationship seems to be completely backwards from the norm. Whenever I even think about another man touching her I want to kick my own ass for the thought. On the other hand she doesn't mind bringing another women into the bedroom, or 5 or 6 women for that matter. So my question is plain and simple but guys how do you feel about sharing your wife or girlfriend with other men? And ladies, how do you feel about sharing your husband or boyfriend with other women? Whether you are for or against it please explain why.
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  • To me, the idea of being in a relationship but not being exclusive seems self-defeating. Why be in a relationship if you want to have sex with more than one partner? Yes, I do understand that a relationship is not JUST about sex and that you can have emotional closeness with a partner who - for whatever reason - is not capable of having sex. However, for most couples, sex is a means of expressing their love for each other, for being closer, for reinforcing their bonds of intimacy, and sometimes for dissipating the tensions that may have arisen from a conflict. If you are having sex with other partners, I would think the positive power of sex in your relationship would be diluted. And. . . wanting other women would send a message to my partner that she is not good enough to satisfy me. In fact, I have had several long term relationships, and the right woman - by herself - is enough for me.

    I realize that other people may feel differently about this subject and this is not meant as an attack on anyone who practices an open relationship. It is simply my feelings and what works for me in a relationship.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Only if i was able to 'vet' potential lovers. Need to make sure its not going to set off my insecurities

Most Helpful Girl

  • He's shared me, but I'm way too jealous to share him.

    • This is not an attack but I am just curious because when I was allowed another woman, I felt like not allowing her the same freedom she gave me made me hypocritical and selfish. Did you ever feel that?

    • You can imagine my relief when she flat out refused to let another man touch her lol.

    • No, it's a valid question, and I know it often seems like it's selfish to a lot of people. It's all about what each of you are comfortable with. I would have totally understood if he wasn't ok about bringing in another guy, because that's how I feel about bringing in another girl. So one kind of threesome works for us, and the other doesn't. I think they've got to work for both partners, for it to be a plan you can work with?

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  • No way in hell would I ever do that.

  • Yes might be doing that now recently she brought up having a threesomes

  • I'm a carer not a sharer, but hey we're all different so I don't judge

  • I would leave the option to the partner. I wouldn't have sex with another woman, however I wouldn't mind if she had a casual ONS with all safety

  • If you share a partner, you don’t actually love them.

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