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Sexual Health Caught husband cheating! What shall I do?
Anonymous
so I have been married for 3 years now, and am 25. My husband is 28. Let me start by saying I am really physically fit, tall and I attend the gym three times a week to keep a beautiful body. I love sex and am ready to experiment- we have had oral and anal sex, experienced different positions. So 2 weeks ago my husband left his facebook open on my phone, and received a message from a girl which said "You've got an email, please reply". I had never heard of her before, so I decided to check. In the evening I took my husband's laptop while he was having a shower, and was stunned to see what his email contained: nude images of the girl and him, a lot of explicit text regarding what they were planning to do in bed, and, to my shock, a couple of photos she took of him eating her out, to which he replied "I could lick that sweet pu**y of yours for hours. You got me, girl!". This killed me, totally! I figured out he has been cheating for 4 months. It had me completely devastated, but I haven't showed anything to him yet or spoken to him. I wanted to take some time to cool down and see what is best in this situation. It hurts that I still love him and I always thought we had the perfect relationship. What can be the reason he cheated? Shall I dump him? Any advice is really appreciated! Thanks
Updates:
+1 y
So he came home an hour ago. I sat him down and said I kind of felt weird the past couple of weeks and thought he had kind of changed. I asked if something was going on with him. He played it off by saying it was all workplace stress and I needn't worry. So I asked once again if there wasn't anything he wanted to tell me, and he told "Just that I've been missing you so much today". Gave me a kiss, went to take a shower again. Opened his laptop, there are new emails from her.. So lost!
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So I confronted him about the cheating early this morning before going to work. He burst in tears and was on his knees begging for forgiveness. I said I was leaving him and we were done, and left for work. I have received around 20 calls and 15 messages from him begging for us to talk and try to work it out. I haven't answered and think I can't face it right now, so before I decide to file for divorce or try counselling, I'll need some time on my own. THANKS FOR YOUR OPINIONS AND SUPPORT!
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What Girls & Guys Said
23 25Reason? He's a piece of shit.
Dump him? Fuck yeah.
Reading this book atm:
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If he's a sex addict, this book could help you deal with it. It contains cases where you get to hear the partner's perspective too.
I'm not trying to excuse what he did to you, and I'm so sorry this has befallen you. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
Take care.
Divorce this guy
Who cares about the reason take the evidence to a lawyer and get him served immediately. Get your finances in order.
Dump his ass, that is unbelievable, you don't do that when you're married. Take the evidence, take pics and what not. Dump him and divorce, so sorry about this. A better man deserves you. Shame on him
If he cheated on you, that should be enough for you to leave him. He betrayed your trust... one strike and you're out. I'd file for divorce immediately.
Oh crap... he is such an asshole!
I am sorry you must be really hurt... you sound like a fit and good looking and open minded women ! But still he cheats on you means he is a real cheater!! And an asshole!!
I advice you to immediately dump this guy... you have a wrong person in your life... don't continue or forgive him... please!
I know you love him but you can't keep a cheating asshole around you... that will lower your confidence even more...
YOU DESERVE BETTER!! dump him
Wow, I only just read this now... what was the result?
Take pictures and collect evidence of it ) : I'm sorry you have to go through this I'm sure it's been awful. Get a good lawyer
Why are you not acting? It is plain as day what needs to be done.
You need a long talk with him and marriage counseling if you want to save it but it seems like your not enough for him and he is not very committed if he is doing that already and has nothing to do with your looks , he is just looking for new experiences with someone else. You could go out and do the same but it never feels right or worth it. I caught my wife cheating and now I'm only staying for the kids sake for now and it's been going on for years and took me awhile to do the same back but didn't feel right so I'm just waiting it out
They have cheaters programs on radio stations that catch him live on the radio such as Iheart radio in New York and will call him anywhere you want and catch him admitting it if you can wait that long to do that to him since he isn't willing to admit anything but doesn't he realize his mail has been open?
Dump him. Get a new one.
Yes and run fast
Don't get dispute over it, Simply tell him all that you have known about him n her girlfriend.
You can make him understand that you both can live a happy life.
If you conflict over it situation can be worst.
2nd you can a threat if he doesn't stop it here, you can go on the same track.
How woudl he feel if you gave him a taste of his own medicine?
Confront his cheating ass.
If he's cheating that's his fault not yours he obviously doesn't appreciate what he's got your worth more than that so I'd personally kick him to the curb
It will be hard to trust him again after this and controlling someone is not a relationship anyone wants to be in. You deserve better.
you have nothing to be blamed for you sound like a perfect wife. His actions are unexcusable try and catch him in the act then leave his ass for good
I am not going to defend his actions or try to claim that cheating is ok (because if you choose to be together, it's not), but I do want to point out that for a guy, sex is just sex, there is not necessarily an emotional connection. He doesn't necessarily love that other girl, she is just a means for more sex to him. Like I said that doesn't make the situation any better but perhaps you can feel a bit better about it knowing that it wasn't related to love.
Idiot... I feel sad for the girl , or guy if you're into that kind of thing, that ends up with your stupid ass.
the stupidity of the people on this website is baffling. i said a very sane thing that isn't at all hard to understand..