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Anonymous
so I have been married for 3 years now, and am 25. My husband is 28. Let me start by saying I am really physically fit, tall and I attend the gym three times a week to keep a beautiful body. I love sex and am ready to experiment- we have had oral and anal sex, experienced different positions. So 2 weeks ago my husband left his facebook open on my phone, and received a message from a girl which said "You've got an email, please reply". I had never heard of her before, so I decided to check. In the evening I took my husband's laptop while he was having a shower, and was stunned to see what his email contained: nude images of the girl and him, a lot of explicit text regarding what they were planning to do in bed, and, to my shock, a couple of photos she took of him eating her out, to which he replied "I could lick that sweet pu**y of yours for hours. You got me, girl!". This killed me, totally! I figured out he has been cheating for 4 months. It had me completely devastated, but I haven't showed anything to him yet or spoken to him. I wanted to take some time to cool down and see what is best in this situation. It hurts that I still love him and I always thought we had the perfect relationship. What can be the reason he cheated? Shall I dump him? Any advice is really appreciated! Thanks
Updates:
+1 y
So he came home an hour ago. I sat him down and said I kind of felt weird the past couple of weeks and thought he had kind of changed. I asked if something was going on with him. He played it off by saying it was all workplace stress and I needn't worry. So I asked once again if there wasn't anything he wanted to tell me, and he told "Just that I've been missing you so much today". Gave me a kiss, went to take a shower again. Opened his laptop, there are new emails from her.. So lost!
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So I confronted him about the cheating early this morning before going to work. He burst in tears and was on his knees begging for forgiveness. I said I was leaving him and we were done, and left for work. I have received around 20 calls and 15 messages from him begging for us to talk and try to work it out. I haven't answered and think I can't face it right now, so before I decide to file for divorce or try counselling, I'll need some time on my own. THANKS FOR YOUR OPINIONS AND SUPPORT!
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What Girls & Guys Said
23 25Don't confront him, try to catch him in the act with some family members. Then get him hard!
I'm very sorry to hear that, I don't understand why people cheat. And on someone amazing like you? What?
Yeah so just try and catch him out an humiliate him in front of people! Then dump him!
Maybe you spend too much time 'looking good' and not enough time being a wife.
It's not an excuse but it might be a reason.
See, this is why I laugh at people who think marriage is somehow better than a committed long term relationship. It doesn't mean shit.
I think that you should give him an ultimatium or however you spell it and have him come clean ask him if he has been cheating if lies then ask him if its you or her I would say try counseling if he isn't a douche bag but if he is divorce might be an option but don't not try resolving the issue if possible try to repair you marriage im so sorry :(