Could these just be sexual kinks? Or am I dealing with a down low man?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this guy for about 8 months and I noticed some odd things he does in the bedroom. One time he opened up a video on a porn site of a man masturbating and insisted that I watch as we had sex. Often times he opens up the clubhouse app and listens to both women and men talk in whatever clubhouse group he joins and another time he pulled up a guys Facebook live. The guy was just free-styling and smoking weed and like with the video of the guy masturbating, he insisted that I watch that too as we had sex and when I told him it was making me uncomfortable and turning me off, he called himself soothing me into keep going along with it. I don’t want to believe it. I could be overthinking but it just doesn’t seem like things a straight man would do or engage in while in bed with a woman. He also has an obsession with watching porn rather than being intimate with me while we have sex as well.

[Justaguyagain]

It sounds like he have a little bit of a problem, i would break up with him

[DermalPunch]

Yes, he is a deviant. That has become normalized now. The fact is that when you add all of this stuff into your sex life, you become less and less satisfied. He also uses drugs. Please do better. I know you can, should and will. xo

[BrookeAZ90]

If you tell him it's making you uncomfortable, that should be the end of that. I'd explain a little more forcefully that it's not happening anymore and if he's still trying to force it, you probably want to get rid of him.

[Gent207-2]

If he doesn't respect your boundaries by stopping whatever is making you uncomfortable he doesn't love you.

My advice is breakup and run as this will only get worse.

[Asker]

Yea that’s an issue as well and I’m grateful you gave me that advice but as a man, I can’t say if you’re heterosexual or not not but if you are, as a straight man, would you consider any of the things I mentioned he did as odd and weird for a so called straight man to engage in or do? I just don’t want to seem crazy. I need proof that it can’t just be me who would question a man’s sexuality if they did any of those things. People tend to call you homophobic when you catch on to things like this rather than seeing it as you as a heterosexual man or woman, who wants to be with another heterosexual man or woman, naturally, if the man or woman you are with or seeing do things that a heterosexual man or woman wouldn’t do and you don’t go both ways or you’re not homosexual or a lesbian, questioning it.

[Gent207-2]

I am straight as an arrow and this is as homosexual as it gets prior to butt stuff. Honestly this man has bigger issues than homosexual-tendencies. He has no respect for you, no empathy and borderline narcissism in the bedroom. Seriously RUN

[DextroShade]

Yes, he is definitely gay. Tell him to get on Grindr and find yourself a straight guy.

[nudeNhorny]

sounds like kinks, however if you are not comfortable with them he shouldn't force them on you.