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Sexual Health Did I cheat since there was no penetration or kissing and should I tell my husband?
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So I used to be a dancer back in college and I was pretty good at it. Also at dancing "sexy" at parties for fun. It became kind of a running joke among friends that at a guy's bday party, I were to give him a lap dance. My boyfriend, now husband, was ok with it back then. About a year ago, something kinda happened. I was really drunk at a birthday party of an ex classmate. Everyone cheered me on to give him a lap dance and cause they thought it was funny, even private room. It got a little out of hand and I was doing it in my thong. At a certain point he got his penis out, pulled down my thong a little, I said I didn't want to have sex so then he just kinda grabbed my ass cheeks and masturbated between them till he came on me. I don't know how else to explain it. It was really stupid but i was too drunk to even realize that, even though it wasn't sex, it was pretty messed up. I thought it was ok and no one knew, but I met up with him and the other class mates and he totally bragged about it. I never old my husband, but knowing this guy is bragging about it, what should I do? And was it really cheating if my husband is ok with me giving a lap dance to a guy? I know it sounds weird but we are pretty open minded people.
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 18I don't think you've cheated but you have shown a poor lack of judgment and I would probably refrain from consuming alcohol in the future. Tell your husband and see what he says, because if he finds out from someone else then you could end up regretting not being honest with him in the first place.
That is cheating.
If your husband went to a strip club and got a lap dance, wouldn't you be mad? You still turned another man on to the point of orgasm knowingly. How would you feel if your husband came on another woman?
I wouldn't call that cheating, just stupid. If you think word will get back to your husband, tell him first. If not, bury it. If you tell him practice telling the truth but with a mitigating spin.