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Sexual Health Girls, do any of you refuse to suck dick?
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So I've had 3 guys, and the first two dumped me cos I don't do BJS. I've been with my current boyfriend for 6 months and I've never sucked his cock. He keeps asking me and I keep avoiding it. I don't want to put a penis in my mouth. I hate it. I hate sperm as well it's disgusting. I don't want it anywhere near my face never mind in my mouth. Anyway he's been giving me oral 2-3 times a week pretty much from the start. It feels amazing and I like it. I let him fuck me and I ride him sometimes but I hate the idea of fellatio. I'm worried because recently he licked me out for over an hour. I came 3 times then he stopped and asked me to suck him off and swallow his cum. I said NO WAY! He got mad and we argued. Eventually he asked if I would at least toss him off but I wanted to go asleep. I thought he would wank him self off but he just went to sleep with a hard on. He stormed out the next day and said I had give him blue balls. I haven't heard from him in a week. Is he going to dump me too? What's the big deal? I'm on the pill and let him cum inside me but I just don't do oral. Am I selfish Do any of you girls actually like cum in your mouth and even swallow?
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Is there any girls like me who receive oral n don't give? or no oral at all? I want to hear your views- I can't be alone in this. I did try to make some progress. I went round to his and we talked. He went down on me again. I tried to do him. I got as far as putting his soft penis head in my mouth and gagged! This time I did wank him off but he got pissy and huff with me wen I stopped when he started coming and he jizzed on the floor. I didn't want cum near my face! At least I tried.
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A few days ago I sucked dick properly for the 1st time. I didn't like it at first but I kept going managed to make him cum. I felt good I got him off with only my mouth. It wasn't a "complete blowjob" though as I stopped as he was about to cum. My boyfriend laughed and said I had give him a ruined orgasm but was greatful for my efforts. Cheeky git just cos he came on the floor and not in my mouth. Tonight I'm going to try and go one better. I hope Im not sick. Any advice for cum in mouth girls?
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(21)You can't expect him to go down on you, if you won't return the favor. I happily do it, but I won't swallow unless we're in a relationship (risk of STD's)
How many dif guys have u Been with? Do they all expect u to swallow? How many guys have u swallowed? I will have to learn to do it if that's what other girls do or I will always be single
I think I've blown about 5, but I only swallowed with one, because he was my boyfriend. They don't expect you to swallow, and even if they do, you DO NOT have to, they don't have the right for you to swallow.
Only 1/5 oh well that's a bit more reassuring. But the thing is it's not just swallowing I have a problem with. I don't think I could spit it out as I don't even want it in my mouth. What did u do with the other 4? I would feel bad as the guys I have been with lick all my juices so I would feel bad but I can't help it.
I just let them cum in my mouth and then spit, or get them to pull it out before they finish. It's your body, and therefore solely your choice.
It's just a thing your gotta work on :)
Ah ok I might se how far I can get tonight. He doesn't know it as I didn't want to put any pressure on incase I wimp out. I would have preferred uncut penis for my first real try as it looks more appealing. But he's clean so should be ok. If I manage to get him close do I keep going and make him cum in my mouth or do I let him take over finish off in my mouth? All the porn I've seen says the latter but I would like to be in control of it, plus I want to know I can make him cum with only my mouth and hands not his.
Just feel your way through it, do what you feel comfortable doing. It doesn't have to go perfect the first time, just take it easy and see where it leads. I personally prefer the uncut, I find it easier and more appealing.
You prefer uncut? What even soft ones? Or just when they are hard? I guess i can't compare until I've tried both. And I've tried neither so far. I will have a go. I'm watching porn right now to try and get some technique lol. I can't seem to find any uncut penis blowjobs though so it's not gonna be the same. Any links u can send? Lol If I do this I have certainly earned my pussy licked tonight tho ha ha
Cut or uncut, it's pretty much the same when it's in your mouth. I am just repulsed by the whole idea of mutilating a baby boy, so I will always prefer an uncut man, hard or soft.
Does the foeskin not feel flappy and fleshy in you mouth? The last time I tried he was soft and all I felt was soft foeskin on my lips. Eugh. Whereas a nice helmet just looks more appealing. I see your point tho. Cutting off foreskin is just thre same as female genital mutilation. still can't find any videos of girls sucking an uncut penis! It's a bit unrealistic if u ask me like all women having big boobs for men in porn. Also I'm pretty sure guys don't all have 7 -8 inch monster cocks. No wonders people feel bad about their bodies!
No no not at all! When it's erected there is nothing "flabby fleshy" Just make him hard before you put it in your mouth, and you won't feel a difference. It's kinda nice actually, very soft and smooth (regardless of it being cut or not)
I didn't vote as I think the options are a bit biased...
I've also never really done it, but I've to disagree with most opinions here. Just because a guy goes down on you and you let him, doesn't mean you're automatically in debt in doing the same. The way you explained, it sounds more like he really likes doing it, but then feels betrayed when you don't want to reciprocate.
Like another girl said, you don't have to go all the way the first time, but not even a handjob? Can't get near his penis at all?
I think it might be because you're young as well and are overthinking this, plus he's pressuring you. Push his brakes, take it easy at your own pace and have fun.
It's not about being selfish, not like you ask him to go down on you, right?
Well I have a confession I do ask him if he doesn't do it automatically. I used to tell him he could fuck me if he licked me first but recently I said I'd suck him if he licked me, he gave me a hour long session I must have came at least 3-4 times. When it was my turn i managed to take him in my mouth but only for about 30 seconds. I did gag again but not straight away. I had to stop sucking after that. I give him the best habdjob I could and made him cum on his belly. He said he liked the habdjob but is still disapointed he couldn't get sucked till he would cum. And hates that I don't go near his cum wtf? It's the most I've ever tried. But I just hate having a penis in my mouth.
I have no problem sucking it but I do not want cum in my mouth at all. So he can come on my tits or some other part of my body. I find the thought of cum in my mouth to be absolutely revolting.
Finally another girl who hates cum. I don't like have a dick in my mouth either though but I have tried it recently. And failed. Gag.
Umm why did you have to make your answers so explicit? Makes me think you're really a guy. Kind of weird. Don't know any girls who talk that way.
Anyway, only do what makes you comfortable. If they dump you because you won't give a BJ, they're shallow as fuck.
Erm no I'm not a man. Jeez thanks for knocking my esteem even more! So guys won't stay with me and I sound like a guy! Maybe this is why! Explicit- maybe a little as this is all i have heard off the three guys I have been with especially my current guy "Oh please baby just suck it a bit" I must have heard 100 x. I read posts on here by girls and guys and I thought blowjobs nearly always ended up with swallowing or spitting?
I love it! I have always swallowed and it makes my man happy. It's called being in a grown up relationship. I would never deprive him of that I thinks it is really selfish you should want to make him happy. It tastes fine!!! Like I said I love it. Yes it's very easy to find someone who will so he will probably leave you or you could grow up and stick his dick in your mouth!
Grow up? I don't think acting adult has anything to do with it I just don't like the idea of blowjobs. I can't understand how you can actually like a man's sperm in your mouth let alone swallowing it!
I don't spit or swallow I just can't. I'll do it though and make sure he knows to tell me when he's going to cum. He can do that on me just not in my mouth. If he ever did I would never give him a B J again. I was married for over 20 years and he never didn't tell me. He'd never want to risk not getting it again.
When u say on me do uRant on boobs? Or on face? I know some girls do that but I couldn't do that either.
Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with but also look at things from his point of view... How would you feel if he didn't give you oral? You need to help him release the same way he helps you
Are u a Bj girl? Do u swallow? How was your first time? I'm thinking of texting him and telling him I will suck his dick lol
I wasn't when I first started! I hate anything new! Takes me ages to get used to things... My partner knew this from the beginning,,, don't feel like yours is adding pressure think of it more as encouragement. When I first tried it I wanted to give up. I told him so, the best way I found was to have your hair up, have him standing or sitting in front of you dependin on height and let him guide your head, think of it as a lesson, let him show you how we wants it, don't feel you have to spit or swallow, from this you can get him to cum on your boobs... I swallow, make sure he tells you when he is close... If he gets close while your learning then you're doing good, my inexperience turned my boyfriend on so this helped me but it's nothing to workday about.. Don't text him, if you really want to do it then invite him over for a chat and surprise him, it will turn him on more and possibly make the whole thing more relaxed! Also if you decide last minute you don't want to them no pressure
Ok thanks for your advice. I was just about to text him. I want him to know I care about him so I sent him a naughty pic of me instead. What does cum taste like? How much of it is there? Does your guy shoot many times if u know what I mean?
That's a little unfair.. He does for you but you won't do for him. I understand how you feel though. I always said I would NEVER put a guy's dick in my mouth but then I did for my boyfriend... and I still do. I'm not gonna say I like doing it but there's something satisfying about how much power it gives you over him and how amazing it makes him feel. Let a guy cum in your mouth and he'll do anything for you. Trust me you won't regret it.
Does cum not smell or taste horrible though? I don't like the touch of it never mind the taste. How often do u give Bjs? Do u always swallow? I don't know if I can get past the thought of what he pees out of in my mouth
Lately.. once every two weeks I guess. Every guy is different. I don't really ever taste his. I just swallow before I can taste it. I always swallow. But hey, on the bright side its supposed to be high in protein! He won't pee when he cums.. so don't worry. And pineapple makes cum taste better if you're really THAT worried. I looked up techniques on the internet (I know, I'm a nerd). He'll cum faster so its not like you'll be sucking for 20 minutes. Just try it! I know it can seem super scary when you don't know what you're doing but you will be so relieved the first time he finishes and you're like, "Yes, I did something right!"
Once every 2 weeks? Is it after sex or just a blowjob for him? Does he ask you or do you just go down on him? I like this guy but I prefer the look of a pussy to a penis. I'm not a lesbian as I'm not attracted to girls but I would rather lick a pussy than suck a cock. I might have to try it though. I don't want to be a lesbian or single all my life.
Suck him off under the shower and let him come on your breasts, using your hands at last. Make him promise to warn you before he cums. That would be a good compromise? Minimal taste, smell or mess.
It is kind of selfish that you let him give you so much oral but never do it in return. You can't always take without ever giving.
I guess I could try that. But all the guys I've teied have always wanted to cum in my mouth- I've been told I have nice BJ lips lol the irony
Haha xD still, compromise is key in this situation. You might also just need to get used to it first. Not like im that much of a cum lover - I like giving head but hate the taste
If u don't like the taste does it not make you gag?
Nah, I just have a terrible taste in my mouth for hours. And it makes me shiver.