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Do guys find it cringey if they're with a virgin who's ashamed/embarrassed about sex and has unrealistic expectations?

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  • The shame/embarrassment thing can be worked through, but the unrealistic expectations are probably a much bigger problem.

    Too many girls believe the whole Disney princess fairytale, and think that a relationship is supposed to be nothing but romantic bliss and happily ever after - that it will solve her problems and make her happy, and little birds and squirrels will clean the house while she dances. That's the most common kind of unrealistic expectation.

    Now, if we're talking SEXUAL unrealistic expectations, well, yeah, guys with porn cocks are only a teeny tiny fraction of the population, and those guys do so much Viagra that some of them can't even get an erection normally anymore and had to have surgery and implants to manually restore their function (if you can call it that). Several have also died at a young age, likely due to so much Viagra. Most guys aren't going to be able to bang a girl for 45 minutes straight (and neither do the guys in porn - they might need 4 hours to get enough footage to make it look like a single 45-minute scene).

    • See my reply bellow for what I mean by unrealistic expectations

    • Your first time being penetrated is likely (not guaranteed, but likely) to come with some pain, and the feeling of having something inside you is also likely to be weird and so it might take a few times before you can really feel pleasure (or, maybe, the full amount of pleasure) from penetration, but that doesn't mean you can't experience pleasure. Much of your pleasure is going to come from foreplay - making out, breast play, fingering, oral, etc. - and so you shouldn't expect penetration to be your only shot at pleasure. But, yes, it's not uncommon for it to take 3-5 times of having sex before it starts feeling really good for a woman, so if it seems less than amazing at first, know that it will get better. How you experience sex, especially your first few times, is going to depend greatly on the partner you pick. It's important that he's not selfish, but rather makes your pleasure a priority, and it would help if he was experienced. There should be plenty of foreplay before penetration, and you should be very wet and as relaxed as possible (difficult, I know). And you need to be able to communicate with each other openly. Follow those guidelines and it would be tough to go wrong.

  • I couldn't care less. I like you. Not whether you're a sex goddess in the bedroom.

    Besides, I'm find with leading everything. It doesn't matter to me, and I always make sure you're comfortable. I've never had a bad sex experience with a girl like this. She just needs to trust me and her trust is something that I know I have to earn. And when she trusts me things will always go very well and we will have great experiences together.

    • That sounds really nice actually

    • Look for someone who is very honest. Even if the they tell the truth when it hurts, it's better to be with an honest person.

Most Helpful Girls

  • As a Virgin myself. I’m not ashamed or embarrassed about sex. I do believe in sex before marriage, but I never found the right person. Who I trust completely with my body.

    I do have fantasies about sex, that I’m sure are unrealistic expectations. But no one is perfect.

  • Reading the comments is so helpful. As a virgin I’m scared of his expectations of my role cause I won’t be experienced and therefore maybe not what he’s used to therefore not meet his expectations?

    • Pm me. I can answer any questions you have since I’m very experienced 😊

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  • Hmm, that would be an odd situation, I'd only have sex with a virgin again if I was training her. So, let's say this person is you. You like older guys, hey, I'm older. On my end I fail to see where this relationship is a good thing for me. Now you offer to be anything I want you to be, and you're sincere about it. I have a reason to pursue you, and whatever comes about from it.

    This would mean of course showing you what I like, and trying to figure out what you like. The process would be intense as pain is likely something you enjoy, but figuring out from where, how much you enjoy, and can tolerate are not just important, but always shifting. You can have unrealistic expectations, everyone does whether we know what they are or not.

    Getting with a someone who's a virgin unless it's for novelty, is agreeing to train them. To train you to enjoy yourself, to train you to enjoy me, want me, and even if sex hurts every single time we have it, to crave it from your ears to your toes. It's a tough thing to do. I've done it before, and it is exhausting, also the immense patience, and pain tolerance I have to show. Anywho, that's just my view. I could be totally off, or those are my unrealistic expectations, but virgins are a lot of trouble as far as time and effort. I just want to make sure that I'm investing that in someone who will stick around a while.

  • No one should be shamed for not doing an unrealistic sex position. If anyone does that to you, don’t stay with them. You deserve better.

  • No, maybe she's just uninformed on sex related stuff. It can be kind of cute to hear what they think even though it could be wrong. Sure they could be funny or just really weird ideas/views but I'd never tease of make fun of a girl for having certain expectations or ideas about sex if she was a virgin. Everyone is a little intimidate by sex before their first time since they can never fully know what to expect.

  • When dealing with virginity issues, ALWAYS best for frank discussions of expectations---

    Think of her body like you're playing a new piano for the FIRST time.

    DON'T rest YOUR expectations of HER uninhibited enthusiastic participation.
    MOST Suitors DON'T possess THAT skillset.
    She's trustingly giving YOU the keys to her kingdom and through her anxiety,
    she'll TRY to follow YOUR instructions and leads.

    'Gentle'... will leave predominantly positive first experiences.
    DO NOT 'boldly go, where no man has gone before' ~

  • Not at all.

    that is why we are able to talk to people and understand them.

    it’s not about if a person is a virgin or not.

    it’s about reassurance, making them feel comfortable, and that holds true even if no sex.

    it’s important you respect the other persons and if you can help them understand and relax, feel comfortable

  • it can be cringy if you feel cringy, try to accent you won't be at your top shape at the beginning and be down to earth about it, it is not that weird to be still a virgin

  • "Cringey"? No. Not at all. It just means s/he is a bit inexperienced AND immature.

  • sounds like every fanfiction ever. like I don't know yeah kinda cringey. at this point it's evolved into a trope.

  • Not at all. It's just a matter of communication with a dose of reality.

  • ? The virgin part is no problem. I don't know why you would be embarrassed about sex and I suppose it depends in the unrealistic expectations, perhaps I could deliver anyways. Compounding issues is what throws me off.

  • Then yes from the get go you are already having to convince them about normal things

  • No not at all actually i respect her more if she's virgin

  • yes.

  • I personally prefer non virgins over virgins. However high expectations from any group can be disappointing.

  • Uh yeah, ya think? But ya gotta start somewhere.
    Tell us why you have unrealistic expectations.

  • Virgins>Non virgins anyday.

  • no i find it cute

  • Not at all.

    It everyone has a first time and everything you hear or read about, no one is sure what to expect and it's different for everyone of course. My first time, the girl I was with had a little experience so she was able to lead me a little bit. Now, if I'm with someone who's a virgin or not very experienced I am more than happy to lead and talk her through it.

  • LOL. I think ALL female virgins have unrealistic expectations.
    So, I mean, no surprise there.

  • What are the unrealistic expectations?

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