Do you consider online sexting and mutual masturbation over Webcam cheating?

Question

My boyfriend can't seem to get away from online women and in his opinion his behavior isn't cheating because it's online. I would like to hear other people's thoughts on the matter.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would definitely say this is cheating and I think most people would say so as well. If you're not okay with it, then it's not okay. If he doesn't agree with that, then you guys need to evaluate the relationship.
I don't think cheating is a definite thing. Most people have their own idea of what constitutes as cheating, but partners need to be in agreement on where that line is drawn.
In my first relationship, I chatted with someone online once. I genuinely did not realize it was cheating. I was pretty young and very stupid. I was devastated when I realized the gravity of what I did. My boyfriend was upset but didn't think it was too big of a deal (turned out he was sleeping with other women) but I was devastated. Since then, I have made a point to stay away from any conversation that may turn sexual, whether online or in person.
I think most people would be really hurt by this and you have every right to be.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

I consider it cheating, yes. Porn isn't cheating to me because you're not getting yourself actively involved with another person, just consuming material that wasn't like... Made for you or given to you specifically. Sexting and mutual masturbation or watching someone or being watched or whatever, that's all interacting with someone in some way, y'know? That to me would be cheating.

dollygurl · Accepted Answer

Yes it's cheating. He's not respecting you at all, and if he's telling u that, then it's quite obvious how important you are to him.
It's not right and u shouldn't put up with his attitude and what he's doing.
In the long term, I don't think he will progress into making u feel secure and happy... Do u think I'm wrong?
Dear... Look for a guy that respects you and is equal

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

Yes, of course. That is definitely cheating in my opinion. I personally do not think behavior like that should be tolerated. Unless you have some sort of agreement such as an open relationship, it's not okay for him to do that with other women, even if it's online.

HarrisonWells · Accepted Answer

did you happen to discuss this previously? as in within or without the parameters of your relationship? to me it would be common sense cheating but to a man like your boyfriend, maybe not. sit him down and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and if he'll continue that it is grounds to end the relationship

super147 · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's cheating. He doesn't have to believe it's cheating, nor do you have to give a shit what he believes. He is lusting over other women and acting upon that. You should just dump him, simple.

jayjay16 · Answer

I'm in the same boat and asked almost the same thing yesterday. so far it's like a 50/50 yes and no.. so it did help much

Máiiréad · Answer

I have no tolerance for that. It's cheating.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If it is something that you cannot do openly in front of your spouse or significant other, then it is wrong. (Unless you are planning a surprise birthday party.) :)

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Yes, he is being intimate with some one else even if its only online he is still being sexual with them. I would very much guess that if you did the same he would consider it cheating.

RasmusAiken · Answer

If it is upsetting to you then it is cheating. Some could tolerate this kind of crap. But don't think for a minute that you have to. Tell him either his online fantasies are gone or you're gone.

tl3006 · Answer

Yes!

Allie_ · Answer

That's a little messed up

Imafreespirit · Answer

what the hell? of course that's cheating

BCRanger10 · Answer

Yes, it is cheating.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Yes - online or not that is still intimate.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

It doesn't matter what we think, or what he thinks, the only thing that matters is what you think: you're clearly not comfortable with this so things can't go on like this.