Do you consider online sexting and mutual masturbation over Webcam cheating?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend can't seem to get away from online women and in his opinion his behavior isn't cheating because it's online. I would like to hear other people's thoughts on the matter.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely say this is cheating and I think most people would say so as well. If you're not okay with it, then it's not okay. If he doesn't agree with that, then you guys need to evaluate the relationship.
I don't think cheating is a definite thing. Most people have their own idea of what constitutes as cheating, but partners need to be in agreement on where that line is drawn.
In my first relationship, I chatted with someone online once. I genuinely did not realize it was cheating. I was pretty young and very stupid. I was devastated when I realized the gravity of what I did. My boyfriend was upset but didn't think it was too big of a deal (turned out he was sleeping with other women) but I was devastated. Since then, I have made a point to stay away from any conversation that may turn sexual, whether online or in person.
I think most people would be really hurt by this and you have every right to be.

[dollygurl]

Yes it's cheating. He's not respecting you at all, and if he's telling u that, then it's quite obvious how important you are to him.
It's not right and u shouldn't put up with his attitude and what he's doing.
In the long term, I don't think he will progress into making u feel secure and happy... Do u think I'm wrong?
Dear... Look for a guy that respects you and is equal

[fauchelevent]

I consider it cheating, yes. Porn isn't cheating to me because you're not getting yourself actively involved with another person, just consuming material that wasn't like... Made for you or given to you specifically. Sexting and mutual masturbation or watching someone or being watched or whatever, that's all interacting with someone in some way, y'know? That to me would be cheating.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Yes, of course. That is definitely cheating in my opinion. I personally do not think behavior like that should be tolerated. Unless you have some sort of agreement such as an open relationship, it's not okay for him to do that with other women, even if it's online.

[HarrisonWells]

did you happen to discuss this previously? as in within or without the parameters of your relationship? to me it would be common sense cheating but to a man like your boyfriend, maybe not. sit him down and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and if he'll continue that it is grounds to end the relationship

[super147]

Yes, it's cheating. He doesn't have to believe it's cheating, nor do you have to give a shit what he believes. He is lusting over other women and acting upon that. You should just dump him, simple.

[jayjay16]

I'm in the same boat and asked almost the same thing yesterday. so far it's like a 50/50 yes and no.. so it did help much

[Raveen]

same boat?

[Asker]

What are your thoughts?

[jayjay16]

yes, meaning my boyfriend does the same thing, mutual masturbation via webcam on the internet and stuff

[jayjay16]

I mean I think it's a way if cheating but not fully cheating.. it's a very grey area. in ways it is cheating because it is live and semi intimate with someone else, but in a way it's not because it's kind of like, just porn.. I don't know.

[Asker]

Does he frequent dating sites as well?

[jayjay16]

he did. I confronted him about it all a couple of weeks ago about everything, I gave him an ultimatum of me or is online girls. and so far it seems it has all stopped but I'm not a 100% sure. and even if you give him another chance it is very hard to trust him at all

[Asker]

I've tried that ultimatum. A few times actually. I figure it all comes down to that I forgave past discrepancies numerous times so I'm asking for it

[jayjay16]

if he chooses them over you, then maybe it's time to let him go especially if you have given him a choice. for me, if I find out that he is doing it again, I'm leaving him, and I told him that which will be hard after being together for so long and engaged to be married next year. it's a very hard situation, but us girls don't deserve to be disrespected and degraded. regular porn is one thing, but one on one webcam intimacy I feel crosses the line.

[Asker]

Maybe it really is time to move on

[jayjay16]

it would be hard, but you deserve better and deserve to be chosen over internet girls

[Máiiréad]

I have no tolerance for that. It's cheating.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yes, he is being intimate with some one else even if its only online he is still being sexual with them. I would very much guess that if you did the same he would consider it cheating.

[OlderAndWiser]

If it is something that you cannot do openly in front of your spouse or significant other, then it is wrong. (Unless you are planning a surprise birthday party.) :)

[RasmusAiken]

If it is upsetting to you then it is cheating. Some could tolerate this kind of crap. But don't think for a minute that you have to. Tell him either his online fantasies are gone or you're gone.

[tl3006]

Yes!

[Allie_]

That's a little messed up

[Imafreespirit]

what the hell? of course that's cheating

[BCRanger10]

Yes, it is cheating.

[ThisDudeHere]

Yes - online or not that is still intimate.

[JohnDoe3000]

It doesn't matter what we think, or what he thinks, the only thing that matters is what you think: you're clearly not comfortable with this so things can't go on like this.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Yeah well his opinion is wrong.
Fuck that.
Dump his ass.

[Ayshea]

Yes, it's cheating.

[FakeName123]

Masturbation over webcam, Yes.

Online sexting is kinda a grey zone, but to me it is a yes as well.

[doctorwhofan23]

yes that is cheating.

[MsElizabeth96]

Online sexting no, but obviously still disloyal and wrong. The webcam thing, not sure. It's as good as cheating really

[Andrew2128]

No you're only cheating if you get married and you go behind his back and have sex with somebody else

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes.

[gobsmacked3]

the main query over this is why do you put up with it?

tell him to stop being a disrespectful twat or to fuck off

[GoodLuckCharlie]

It's, uhh, cheating.