Do You Or Would You Support/Accept If Your Child Was LGBT? And Should You Discuss With Partner Prior To Having Kids?

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Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

If I had children and they turned out to be gay or bisexual, I would be supportive and accepting. I have nothing against LGBT people and as long as my children are not hurting themselves and others, I have no reason to oppose their sexuality. What they do is their business. However, to be honest, if I had a child that was transgender, I might not be as supportive compared to them being gay or bisexual. I am still not convinced that transgender people are the sex/gender that they claim to be. Biological sex is not something that you "feel;" it's embedded in your DNA. If you have 46 XY chromosomes, you're a male, and if you have 46 XX chromosomes, you're a female. Your genitals and ability to reproduce is determined by these chromosomes. Because DNA can't be altered, you can't actually change your gender. If my child does feel that he or she is transgender, I feel that I should explain the science before they attempt to spend a ton of money on a surgery that would help them attempt something that is biologically impossible. The worst case scenario is that they undergo the surgery, but regret it later, or be a victim of a serious crime by people that hate transgender people. If anything, of course, transgender or not, I would always love my child, but I feel that I would be more supportive of my child by helping them understand reality instead of helping them achieve something that is scientifically impossible. As for discussing it with your partner, yes you should. It is important that both you and your partner are on the same page. If one parent is supportive while the other parent is against it, that could be hard on the child growing up.

DanaeAdam5 · Accepted Answer

Of course I would!
I'm a member of LGBTQ community my shelf so it would be really weird/hypocritical if I didn't.

MY kids can be whatever they want. Atheist, Christians, Gay, Straight, Trans etc.

As long as their not doing anything illegal or hurting anyone I will be proud of them and support them. 🙂

AndyFo · Accepted Answer

I would accept and support them until I die and defend them even more so from those that would discriminate against them. This answer does not stem from the fact that I am bi, but rather from the experience of seeing children disowned by their families because of something that was never their choice. To see a child lost in the world because their parents abandoned them is the worst feeling I can imagine and I would never put my own kid through that. I am sick and tired of bible thumpers trying to tell me I am going to hell, but for my kids I would face them everyday with a smile on my face.

slicwhenwet · Accepted Answer

If you think your partner would have an issue with it you should speak to them about it before have children.
I would be supportive of my children. They can love whoever they want no change for them in my heart.

meesegoMoo · Answer

I wouldn't support them. I couldn't disown them either. I'd rather have a monogamous lesbian daughter than one who can no longer count how many men she's been with.

You DO without any doubt in my mind need to discuss it with your partner. Having the same values, or understanding each-other's values will save you much trouble. Even with other issues. You can't have the mother talking about human value while the father is teaching him how to lie to women and sleep around without getting caught.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I have no choice but to deal with it, but i’ll never fully accept it. They’ll have to wait til they move out at 18+ to act on it. Cause thats not happening in my household

Spiffy_and_Tails · Answer

I'm not gonna disown them, and I'm gonna have to accept whatever happens, but I wouldn't be supportive of that decision. Fortunately I know how to disagree with someone on a very fundamental level and still maintain a good familial relationship with them.

I'd never want my child to feel they can't trust me or come to me for help, but that shouldn't mean I have to abandon my own beliefs to support their decisions. People are different, and not everything is good or right. But we are all in this together, and we should act like it a lot more often than we do.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

What do you mean by child? If a seven year old says they are a different gender I would never take that seriously because, well they don't even know what gender is let alone that they are a different one. If your saying they are old enough to understand and have come out (like 18 or older) as trans or what have you, and the medical evidence is clear (because at least for trans their are many factors and not all of them are actually trans), then yeah, I would accept them. I don't have an issue with some one acknowledging what they are, just when they do it for attention or because they don't have all the data (this is an issue with transgenderism, many transition back because it turns out they had body dysphoria but were not transgender (but because that's all they hear about the topic that its only associated with transgenderism they think that's the only option).

Tyrael · Answer

Absolutely. I'm not sure I'd think to discuss it with my partner beforehand, but I'd like to think if I'm having a kid with them then I would at least know their feelings on the topic.

FauxGirlNikki · Answer

You'd be a pretty crappy parent if you DIDN'T support your child no matter what...

Ericalovescats · Answer

Yes I would never disown my child ever, nothing could make me love my child less. Any religious rules or anything like that would never permit me to disown a kid.

Any parent who does that or even hypothetically would do that is not a true parent and frankly if I had my way would promptly kick the shit out of anyone heartless enough to do that.

Johnson7319 · Answer

No I wouldn't support it.. might tolerate it because it's my child but accept and condone? Guess we're all running off to hell cause I won't abandon my kids

Jjpayne · Answer

I feel it's their journey. I think it's ok to share what we believe but then it's up to them to be free to make their choice. And to be clear what we believe will not be used to condemn but to just show a life style choice. Like the amish have to live the amish community or stay in the amish community

ecfresh · Answer

I believe patenting is the hardest job in the world; also believe it’s the most rewarding. So much like starting a business with a partner obviously things must be planned out and possible outcomes should be discussed beforehand. But yes, personally if my son or daughter chose not to be straight I would still love them and want them to be successful in life. I believe parents really matter in raising a well adjusted adult and the sacrifice parents make is worth it as the child grows up and learns to accept and love themselves. I think if a child didn’t feel love or acceptance from their parents that would stunt their emotional growth and lead to further challenges down the line. Have heard too many stories of children being abused and how that abuse manifests later in life with how they treat others and themselves. So yes, I want to be a father who loves his kids and does a good job raising them.

arabgoddess · Answer

I wouldn't hate them for it

mrdrawesome_esquire · Answer

I'd support them all the way. I guess it's important to talk to your partner about it prior to being in a marriage even. It's good to know if you think alike.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah I’d always support it

archiz · Answer

Definitely, I am queer myself lol.

TCredo · Answer

100% and it would certainly fall under both unconditional love for children and just overall acceptance... and I'd like to think I'd say that even if I wasn't bisexual myself.

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Of course I'd accept it the only issue that might be of concern would be if I only had 1 kid and wouldn't have a chance at grandbabies but still that would be their choice and really I don't recommend having kids because I think things are going to get bad everywhere and going through it by yourself will be hard enough but having to watch your babies go through it will be unbearable

RandD4Ever · Answer

yes I would

worldscolide · Answer

Child... No, grown adult, yes.

ThatGuy133 · Answer

Yea I’d support my kid. I don’t see the point of discussing something like this before having kids. I get planning out in case of shit but this is one of those situations that there shouldn’t be a debate.

vannefftor · Answer

Id never just disown my kid over a sexual pref although id prefer they be straight so that the bloodline continues but thats more of an instinctual desire than a necessity out of parenthood. Dont even have kids but ik id love whoever they became long as theyre not psycho killers

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