Do you think being good is boring?

[DizzyDesii]

And do you think you’re a goody goody? I think I’m good... at what I do. Lmao nah but forreal, I do think I’m a good girl despite what some think 🤣 And I like good boys who will be bad when I need them too. Lmao lemme stop. But seriously, good guys definitely attract me more than bad boys. Its so much hotter when they’re good but bad just for you. Now this is not to be confused with “nice” guys. Fauck them lmao. I think some people think being good is boring because it takes extra effort and they don’t want to put in work. Now I won’t say I like a challenge lol, But I dont mind giving it my all. I’m just not gonna waste all my energy on something if it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Still, I like that good boys surprise you. They are so seemingly innocent on the outside but full of flavor once you keep sucking enough to get to center. Damn now I want a jawbreaker #FeelFreeToList

[Alchemizt]

I'm that quiet guy who gets talkative and crazy once you get to know me lol. I don't like partying and I don't smoke or do drugs, so some people who like that stuff may call me boring. Many people have told me "Thought you were some nerd at the beginning, geez look at you now" lol. I don't say I'm completely a good guy, I do have my bad side, but overall I think I'm good. I don't know I let people decide. I've had some very interesting conversations with some of the so called "boring good people". And some of the "Bad and cool people" I've met turned out to be complete morons and a**holes. So I have to say being good is not boring. Boring is when you have no sense of humor, no interesting conversations stuff like that.

[DizzyDesii]

I fuuuuully agree! You sound great

[exitseven]

Sometimes I get down on myself because I think I have led a pretty boring life. I have never been arrested, don't use illegal drugs, never had a threesome or anal, never had an affair , I really do not have any kinks and have a really low body count. I mostly tried to be a good person and a good boyfriend and husband. I usually thought about how I would like to be treated by somebody. I know that probably more than one girl thought I was not cool enough or was boring and lost interest in me. But I am what I am. Me and Popeye.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the stuff you described that people consider fun is just horrible. Definitely stay true to yourself

[exitseven]

thanks- 😊😊

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Rosexøxø]

In general,

people find “being bad” more thrilling, and to have/ give off stronger emotions.

They don’t appreciate the warm feelings that are felt with ‘good.’

Also, to mention, it’s possible people like ‘bad’ because ‘good’ is usually “Routine” or “normalized,” and a place of comfort-zones.

It’s a wrong interpretation because all things good, can still be all things wild.

Someone may get a strong high from drugs and say that’s for them, but meanwhile, they never tried skydiving 🪂 like the other person, who’s “good,” and getting a high off of that.

If anyone is wondering.. you can STILL get high off of ‘good.’

You can still feel amazing and “bad” or untamed better yet, and truly free, in being good as well.

People only want bad because they never understood how great the good of life can be. Good can still be unpredictable. Good isn’t uniform.

It can be, but it doesn’t have to be.

People also like bad because they like doing something, someone else told them not to do lol.

Kissing in the library, after being told not to can be just as fun as kissing on a rope swing , swinging into a lake or something, or kissing on a horse running- at who knows what- mph.

Me, personally. I like the good.

Anyone ( I ASSUME) can look at the film “the good, the bad, and the ugly,” and see that Clint Eastwood had just as much action as the bad boys. Difference is, he left with the rewards lol.

Good is smart in the long run, and everyone likes the good. Usually. Lol

[DizzyDesii]

Great response! I prefer good too but i admit i love routine 🤣

[Rosexøxø]

Tyvm 😊 and I totally respect that! 🤝

[WindAtMyBack]

Being good is not boring. Being TOO good is boring. Come on. Live a little.

Door number one. Door number two. Door number three. Something bad might be behind them. Something fun might be behind them. To open a door or walk away? I'm gonna open one of the damn doors.

Live your life. Take some risks. Just know when it's too much risk.

[DizzyDesii]

I think everyone lives a little but in their own way. Whats fun to you may not be fun to them

[WindAtMyBack]

That's true. The entire question is subjective. I'm not judging anyone. Not about this anyway. :)

[21Cowboy21]

I find they are yes. I have always disliked hanging out with people (both guys and girls) that were too timid to try anything fun or be open to adventure (wether approved by others or not).

Skinny dipping with a girl in the backyard pool when the old man was out growing up was always fun in high school.

The other one I love now that I have my own place is a hottub in my backyard with friends. My brother gave me a rope & wooden homemade "clothing required sign for when family/kids are over during social gatherings, and on the back a "clothing optional" sign on the other side for when its just the friends or dates is always hilarious and leads to some fun evenings.

[DizzyDesii]

I hate adventure unless it involves gambling or fckin in public 🤣

[anon1903]

I hate adventure unless it involves burning something or vandalism

[DizzyDesii]

@anon1903 so rebellion? Lmao

[21Cowboy21]

@anon1903 LMAO out of fckin no where. Vandalism and burning stuff.

[Vikkrram]

You know Dizzy that's why people complains that this world sucks coz we don't appreciate good people.

[DizzyDesii]

Yupp

[sarahstar13]

Yes, being good is very boring.

[DizzyDesii]

How so

[RobT312]

Naw it’s not boring, it’s sexy. It’s also a nice way to cover the intimate stuff you want to hide between the 2 of you, it makes the wild stuff 😈 more special.
every knows good girls/boys are typically not that behind the scenes!

[DizzyDesii]

Haha yea

[lilyanony1]

The people that come into my life seem to think that I'm boring.. Basically I go to work and I come home. I cook my dinner, walk the dog and pretty much get my self ready for the next day.
Occasionally I make mid week plans to meet a friend and go to so something but generally it's the same.. My weekends these days I rarely do anything. Its not due to money its due to my health since I have low iron I really struggle to function so the weekends when it's really bad I pretty much play catch up my sleeping til late.
A lot of my hobbies are individual ones like sewing, playing bass and drawing.

But lack of energy means I don't do them as much as I could.

Consequently everyone around me whether they're rich or poor are constantly looking for things to do whilst I'm at home.

So I agree yes I am boring. But it is what it is. And I'm living it, it keeps me out of trouble and I manage really well financially

[DizzyDesii]

I dont think being a homebody makes someone boring.

[lilyanony1]

Well I've just come to the conclusion that there's something wrong with me. Since I haven't any friends and I can't keep a relationship. They always end up not wanting to do anything I suggest even if it's something simple like the cinema. So I just can't be assed anymore my dogs stuck with me so that's it really

[DizzyDesii]

doesn't mean its anything wrong with you. people are complicated. Just do your own thing. Thats what i do

[lilyanony1]

😊👍🏾❤️

[lightbulb27]

I think it depends on what energy you are drawing from inside.

If you are coming from negative energy/emotion, then good will feel boring, if not bad. Why... it goes against the internal energy state.

If you are coming from positive energy/emotion, then good will feel enlivening.

Jesus didn't seem bored. Ghandi was not bored. Buddah and Krishna, I'm not sure.

[DizzyDesii]

Im pretty optimistic and give a positive energetic vibe unless it involves work or family stress

[AmyHew1tt]

Sometimes I think I'm boring. I have no close friends, I have no desire for close friends, I go out in public only to go to the bookstore, gym and to write in the library. I don't like parties, drinking, smoking, or normal teenage things.

I'll do the odd out-of-my-comfort thing if someone prompts me, and usually, I can enjoy it. But yeah, I think at least for people my age, I'd seem boring.

[DizzyDesii]

Its not boring. I was the same and still am. The only ones who consider it boring sre rhe partiers and social media obsessers who have to post a pic of every location theyre at

[AmyHew1tt]

Thank you :) Yeah, I guess that sums up a lot of people nowadays.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Lol you are so bad Desii! So good and sweet and seemingly innocent…but so deliciously bad! Haha!

I’ve always said that I want a lady with me in society and a vixen in bed. But there are so many ways to be bad and so many ways to be good. I think it still stands but I’m not sure anymore. It’s funny! I don’t think being good is boring but I do think that there are so many views on it that it could be naught but still good…

[DizzyDesii]

Im hardly a lady in society lol. I’m the same way I am on here even in person. In high school and college we were pretty open with our dirty mindsets and discussions. The only people i will let think i’m that innocent lady in the streets is like parents or a boss. can't promise to be good around everyone else 😂 Everyone here in person knows how i am except for my parents. And I don't know why i even hide it from them because they are hella freaky. I get it from them 😂

[Wish4UrB00ty]

😂😂yeah you are a bad girl for sure! Haha! But you are pretty good! A totally sweat hart and more genuine than a lot I know. I honestly just want to meet you some time and hang out to actually get to know you.

[Gochogirl]

I don't know about me but my boyfriend is a perfect example of a great guy who's bad for me and I wouldn't trade it, it's perfect

[Gochogirl]

Who is able to play bad for me*

[DizzyDesii]

Thats amazing

[electromagnetic]

So boring.
I spent most of my life making sure I never bought attention to myself because of how my super religious family would handle the situation. As I got older, I realize boring still leads to death so I’d rather die happy knowing I did crazy fun dangerous things.

[DizzyDesii]

I think people just have different definitions of fun. My fam is religious but we also freaky af lmao

[electromagnetic]

🤣 that’s a good balance

[DizzyDesii]

My grandpa is the only prude. He doesn't even believe in kissing hardly 🤣 if someone even pecks lips on a movie he says “we should turn this so the children dont see”. But once a year he's randomly freaky as hell and says inappropriate things. That must be the one day a year he and my grandma have sex 😂

[electromagnetic]

Haha. We didn’t have the bird and bees convos in our house. Strictly forbidden. The TV thing too. We had to look away. If the movie had more than 3 kissing scenes, we were sent to bed 🤣🤣

[DizzyDesii]

Yea we didn't have the talk either. I somewhat learned from my first boyfriend and porn lmao. Our eyes were covered during sex scenes when we were 12 and under

[NathanDavis]

I've never ever felt bored in my life

life is way too busy to end up bored, lol

[DizzyDesii]

And even if its not busy, there's so many fun things to do that dont consist of being bad. (Yes this is coming from me) 😂

[NathanDavis]

lol, that is very true... and also, different people have different ideas of what exciting and fun is

[Finchie40]

I am not bashing you girls so please
Don’t take this the wrong way but you girls always want opposite of what you currently have , because you girls are emotional rollercoasters and selfish people period thinking grass is greener on the other side , If a Guy is good to you eventually you want him to be bad , if a guy is bad to you you eventually want him to be good , if he can’t balance that for you then you end it or run to the next guy that is giving off that energy that you are currently drawn to. if You don’t run to the next guy , you will put your current guy through many tests and treat him like a punching bag to see if he truly loves you or not, if a guy fails those tests that gives her the excuse to go spread her legs for another guy , or plan her escape Making you girls selfish people you girls barely exer point fingers at yourselves , it’s usually your way or no way Don’t get me wrong , guys can be selfish as well , but very rarely guys are as selfish as girls can be , why most girls’ need to seek counseling and therapy if they have Daddy and Mommy issues , or been abused by ex boyfriends or suffered any kind of trauma as a child , molestation etc , her ass needs medications cuz her brain is wired different then a guys , Her brain is racing with a 1000 things at once, compared to how a guys brain works. Guys don’t dwell on that shit has much as girls do , we aren’t as emotional as a girl is , we tend to hold a lot more in until we can’t hold it in any longer then we explode if it reaches that limit , They have done proven studies on this , it’s not your girls fault because that’s how your brain are wired , Most guys want a girl that looks up to him , that makes him a priority , that wants to be intimate and affectionate with him and only him , we don’t want a girl jumping from cock to cock or a girl that invests her time into another guy , or shows interest in another guy , most girls will say oh he is just a friend , my ass he is just a friend , how would you feel if we said oh she os just a friend , us guys know what other guys are thinking , why guys and girls really can’t be friends , just like girls know what other girls are thinking , why it’s best to end friendships with opposite sex friends when you are in a relationship , it comes down to respect for each other , Girls don’t really know what respect is , they weren’t raised to be respectful as much as guys were
Raised , A girl is raised to cater her man and find a man that takes care of her provides for her , stays loyal to her works his ass off for her , that’s the way things use to be back on the day but nowadays girls don’t realize they are the reason it isn’t that way anymore , you girls were selfish again and wanted to be treated like a man was treated , Women’s liberation, female race is what destroyed that not guys A guy is raised and taught to find a girl that values you prioritizes you that doesn’t cheat on you , that values you and cares for you that wants to be intimate and affectionate with you , if she doesn’t want sex with you then you are doing something wrong or you need to kick her to the curb. What most girls don’t realize about men , when we give our heart to a girl we want to be her knight in shining armor, We want her to look up to us, feel protected by us , be attracted to us and only have eyes for us not compare us to other Guys not trash us to her friends , little does she realize that is destroying his love and respect for her , because we were never really taught about a girls lrollercoaster emotions , when she is bitching and nagging at us we are in a state of shock thinking WTF did we do wrong , YOU DONT LISTEN TO ME !! You didn’t take the trash out !!! I NEED A REAL MAN!!! We think are you fucking serious , You are screaming at me for a fucking trash can? Is a trash can the highlight of your day? Instead of fighting with her we try to get her to calm down but a girl doesn’t want to be calmed down , she is in a constant rage of emotions and most of us guys can’t handle that shit, we start to look at her like she is fucking psycho and crazy , little does she realize she is slowly pushing us away because we feel no matter what we do for her isn’t good enough , She easily overlooks all the good that we do for her while she is pointing out all the small things we didn’t , a guy looks at that like she is just trying to find excuses for her actions, constantly pointing fingers at him instead of pointing fingers at herself , If a girl learns to remove that and treats her man with respect and gives him the intimacy and affection that he craves from her brings him a beer in sexy lingerie and values him all those little things she wants done will be done , a guy isn’t going to bust his ass for a girl that treats him with disrespect and belittles him and criticizes him , he wants a girl to feel safe in his arms that doesn’t sweat the small things that really don’t matter like taking the trash out , if a girl notices the dishes need done she is best to walk in the room to him jump into his arms kiss him and say baby the dishes need done and I don’t feel like doing them , instead of you fucking asshole lazy motherfucker , when a girl learns how to remove that negativity for her man and rocks his world she will not have to worry about shit being done in that house , it’s called Reapect for each other treat your partner the same way you want to be treated and you will see a world of difference, don’t always make it about yourself

[Paul09]

Dude wtf? You just wrote a short story?

[Finchie40]

LMFAO , yes the shit girls do to us men lol

[DizzyDesii]

As i states above, i want a guy who is good with a good heart. But by, i just mean occasionally dirty minded as i stated above. Not the bad biker boy type shit finch

[DizzyDesii]

*stated

[DizzyDesii]

*But by “bad”

[Finchie40]

All I am saying is a normal nice guy that has morals that has a heart that wants a girl to love and value him and stays loyal and respectful to him has to become her punching bag , and be able to handle all her emotions , putting his feelings and emotions aside to appease her , she will take him for granted and walk all over him if he fails , if she doesn’t get her way she turns into a demon , When he tries to be intimate and affectionate with her she automatically assumes he is just thinking with his dick and just using her as a blow up doll and that’s where girls are wrong If he just wanted his dick wet he would just hire an escort or go pay for a whore , shit a guy can’t even beat off without her having a tantrum , the only time I beat off is if the girl I am with doesn’t meet my sexual wants , when she is constantly not in the mood as much as I am , if a girl yells at me for beating off I tell her well I tried having sex with you but you weren’t in the mood so it’s either I beat off or suffer from blue balls , The only time a girl should be mad at her man for beating off is if she isn’t denying him sex constantly , then yes he has an issue , I rather bang my girl over beating off , and I honestly would be beating off o a had a girl that meets my sexual wants , but I always end up with girls that don’t like sex as much as I do so I am wrong to want to be intimate and affection with her , it’s only ok for her to initiate it which doesn’t work for me I feel used and the relationship is one sided , if a girl constantly denies me intimacy and affection and makes dumb ass excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood she is best to move on cuz if things don’t change after I express my feelings of concern to her I am moving on , I can not be a walking punching bag to a girl for a long time , to me it’s abuse , and I become more open to accepting another girl that wants to be with me , if my partner valued and loved me I shouldn’t be begging

[DizzyDesii]

But that somewhat contradicts what you ask of girls. You think we should only be with what we want but you also tolerated some baddies for a longtime like the girl u kept thinking was cheating on those girls trips. So my point is that everyone can seem good until theyre not. It jus ttakes trust and constant action of showing that they are good. For me it takes trust, action and already being what im into otherwise im out. The moment i find out you're not what you claimed to be, im out

[anon1903]

@Paul09 😭😭 i lost braincells

[anon1903]

Being dirty minded isn't bad, as long as you've it with your partner

[Finchie40]

Not saying she has to spread her legs every time I’m in the mood but she shouldn’t just put my feelings aside and act like I am wrong for wanting to be intimate and affectionate with her , instead she makes it about herself , don’t touch me , I hav a headache , my back hurts , I’m too tired , instead she should be compassionate and not a bitch about it , be affectionate in other ways. If I am not in the mood for sex , I am not just going to tell her don’t touch me , get off of me , I will please her in other ways not just making it about myself , sadly most girls make it about themselves and then they wonder why their men get distant and disrespect toward her because she doesn’t know how to remove selfishness

[DizzyDesii]

If she dont put out, just breakup with her. This is why i state from the get go that he won't be getting any anytime soon so that he won't be surprised when he actually doesn't get it

[Finchie40]

LOL nothing wrong with that especially in this day and age , that’s probably the best way to go but who knows , I never really put a time limit on it, if the chemistry and connection is there then I just go for it, If she likes me like I like her that’s all that matters that’s how I look at it , if not , oh well I tried , we aren’t mind readers and we honestly don’t really know what someone’s intentions are , or what they are really up to some people are really good liars and sneaks , so you can’t really assume what someone’s intentions are , we usually think the worst case scenario for the most part and thinks oh they just wanted to get laid and nothing more , but then they see me coming with flowers the next day wanting to see her again and she is in a state of shock , Like damn girl I know I met you at a bar but sorry you assumed I just wanted you as a piece of ass , I didn’t just hook up with you just for the hell of it but sadly most people do and why people have a hard time trusting each other , Sadly I had my experiences with girls playing me but it is what it is ,

[anon1903]

Why do you write in friggin paras

[Finchie40]

I guess cuz I read a lot

[DizzyDesii]

I just need you to use periods at least lol. Them damn run on sentences be killin me.

[Finchie40]

LMFAO

[Msputiton]

Naw, i think you can be good, and still be fun.

I enjoy myself, and I'm considered good

[DizzyDesii]

I agree

[JDavid25]

Not at all.. A genuinely good person could be the first to run into danger to save somebody, or love skydiving, or be a bodybuilder, or a soldier who never killed but only helped carry his comrades to safety.. Like many people here I like a live a simple drama free life.. I mostly work, go to the gym, and am at home.. I never liked to party, I socially drink but never been drunk, never smoked weed, or anything like that.. So, I've been called a good boy..

[Agape93]

Yeap, very boring. And no, I don't see myself as a good person.

[Dargil]

We may be dull to date but are A-list to marry. Kind of like buying a Maserati Quattroporte. They are fast and exciting but they don't last.

https://th.bing.com/th/id/OIP.ObyQuWzpcXKLHeyQx90drgHaFj?pid=ImgDet&rs=1

I'm kind of a Toyota Camry kind of guy. A little bit of fun, but reliable, economical and safe.
https://th.bing.com/th/id/R.6c8a9bf76dd6dff974293c1a2947f104?rik=Vsd4B%2bBDxSwuBA&riu=http%3a%2f%2fmasbukti.com%2fmanufacturers%2ftoyota%2ftoyota-camry%2f1992-toyota-camry-coupe%2f1992-toyota-camry-coupe-14.jpg&ehk=2GiXTnjksBtEhRlBMZeZ2d5kR40pAZw2KKO%2bejMI61Y%3d&risl=&pid=ImgRaw&r=0

[DizzyDesii]

I like the car but preferably in a diff color

[Dargil]

The Maser or the Toyota?

[DizzyDesii]

Toyota

[RavVid]

Hmmh... nice guy vs good guy differences. Is this the same as nice girl vs good girl? Like a nice girl might - on request - suck me for 30 seconds but if she blew me and edged me for a long time and then swallowed I'd be saying 'Good Girl! Good Girl!'. A bad girl would be blowing everybody with possibly a queue of guys lined up at a party.

No, being good is not boring (if I'm getting sense right).

[DizzyDesii]

Nah your definitions of those girls are so off haha

[anon1903]

He's sexualised them

[RavVid]

@anon1903 Of course!

[anon1903]

Not putting effort is boring. Goodness is cool. Like some nerdy men dress up as friggin teens and complain how no woman would go out with them.

Even I, a simp for gamers, won't. Put some damn effort if you want someone on your arm!

[DizzyDesii]

Absolutely