Do you think men like these are hypocrites or prejudiced?

[JessieBellll]

A few years ago, my friends underaged son had sex with a much older woman who used him and took advantage of him.

My friends husband tried to protect the pedo woman by not calling police, but my friend called the police anyway and got her to prison for 4 years.

I thought her husband was a disgusting man and blinded by his hormones. He would go mad if his daughter was involved with some older man.

[locutus9999]

both but worst, part of the problem. this sort of relationships, are nothing to be normalized. not cause it happen to a man is gonna be right. let me expose the principles. first the young boy is or girl is going through a process of discovery they have a functional reproductive body, but the mentality of a child, in case for example have 16 is only 2 years away from 14 in life experiences. the adult is a complete adult with his/her problems on that area sort of resolved, with the life experiences of an adult. the kid (let call it like that) in this case is being abused, is on a totally asymmetric relation. Even if there is some consent from his side, his consent do not worth the same of the adult because the adult know what she is doing but he doesn't really. id for that that they are not consider adults, there is not really to much difference mentally between the 16 and the 14, just some changes on the body that had being developing por something more than 700 days. the adult She, at having more (much more) experience becomes a sort of predator. this issue have not being considered by many man. they are suck in that basic part, many times abused and don't want to recognise, stuck in the stupid idea that is like 'he is getting a good time' when basically what you do if you support that is to send a sheep to a wolf. Many times at time they do not complain given social pressure, from pairs or an internalize pressure by media. they will not speak out. cause if they denounce they will be mock and that issue will not be taken seriously. Cause as I can see in some answers is not taken seriously. some idiots blame genetics (give me proof of that), some say , nah is a man ( at 16 , have only 2 years more than 14, but mentally almost the same), of course they are vulnerable at that age, are kids fighting a sexualized body. the truth was a kid being raped by an older women, that is minor abuse, its a crime, should be punished, despite if is a boy or a girl the victim. cannot believe the level of stupidity of some people trying to disguise this traumatic experience of normal. some have resigned like one guy which answer i saw, probably cause prefer to believe was his freedom to choose, when in reality he was just prey, may be for some denial was the way out. but this is serious.

[JessieBellll]

Fully agree

[Sasahara]

Yeah, people like him are hypocritical idiots.

[Arivor]

Not a hypocrite, though you could stretch it out to be called prejudice in a way. You could say that the husband was definitely biased in doing whatever it takes to protect his family at the expense of others his family hurts. I'm sure that his wife has long been protected by him for doing the exact same thing over and over again. So, he is extremely biased in favor of protecting his family.

However, not sure if going after someone who hurt his daughter and not going after his wife for hurting someone else's child... can actually be seen as hypocritical. Just extremely biased in protecting his family not matter what they did or going after someone who did something to them. Unethical and immoral is more like it...

I'm just conflicted in the fact that I would do anything to protect or avenge my loved ones. The question I must ponder is "How far would I go to protect my loved ones before I decided that they had gone too far for me to be able to justify protecting them?" That's a tough question to answer...

[JessieBellll]

You completely misunderstood. I said he would call police and go after the man of it was his daughter. But now that's its his son, he is trying to protect the woman from his wife by getting his wife to not call police on her. Do you understand?

[Arivor]

You are correct, he is hypocritical since he treats one child differently from the other based on being male or female. Yes, that would also show him to be prejudice on how he views girls vs boys. Good point!

[JessieBellll]

Right

[Ozanne]

I don't know if it's biology, but since always, most men have placed more value on their son's abilities with women. Perhaps it's some sort of extension of their own need to carry on genes? I don't know. When their son gets laid, the father is usually in the "that's my boy" mind-frame rather than what he might think if the same thing happened with his daughter. It's just how men are wired, I guess.

With the shift in society today, we look at it as unfair and hypocritical. We are quick to point out that the behaviour would be different if things were reversed. But we are still biologically the same males and females that have the wiring to view things differently just as we have been since the dawn of time. The whole "women have more invested in feelings while men have more placement for sex" biology. He views the woman as a recipient of sex, while the male is the one asserting sex. So maybe that's why men forget that women can be predators because they think they're not capable of being the aggressor. Maybe that's why they think their son (or others' sons) are to be viewed as being sexually confident if they can get any girl or woman, especially a woman since she is likely harder to get than a girl. They should be reminded that we've evolved, and yes, women can be aggressors and boys are very much in a position to be victimized.

[JessieBellll]

Ignorance is bliss

[JessieBellll]

But answer the question directly

[Ozanne]

Yes, it's hypocritical.

[Daniela1982]

He was probably fucking her too. You got to protect your assets.

[JessieBellll]

It's my friend, not me. But answer the question

[Daniela1982]

I did. He didn't call the police because he was probably porking the older woman too.

[JessieBellll]

But do you think he is prejudice or hypocrite?

[Daniela1982]

Neither, he was protecting his fuck buddy.

[JessieBellll]

That can't be true

[JessieBellll]

He honestly was not fucking her

[JessieBellll]

So answer the question now without thinking he was having sex with her

[Zannika02]

Yes total double standard

[testersite00]

men like that are gross. but for men sex is praised, so i feel bad that he thinks it was okay

[JessieBellll]

Yh my friend she left him

[JessieBellll]

So you agree?

[testersite00]

yes, but i think someone should explain to him why its not okay that way he isn't confused if similar issues ever happen to come up

[JessieBellll]

I don't think you can change men's minds

[testersite00]

well you can at least try and educate him, but its up to him whether or not he wants to listen

[fall_angel-86]

All depends on how underage he was at the time. I believe that around 16 yes old is capable of making the decision and it would be okay then, however any younger and well is not okay

[JessieBellll]

Would you say the same thing if it was a girl?

[JessieBellll]

He would still consider his 16 year old a little girl and call cops.

[fall_angel-86]

Most definitely would, girls tend to mature faster then boys so by that age they are more then capable of making that decision for them selves

[JessieBellll]

16 is still a child and underage

[fall_angel-86]

Depends on where you live and this is just my opinion

[JessieBellll]

Sure, thanks. But if it was illegal there, its not really wrong to call cops isn't it? This woman was 40

[fall_angel-86]

If its illegal then yes call the cops, if i was in their shoes I wouldn't though but I wouldn't judge someone who did

[JessieBellll]

Right, so the husband has no reason to be mad?

[fall_angel-86]

No he doesn't if its against the law

[JessieBellll]

He was so mad though. Its pathetic

[luvstoned4him]

also the fact that it really isn't his son so he wouldn't care. He most likely values the older woman's friendship though

[JessieBellll]

It is his son... Read the question

[luvstoned4him]

something wrong with the dad man

[JessieBellll]

So do you agree with me or not?

[luvstoned4him]

@jessiebellll I agree with you 100. I can't believe I took long to respond this. Smh

[JessieBellll]

Alright

[ObscuredBeyond]

The question was one of how sincere they were , how old he was , how much damage she caused in total, what her attitude was , how many other victims there were, etc. If he were almost an adult , then some Old Testament -style making her pay a hefty fine for fraudulent seduction, or asking her to marry him, etc., would have sufficed. Now, if she were claiming multiple victims , clearly without remorse , and lived for her predation, then put her down like an animal!

Yes, this sounds harsh. But 4 years in a box, followed by a lifetime of harassment at 5 AM, plus the inability to find a job? Is that really any better?

[JessieBellll]

The thing was the mom thought she was sick and used him as he didn't know better as he was really young. She thought it took advantage of him, even though the boy enjoyed it.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Well, yeah. There's no arguing with a mama bear. The other lady really should've thought about that. I'd look at how dangerous the offender is, and factor that in. Men get harsher sentences, but that's because of the aftermath. Female pedos usually draw the line at sex. Male pedos tend to murder whoever becomes an inconvenience later. That's partially why vigilantes also have double standards. A creepy teacher being caught in an alligator trap is not as rewarding psychologically as knowing you caught some squinty-eyed blob with stubble, who keeps a collection of child mummies next to his spare chainsaws. Catching and putting down the latter monster makes men feel more manly. Shutting down a creepy teacher who looks cute enough to be "cured" into a marriage to a man, just doesn't give the same boost. Doesn't excuse double standards, but the psychology of this phenomenon explains why such standards exist.

[JessieBellll]

What are you talking about? You watch too much movies. I think she got what she deserved

[JackSmy]

That is a lingering Double Standard!! Little daughters, should NEVER be taken advantage of, because of their age, but for some younger men, having a mature woman show him everything he wants to know, and learn to do, and feel those sensations? Very few guys, at 16, I think, would report that, or say anything but "Thank you Ma'am"!!
The sensible "Cougar" makes sure that he is at least "legal age" and then maybe uses him, a bit, for her joy, but she gives him so much more, that lasts a lifetime!!
Hate, if you want, but it is different for a lot of guys. . .

[JessieBellll]

So it's little girls vs younger men? Girls mature faster, stop with the bias and prejudice. You defending pedophiles and sex predators, I didn't expect that from you.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Joe rogan has this whole bit about that where he gets on stage and starts saying

"oh yea I'm sexist as fuck... Against men" lol and he starts talking about how if a guy were to take advantage of his daughter he'd be pissed but if he had a son it would be different.

It's in one of the Netflix specials.

[JessieBellll]

Hmm how does that relate? Just answer the question

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It relates but I guess you'd have to see it to really get why. Men aren't the same as women. Guys don't get manipulated into having sex they don't want (generally). Like every underage guys dream is to get with an older woman. When I was 15 that was like, one of the coolest things you could do haha. I had friends who would try to do it To act like any time an older woman has sex with a younger guy is somehow abuse is ludicrous. How do you know it's not the kid mentality abusing the older girl. Not everyone matures the same way, some people are really stupid even in adulthood lol some people just like to fuck there's not much wrong with it. But it's just a scary thought that this happens. EEspecially after years of seeing guys manipulate women of all sorts of ages. woman do it too. But these "abuse" situations are most likely a vast minority compared to people just having a little fun. So these situations should just be handles more carefully. certainly far less harshly

[JessieBellll]

Hahahaha You think young teens can prey on pedophiles? Hahahahaha You think some old ass woman preying and using a little boy for her herself is OK and not taking advantage? That's just ridiculous, whether the boy liked it or not, it's irrelevant, because she was the adult and knew what she was doing and took advantage of him by using him. That's my opinion of course, and you are free to believe what you want, but your support of pedophilia is disgusting and illegal. by the way, girls mature faster by 2 years in case you didn't know (: but I guess your bias is too strong I am going to ask the question with reverse genders so don't answer it because I am not interested in seeing pedophilia support and will immediately delete it. Thanks for your opinion

[JessieBellll]

You got me laughing with that comment about teenage boys manipulating adults, those women must have some serious issues Good one, I give you that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'm not arguing that they don't have serious issues lol, I'm just saying they shouldn't be jailed for that. It's like imprisoning people for being dumb

[JessieBellll]

Comparing low intelligence with pedophilia? Sex predators shouldn't be jailed? You are a sick freak! Jesus you are something. At least majority of people disagree with you which makes me happy, at least there is some faith in humanity, thank GOD

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Are you gonna keep just taking things I say and twisting them? Lol like what are you trying to accomplish here? First of all, nothing I described is even a pedophile. Do you even know what that word means? You're throwing a word for a mental illness around pretty carelessly. Humans are biologically programmed to have sex at around 15-18 that is the time out biology is most suited to having healthy children. Obviously it would be absolutely insane for humans to work that way in the modern world so we consider that practice taboo now. But look it up. It's supported by science and religion alike. Yea, a person who's let's say 25 using their life experience to manipulate a younger person into sex is wrong. That's true whether the person is above or under 18. But just because someone is less than 18 having sex with someone else older than 18 doesn't mean one person is being manipulated by the other and it certainly doesn't mean the older person is a pedo. A pedo is someone who is attracted (usually exclusively) to children who have not yet hit puberty. And just to be clear, my only goal here is to have a civilised conversation about a topic which goes deeper than I think some people understand. It's not about shaming anyone.

[JessieBellll]

For majority, pedo is someone who had sex with underage kids or under 18. That's what the law says too. OK, sexual predator then, better? You describe and support them amazingly. There is nothing civil to talk about when someone shows bias to the extent you or some guys do! You just can't expect that. Have a nice day.

[Mishan97]

Yeah they are hypocrites. Some men think it’s cool or hot that a young guy got with an older woman. But this is internalized misandry. A woman taking advantage of a young boy is just as disgusting as the other way around. This boy got his innocence taken away from him. A lot of men who got abused develop porn addictions and unhealthy sex habits. It’s not okay what she did and is very selfish and evil. I’m glad she ended up going to jail. You’re right about the husband. He has a lot of reflecting to do.

[JessieBellll]

Agree!

[_RandomGuy_18]

Totally depends on how old the boy was. A 16-17 year old man who sleeps with a woman who is older is not being taken advantage of. People try to say that our brains can't consent before 18 but that's a load of bullshit. Age and age of consent Is a social construct. Look back to when people only lived to be like 40 and were having kids at like 17. I understand times change but my point is sex is an innate drive in us and simply being 18 doesn't give you some magical ability to now understand consent.

[JessieBellll]

So what if it was a 16 or 17 year old woman? He would still call her little girl and call police. I agree, 16 is too young. 17 is better but still wrong

[JessieBellll]

They are boys NOT men

[JessieBellll]

Your lack of reply shows that you know its hypocritical and prejudice. How sad.

[_RandomGuy_18]

First off I dont use this app 24/7 get off my back, and I didn't really think I needed to reply, seeing as how you have your opinion and that's not really gonna change, clearly. But nonetheless 16 and 17 year olds CAN BE MEN. If we can send them to war, they sure as shit can have sex. While I can't speak for this guy, in my opinion a 16/17 year old girl is perfectly capable of understanding consent and what she is getting herself into. I also think you should look up the definition of prejudice and hypocrisy because I have exhibited neither. If you can't handle others opinions you should go ahead and get off the app sweetheart.

[JessieBellll]

They are under age still, so can't be called men. They can't buy alcohol, tabacco and made serious decisions. How can they be men? And why are 16 or 17 year old girls not women then? What makes them stay girls?

[JessieBellll]

Also I said the husband was a hypocrite and prejudiced

[_RandomGuy_18]

No, they are men. Age is not a determining factor of man hood. Just because you can't buy alchohol and tobacco that doesn't mean anything. Those are both social constructs specifically unique to the U. S. in Europe they can drink at 14 so then buy your logic 14 year old german boys are men too. And yeah 16 and 17 year old femals are women a lot more than they are girls, I never said they weren't women. You legit just want to argue. 17 year old males have more in common with a 22 year old Male than a 10 year old boy, and same goes for females.

[JessieBellll]

Alright then

[The_Inquisitor]

Pedo is a Pedo I don't see gender its not a gray area, you either are one or not one. I treat a pedo all the same, with disdain and avoid them and if they are putting a kid in danger i call the cops and protect the kid

[JessieBellll]

That's rational way of looking at things. Can't believe so many have sympathy for the pedo woman

[Don-__-Don]

I don't really know the husbands motives for trying to defend the depo woman.

My guess on why he stopped his wife from calling the police:
At any rate it might be how men see sex as a good thing no matter what. Because it seem men glory the hell out of sex, a lot. Like holy shit it gets on my nerves how much it's glorified and worshiped. Bang a bunch of women and some how you're seen as cool. It just gets on my nerves how you can be worship for something like that.

This is part of the reason why men being rape is always so underrated and looked over.

Anyways I'm getting off track.

In terms of comparing it if it happened to his daughter, yeah he's being a hypocrite.

In the terms of law, your friend did the right thing.

Shit like that shouldn't be tolerated, it's against the law. Idgaf what nobody says.

[JessieBellll]

I think he is just blinded by his hormones

[JessieBellll]

Thinking how it would be amazing for him while ignoring what the woman has done

[Don-__-Don]

Yeah, it's just another dumbass double standard. Men thinking with their dick too damn much.

[Don-__-Don]

Anyways, that's all I gotta say about it. Thanks for the invite.

[JessieBellll]

No problem, thanks for the opinions

[ItsTheNephilim]

That's hypocritical.

[Citizenkirk]

I think that it is not my place to pass judgment on a person in a situation I know virtually nothing about, and that anyone who would deliberately, or intentionally, be a party to causing harm to a minor is not someone who should be allowed to be around children.
I'm not okay with current sex offender legislation, because it's nothing more than a sadistic Witch Hunt, but I do recognize the need to protect children from harm.
What kind of person this individual is, is not for me to say, but no one should harm children. Deliberately, or through negligence.

[JessieBellll]

What if the child is not harmed but used by some pedophile sexually? That's taking advantage

[Citizenkirk]

I would consider that to be harm inflicted on that child.

[JessieBellll]

Well that's what female pedophiles do and this husband said its fine because he is using her too. I think it's crazy and sick

[Citizenkirk]

I think that the child's well-being should be the priority, and that at that age, that individual might not be in the best position to make such a decision for themselves.

[JessieBellll]

Yh its disgusting behaviour from the adult, its really taking advantage of a child

[Citizenkirk]

Some people just don't use good judgement.

[MecheD]

Hypocrite yes but life is truly different for men vs women so they waiver Just because of typical aspects of differences between men and women

[JessieBellll]

What do you mean?

[MecheD]

Men at a certain age is thought to be able to handle his own simply off of his “masculine traits” so when you say things like “rape” of a young man with the offender being a woman it’s looked at more so a passage for manhood

[JessieBellll]

Its ignorance

[DJB72]

I'm not sure why some guys have such a double standard about underage sex. If my son were to be drawn in by a woman that much older I'd want to see them prosecuted. I certainly wouldn't defend her.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

I agree with @PizzaLoverHouse

[JessieBellll]

But that's not answering the question...

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

a lot of what i have to say has already been said so.

[JessieBellll]

Say it, that's the point of answering questions on here. I want to see what you have to say

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Yes its wrong for her to use him but then again he should know better then to keep giving her stuff.

[JessieBellll]

Lmao he was just a kid, she was controlling him. How can you blame him?

[JessieBellll]

Do you agree husband is a hypocrite or prejudiced?

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

I wouldn't say prejudiced. I just think he was upset his wife was using someone.

[JessieBellll]

It wasn't his house,... His wife was the one calling police on the pedo woman

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Its late and I'm tired. I've answered the question

[JessieBellll]

Okkk One last thing, you don't think he is a hypocrite considering how he would think if it was his daughter?

[JessieBellll]

Lmao it wasn't his wife I meant to say using the boy wtf. I am tired too.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

I know people react different.

[JessieBellll]

But you think its right?

[Dargil]

The lack moral foundation. Its called situational ethics. Hypocrites.

[Yaaten]

How old was the son? I ask because there is a big difference between, say, 6 and 16, and if the boy was (or is) the latter, then they may have not thought it was such a big deal.
l don't know, I wasn't there, I don't have all the details to make any kind of judgement here.

[JessieBellll]

But they would have thought it was a big deal if it was a 16 year old girl? If you can't answer the question, then what is the point of your comment honestly?

[Yaaten]

Well I think that is my point, the point being that there is simply not enough information to go on here. You're asking a question that cannot be honestly addressed, because important details are lacking.

[JessieBellll]

Most people could answer this question perfectly, so I guess it's only a problem for few individuals

[JessieBellll]

I wonder why that is

[JessieBellll]

You don't think it's hypocritical or prejudiced to think its not a big deal for a 16 year old boy to do it but a big deal for a 16 year old girl to do it?

[JessieBellll]

Right I was right. I love this facade where men state they need more details when in fact they are hypocrites and prejudiced just like the husband. Ignorance is bliss

[nodnol32]

Hypocrites.

[foodOlivia]

I think it’s prejudice but it is also based on the different nature between men and women. Therefore it’s not hypocrisy because a girl being taken sexually advantage of is on a different plain.
I understand the fathers hesitation to call the police. That is why you need a good mother to balance the prejudice decisions made by the husband and vice versa.

[JessieBellll]

You are literally prejudiced because you think taking advantage of a boy is different to taking advantage of a girl. You are just prejudiced and a hypocrite like the husband

[foodOlivia]

As I said a man taking sexually advantage of a girl is different than a woman taking advantage of a boy. Hypocrisy is when the situation is the same. You could argue that me seeing the two case as different is prejudice but I see it as a result of boys/males having a different nature than women

[JessieBellll]

But to me it is the same, so to me you are a hypocrite and a disgusting person for wanting to protect the woman and not call police on her like you said in your post

[foodOlivia]

I didn’t say I wouldn’t call the police I said I understand why he didn’t call the police.

[JessieBellll]

If you think the mom needs a good argument to justify why it's wrong for a grown ass woman to use a boy and take advantage of him then you need help. Te husband was sick and hypocritical.

[foodOlivia]

You refuse to see the situation from a mans perspective. I can also say the mother was overreacting etc. but I realize that from her perspective her response was the immediate and only response to have.

[JessieBellll]

Why should I see it from the man's perspective? You guys are pedophile supporting hypocrites. How did she overreact by calling police on a sexual predator?

[foodOlivia]

Remember that I don’t agree with the fathers decision. But I can make an argument for the both of them. In order to understand why I can see the mother’s response as an overreaction you have to see the situation through a mans perspective.

[JessieBellll]

I love older men I would love to see my daughter being fucked by some hot older guy. I will defend him when the husband would try to call police on him. Do you see my perspective?

[foodOlivia]

You are funny. That is not what I meant when I said see it from a mans perspective. I am taking myself out of this discussion. Since this is going down an endless pit.

[JessieBellll]

Why can't you see it from my perspective?

[JessieBellll]

Try see it from my perspective and you'll see

[israelisevil]

if your daughter or son 16 or 17 there's no reason to they old enough make decision of who to sleep with if my son or daghter was like 13 14 i would thoiugh.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes they are hypocrites it's sad that the older woman took advantage of that younger guy just makes no sense

[JessieBellll]

Agree

[SageWisdomMan]

I don't know all the details so I can't really give a well thought out opinion.

Generally speaking, the law is there to protect people from harm. But I know having once been a teen male, I would never have been harmed by sex with an older woman. That is ME.

But the law is the law...

[JessieBellll]

What do you mean by all the details? What if there is no harm but what about the adult?

[JessieBellll]

Also you didn't answer the question... If the husband would feel completely opposite with his daughter wouldn't that make him a hypocrite and prejudiced?

[SageWisdomMan]

Yes it would be hypocrisy to feel that its ok for the son but not the daughter.

[JessieBellll]

Right

[JessieBellll]

What if he didn't feel like it's OK but thought there was no need for police. He is still prejudiced or hypocrite?

[bowenw]

If the boy was not of legal age it was correct that the older woman was sent to prison regardless of what her husband thought. Even if the boy was of legal age it is easy to be taken advantage of at that age and the older women should have known better.

[JessieBellll]

Yeah, he was mad. For no reason. Awful husband in my opinion

[bowenw]

Sadly there is no shortage of men like that.

[JessieBellll]

I know it's horrible

[SunnySri]

I don't know hypocrite is the right word mam, but he was definitely wrong in protecting the woman.
What's wrong is wrong and should not be allowed.

[mich15smith]

yea thats messed up

[Rippersavage]

I saw from the replies that the woman was 40 but how old was the boy?

[JessieBellll]

16...

[JessieBellll]

Answer the question?

[Rippersavage]

Well ignoring whether or not it was legal in the eyes of the law... I do think that the guy was a prejudice hypocrite

[JessieBellll]

Alright

[Danish87]

It need to clarify that why he is protecting that lady? The reason should be known.
And yes that man was wrong when he stop her wife from calling police. Whatever be the reason guilty should be punished.

[JKingOff]

I wouldn't call him a hypocrite. It seems to me that he wanted her to make the choice, instead of taking that choice away from her.

[JessieBellll]

But isn't it hypocritical to do exactly what she would do if her daughter was in the situation?

[JessieBellll]

*his

[JKingOff]

From what you're telling me his daughter was in that situation and she's the one that called. So no I don't think he's a hypocrite. all he did was just put the ball back in her court and let her decide what to do with her life and her future.

[JessieBellll]

Lol I never said it was his daughter. It was his son in the situation. If it was his daughter he would beat up the man. That's why I said he was a hypocrite and prejudiced

[JessieBellll]

So what do you think now?

[JKingOff]

Does he have a daughter? If so has his daughter been in that same situation before?

[JessieBellll]

Yes, he has a daughter and he said he would react completely differently

[JessieBellll]

Do you understand the question now?

[JKingOff]

How people think they will react and how they actually do react can sometimes be two different things. unless his daughter was in the exact same situation and he reacted differently I would not call him hypocrite. the way I see it this guy simply just doesn't know how he'll react to a certain situation until it actually happens.

[JessieBellll]

Then why would he defend a pedo woman? He was obviously stuck in his fantastic, it's pathetic

[JessieBellll]

*fantasies

[JKingOff]

Again, how people think they will react versus how they actually react are two different things. He probably thought that he would react differently than he actually did and didn't know until the time came. It's not unheard of.

[JessieBellll]

Nah I believe he would react totally differently. God I hate these men

[JessieBellll]

If that's how you see it, it's your opinion

[JessieBellll]

So what was he trying to protect other than a sexual predator? I am curious to know

[JKingOff]

Honestly I don't think he was trying to protect anything. It just sounds like he was giving his kid the choice rather than making the choice himself.

[JessieBellll]

He shouldn't give choice to a young child who can't even consent or make a rational decision That's again common sense which he lacks

[JKingOff]

I can see we are coming from. all I'm saying is as a parent even though your child may not have the best judgment they still have emotions.

[naraku]

I guess the husband was trying to protect what he had.

But she shouldn't of used the underage guy to begin with.

[JessieBellll]

Protect what? A pedophile?

[JessieBellll]

So what did he want to protect?

[naraku]

The pedo

[JessieBellll]

And what do you think of that?

[naraku]

I'm not sure why you would protect her. If the woman was his wife, it might be hard to accept. We've seen husband/wife's defend the other if they're murderers. Regardless, I'm not sure why you'd protect someone like that.

[Gedaria]

I know this is a thing with you, but age isn't everything. There are so many things that go on , you cannot control.
I wonder if this young lad was happy the woman ended up in prison.
This could well have distroyed that family. Near where I lived this happened and when the woman was released they ended up , setting up home together.

[JessieBellll]

The adult should control themselves, they are responsible to stop being a sex predator

[Gedaria]

Where I live 18 is you are classed as not being underage. So do you have the same feeling if they have sex a Day before his or her 18 th birthday.

[JessieBellll]

18 is adult in most places

[Gedaria]

But they had sex when he was 17 that makes him underage, does your morality still count..

[JessieBellll]

At 17 I think it's innapropriate but not like when he is younger

[Gedaria]

So 18 is no magic age when everyone does things right.

[JessieBellll]

Not at all

[pizzalovershouse]

It was wrong of female to abuse the young boy

[JessieBellll]

So you agree?

[JessieBellll]

You need to answer the question darling

[JessieBellll]

I guess I take that as a yes, thanks.

[pizzalovershouse]

Its yes was wrong

[JessieBellll]

But do you think such men are prejudiced or hypocrites?

[pizzalovershouse]

I think they deserve jail time to so the worst

[JessieBellll]

OK thanks

[pizzalovershouse]

Awelcome 👍

[Pete671]

Yes double standards, your friend was right to call the cops,,,

[SHREYASH007]

4 years is too much if the boy had consented for sex , I agree it is wrong from adult side but still.

[JessieBellll]

Hmm not sure

[JessieBellll]

Answer the question though

[SHREYASH007]

who knows what was the situation but it is general men generally forgive women, yes they are hypocrites.

[JessieBellll]

She just used the boy while he didn't know what he was doing in my opinion. Mentally 14 year olds are not ready to make such decisions

[SHREYASH007]

nowadays I really doubt, i know 8 year old indulging in sex with same age group.

[JessieBellll]

The fuck

[SHREYASH007]

Yeah dear sad reality

[iFarted]

It's a grey area for me...
They should've had a serious talk with the son and see how he felt about it. If there's hints of trauma or he felt like he got taken advantage of then the older woman should face the consequences. If not then your friend just semi ruined a persons life, 4 years of prison might not necessarily stop her from doing that again with another underaged boy.
She went off her emotions and most of the time logic > emotions.
Everyone is different, some boys would've loved it other boys while others would feel traumatized and conflicted. I think things should be talked about before actions be taken.

[JessieBellll]

No the woman preyed on him and used him, she was a sexual predator. Doesn't matter how he feels You seem like a hypocrite like the husband. Good luck advocating for female pedophiles. You are strange.

[iFarted]

You're going based on your emotions and what the law says in your area. Laws aside or if it were in a country where age of consent is much lower and you grew up there you'd have a totally different mindset.

[JessieBellll]

So you would say the same thing if it was a girl with some older man?

[iFarted]

Well actually let me ask this first, how young is the son? I was assuming he's 16-17. Yeah I'd stand by my statement. I had female class mates that had sex with college guys when they're in high school. They didn't feel traumatized.

[JessieBellll]

Well I don't know I feel the adult is taking advantage and is being a pervert

[iFarted]

Realistically what is the difference between being 17-18 maturity wise? Close to none, it's just cause some countries say that's the age of consent and we grew up there that we think its completely wrong and disgusting. If someone was 1 day away from turning 18 and she/he had sex with an adult then omg that person is a pedo and a predator. that 1 day isn't going to make any difference to a person. (Yes, i know the adult has no lack of self-control)

[JessieBellll]

Thst has nothing to do with the question though. Here the kid is under 18 and adult over 30.

[iFarted]

Well under 18 can mean he's 10 or 17? That's a whole world of difference. Some kids aren't that dumb and know what they're doing. I'll still stand by what I said unless the kid was a lot younger than 18 like 15 and under.

[JessieBellll]

Do you think a 16 year old boy or a girl can consent without being taken advantage of?

[iFarted]

In a legal standpoint obviously no. I think they should be able to, depends on how they got there to begin with.

[JessieBellll]

Most men would go crazy anyway... They wouldn't even ask the girls how she felt

[iFarted]

Wait, what do you mean by go crazy? I'm lost on that one. You're probably right, and I'll agree with you on that those are the ones who take advantage for their own sick minds without any care for the girl.

[JessieBellll]

Like they would beat up the man who fucked their daughter

[iFarted]

Well that doesn't say much as I'm sure a lot of fathers want to beat up their daughters bfs even if the boyfriend was her age.

[JessieBellll]

And you think that's right?

[iFarted]

Which part?

[JessieBellll]

Acting like animals and being violent instead of talking

[JessieBellll]

I hate such men so I am glad the wife called police and destroyed the pedo woman life. It must have pissed her hypocrite husband a lot

[iFarted]

Ohh, yeah I don't think it's right. Being civil and keeping composure is the best.

[JessieBellll]

I will ask the question with genders reversed

[iFarted]

These debates usually end up in one person getting really illogical and it didn't. I appreciate it.

[iFarted]

The answers will be really different and I can see why you say guys are hypocrites.

[JessieBellll]

What do you mean

[JessieBellll]

About the illogical bit I mean

[JessieBellll]

I am curious what people will say mow

[iFarted]

Like usually these topics are really sensitive and in the past when I've had these types of debates the person gets really worked up, start being illogical and try to personally attack me like it'd bother me and somehow that personal attack would change my point of view lol. You kept it civil which I appreciate.

[JessieBellll]

I am used to these debates

[Valnac]

I agree with you, he’s disgusting.

[msc545]

Something is missing here. Why did the husband want to protect the woman?

[JessieBellll]

He imagined himself as the boy

[msc545]

That is very creepy.

[JessieBellll]

I know

[JessieBellll]

So answer the question

[msc545]

What is the question?

[JessieBellll]

Do you think he was prejudiced or a hypocrite?

[msc545]

I don't want to label someone I've never even spoken to.

[JessieBellll]

But it's obvious at this point

[msc545]

Not obvious to me. Maybe to you.

[JessieBellll]

Jesus and do you think the mom did the right thing? Or do you support her creepy (as you said) husband?

[msc545]

Mom did the right thing. Why do you care so much about this?

[JessieBellll]

It's very controversial as there is lot of bias in this topic

[SilverRain92]

Surely, he is disgusting. All pedos should be imprisoned regardless of their gender

[JessieBellll]

Agree

[Diamold]

I think that man was blinded by hormones yes. What that woman did was really bad.
Either if it's a boy or a girl, it is still an underaged child.

[CubaPirate]

Double standards as I've stated before

[JessieBellll]

So you agree?

[CubaPirate]

Sure thing yeah

[Tim-loves-it]

Sounds like to me, hypocrites

[Nachowedgie]

Pedos that act on their urges should be imprisoned regardless of their gender

[JessieBellll]

Agree

[knight2468]

I think 4 years too much

[JessieBellll]

Answer the question

[knight2468]

I bet u this son now get proud among his friends because he bang a milf. Do u really think she got advantage of him? But she stick to the law

[JessieBellll]

Again you are not answering the question... Yes she did because she used him. She knew better what she was doing compared to him.

[JessieBellll]

It was really gross

[knight2468]

Is the question did she broke the law? Yes she do or the question did she get advantage of him? I don’t think so

[JessieBellll]

Yes she broke the law and I agree with the mom. She used him and so took advantage of him.

[knight2468]

I respect that but I don’t think so

[JessieBellll]

That's because you are a man. If it was a girl you'd feel like that husband, it's cringy

[knight2468]

No because he is a boy if she was a girl I completely have a different opinion

[JessieBellll]

That's exactly what I was saying, you are hypocrite like the husband

[knight2468]

No ma’am u get me wrong I am just aware of differences between men and women when come to sex. Men don’t regret any sexual experience unlike women

[JessieBellll]

Well that's your opinion. It's also about the adult. It's still prejudice

[knight2468]

U still judge me but if I am prejudiced I will stand with the boy not with the older woman

[JessieBellll]

Lol that's the same thing because of you stand by the boy you stand by the woman who used him and took advantage of him. You are therefore supporting female pedophiles. Yes, that is prejudice in my opinion

[knight2468]

That’s really bad to say to me

[JessieBellll]

It's how I feel

[Yellovv]

Disgusting for both..

[Yuuibtony]

Yes, these the same gross men that will date younger women that in thier early 20s

[JessieBellll]

Hypocrisy is everywhere

[Yulay30]

There is too much pedo in GAG, i can't believe yesterday a girl account sent message to me. And got shock. She is just 14 and wants to show her body to me. I said wtf is going here. I thought a man using a girl account with 14 years old girls photos. Thats so discusting...

[JessieBellll]

Just answer the question

[Yulay30]

yea they are hypocrites...

[Gripper1970]

I do agree that there are different standards for women who are pedo compared to men pedos

[JessieBellll]

So you disagree and agree with the husband?

[Gripper1970]

No, i am glad that the police were called on her.

[JessieBellll]

Alright, the husband was pissed. Don't you think he is really immature?

[Gripper1970]

Most defiantly.

[JessieBellll]

I would hate to have a husband like that, geez

[JessieBellll]

She left him anyway

[Gripper1970]

Good she should have.

[Eduardobeaner]

Yes sounds like one

[drewbilllini]

Both, its not cool to do that. I would do anything for my kid whether it's a girl or a boy. Protecting them no matter what and locking up a rapist would be my priority

[amanarya8734]

I think not just that women wrong i this case.
But the boy also made mistakes like he should told his parents

[JessieBellll]

Answer the question... He was controlled by her

[amanarya8734]

If the boy was controlled by her. Then its absolutely right to send her behind the bars. Its crime'

[JessieBellll]

So you agree with the question or not?

[amanarya8734]

Agreed 🙂 By the way where is she now prison?

[JessieBellll]

Somewhere... Why?

[JessieBellll]

Also it doesn't matter if the boy makes mistake because he is a child and she as an adult is responsible and knows better what she is doing

[amanarya8734]

yes valid point.

[Anonymous]

Yes I do.

[Anonymous]

Hypocritical yes but soceity is prejudicial against men in that it holds men to a higher standard of conduct.
I had sex a few times with older women when I was 13, 14 and 15 yet never have I felt I was raped or felt I was a victim. I still don't because I knew exactly what I was doing and actually pursued them.

[JessieBellll]

It's wrong from the adults side

[Opinion Owner]

If you tell a person they are a victim they believe it.

[JessieBellll]

Who?

[Anonymous]

This is such a double edge sword because what the guy did was wrong but I understand. It's a guy thing. Like we used to hang out after school talking about that one teacher we wanted a after school session with. Like a lot of guys actually want that and thrive off of it. Does it make it right for what he did no. You are just hitting a very complex subject.

[JessieBellll]

I understand, but it's ridiculous such experience play a role in such a series situation where adult is using a child for their own desires. That's taking advantage of a child. It's utterly ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Hypocrites