both but worst, part of the problem. this sort of relationships, are nothing to be normalized. not cause it happen to a man is gonna be right. let me expose the principles. first the young boy is or girl is going through a process of discovery they have a functional reproductive body, but the mentality of a child, in case for example have 16 is only 2 years away from 14 in life experiences. the adult is a complete adult with his/her problems on that area sort of resolved, with the life experiences of an adult. the kid (let call it like that) in this case is being abused, is on a totally asymmetric relation. Even if there is some consent from his side, his consent do not worth the same of the adult because the adult know what she is doing but he doesn't really. id for that that they are not consider adults, there is not really to much difference mentally between the 16 and the 14, just some changes on the body that had being developing por something more than 700 days. the adult She, at having more (much more) experience becomes a sort of predator. this issue have not being considered by many man. they are suck in that basic part, many times abused and don't want to recognise, stuck in the stupid idea that is like 'he is getting a good time' when basically what you do if you support that is to send a sheep to a wolf. Many times at time they do not complain given social pressure, from pairs or an internalize pressure by media. they will not speak out. cause if they denounce they will be mock and that issue will not be taken seriously. Cause as I can see in some answers is not taken seriously. some idiots blame genetics (give me proof of that), some say , nah is a man ( at 16 , have only 2 years more than 14, but mentally almost the same), of course they are vulnerable at that age, are kids fighting a sexualized body. the truth was a kid being raped by an older women, that is minor abuse, its a crime, should be punished, despite if is a boy or a girl the victim. cannot believe the level of stupidity of some people trying to disguise this traumatic experience of normal. some have resigned like one guy which answer i saw, probably cause prefer to believe was his freedom to choose, when in reality he was just prey, may be for some denial was the way out. but this is serious.
Fully agree
Yeah, people like him are hypocritical idiots.
Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions
What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Not a hypocrite, though you could stretch it out to be called prejudice in a way. You could say that the husband was definitely biased in doing whatever it takes to protect his family at the expense of others his family hurts. I'm sure that his wife has long been protected by him for doing the exact same thing over and over again. So, he is extremely biased in favor of protecting his family.
However, not sure if going after someone who hurt his daughter and not going after his wife for hurting someone else's child... can actually be seen as hypocritical. Just extremely biased in protecting his family not matter what they did or going after someone who did something to them. Unethical and immoral is more like it...
I'm just conflicted in the fact that I would do anything to protect or avenge my loved ones. The question I must ponder is "How far would I go to protect my loved ones before I decided that they had gone too far for me to be able to justify protecting them?" That's a tough question to answer...
You completely misunderstood. I said he would call police and go after the man of it was his daughter. But now that's its his son, he is trying to protect the woman from his wife by getting his wife to not call police on her. Do you understand?
You are correct, he is hypocritical since he treats one child differently from the other based on being male or female. Yes, that would also show him to be prejudice on how he views girls vs boys. Good point!
Right
I don't know if it's biology, but since always, most men have placed more value on their son's abilities with women. Perhaps it's some sort of extension of their own need to carry on genes? I don't know. When their son gets laid, the father is usually in the "that's my boy" mind-frame rather than what he might think if the same thing happened with his daughter. It's just how men are wired, I guess.
With the shift in society today, we look at it as unfair and hypocritical. We are quick to point out that the behaviour would be different if things were reversed. But we are still biologically the same males and females that have the wiring to view things differently just as we have been since the dawn of time. The whole "women have more invested in feelings while men have more placement for sex" biology. He views the woman as a recipient of sex, while the male is the one asserting sex. So maybe that's why men forget that women can be predators because they think they're not capable of being the aggressor. Maybe that's why they think their son (or others' sons) are to be viewed as being sexually confident if they can get any girl or woman, especially a woman since she is likely harder to get than a girl. They should be reminded that we've evolved, and yes, women can be aggressors and boys are very much in a position to be victimized.
Ignorance is bliss
But answer the question directly
Yes, it's hypocritical.
He was probably fucking her too. You got to protect your assets.
It's my friend, not me. But answer the question
I did. He didn't call the police because he was probably porking the older woman too.
But do you think he is prejudice or hypocrite?
Yes total double standard
men like that are gross. but for men sex is praised, so i feel bad that he thinks it was okay
Yh my friend she left him
So you agree?
yes, but i think someone should explain to him why its not okay that way he isn't confused if similar issues ever happen to come up
All depends on how underage he was at the time. I believe that around 16 yes old is capable of making the decision and it would be okay then, however any younger and well is not okay
Would you say the same thing if it was a girl?
He would still consider his 16 year old a little girl and call cops.
Most definitely would, girls tend to mature faster then boys so by that age they are more then capable of making that decision for them selves
also the fact that it really isn't his son so he wouldn't care. He most likely values the older woman's friendship though
It is his son... Read the question
something wrong with the dad man
So do you agree with me or not?
The question was one of how sincere they were , how old he was , how much damage she caused in total, what her attitude was , how many other victims there were, etc. If he were almost an adult , then some Old Testament -style making her pay a hefty fine for fraudulent seduction, or asking her to marry him, etc., would have sufficed. Now, if she were claiming multiple victims , clearly without remorse , and lived for her predation, then put her down like an animal!
Yes, this sounds harsh. But 4 years in a box, followed by a lifetime of harassment at 5 AM, plus the inability to find a job? Is that really any better?
The thing was the mom thought she was sick and used him as he didn't know better as he was really young. She thought it took advantage of him, even though the boy enjoyed it.
Well, yeah. There's no arguing with a mama bear. The other lady really should've thought about that. I'd look at how dangerous the offender is, and factor that in. Men get harsher sentences, but that's because of the aftermath. Female pedos usually draw the line at sex. Male pedos tend to murder whoever becomes an inconvenience later. That's partially why vigilantes also have double standards. A creepy teacher being caught in an alligator trap is not as rewarding psychologically as knowing you caught some squinty-eyed blob with stubble, who keeps a collection of child mummies next to his spare chainsaws. Catching and putting down the latter monster makes men feel more manly. Shutting down a creepy teacher who looks cute enough to be "cured" into a marriage to a man, just doesn't give the same boost. Doesn't excuse double standards, but the psychology of this phenomenon explains why such standards exist.
What are you talking about? You watch too much movies. I think she got what she deserved
That is a lingering Double Standard!! Little daughters, should NEVER be taken advantage of, because of their age, but for some younger men, having a mature woman show him everything he wants to know, and learn to do, and feel those sensations? Very few guys, at 16, I think, would report that, or say anything but "Thank you Ma'am"!!
The sensible "Cougar" makes sure that he is at least "legal age" and then maybe uses him, a bit, for her joy, but she gives him so much more, that lasts a lifetime!!
Hate, if you want, but it is different for a lot of guys. . .
So it's little girls vs younger men? Girls mature faster, stop with the bias and prejudice. You defending pedophiles and sex predators, I didn't expect that from you.
Joe rogan has this whole bit about that where he gets on stage and starts saying
"oh yea I'm sexist as fuck... Against men" lol and he starts talking about how if a guy were to take advantage of his daughter he'd be pissed but if he had a son it would be different.
It's in one of the Netflix specials.
Hmm how does that relate? Just answer the question
It relates but I guess you'd have to see it to really get why. Men aren't the same as women. Guys don't get manipulated into having sex they don't want (generally). Like every underage guys dream is to get with an older woman. When I was 15 that was like, one of the coolest things you could do haha. I had friends who would try to do it To act like any time an older woman has sex with a younger guy is somehow abuse is ludicrous. How do you know it's not the kid mentality abusing the older girl. Not everyone matures the same way, some people are really stupid even in adulthood lol some people just like to fuck there's not much wrong with it. But it's just a scary thought that this happens. EEspecially after years of seeing guys manipulate women of all sorts of ages. woman do it too. But these "abuse" situations are most likely a vast minority compared to people just having a little fun. So these situations should just be handles more carefully. certainly far less harshly
Hahahaha You think young teens can prey on pedophiles? Hahahahaha You think some old ass woman preying and using a little boy for her herself is OK and not taking advantage? That's just ridiculous, whether the boy liked it or not, it's irrelevant, because she was the adult and knew what she was doing and took advantage of him by using him. That's my opinion of course, and you are free to believe what you want, but your support of pedophilia is disgusting and illegal. by the way, girls mature faster by 2 years in case you didn't know (: but I guess your bias is too strong I am going to ask the question with reverse genders so don't answer it because I am not interested in seeing pedophilia support and will immediately delete it. Thanks for your opinion
Yeah they are hypocrites. Some men think it’s cool or hot that a young guy got with an older woman. But this is internalized misandry. A woman taking advantage of a young boy is just as disgusting as the other way around. This boy got his innocence taken away from him. A lot of men who got abused develop porn addictions and unhealthy sex habits. It’s not okay what she did and is very selfish and evil. I’m glad she ended up going to jail. You’re right about the husband. He has a lot of reflecting to do.
Agree!
Totally depends on how old the boy was. A 16-17 year old man who sleeps with a woman who is older is not being taken advantage of. People try to say that our brains can't consent before 18 but that's a load of bullshit. Age and age of consent Is a social construct. Look back to when people only lived to be like 40 and were having kids at like 17. I understand times change but my point is sex is an innate drive in us and simply being 18 doesn't give you some magical ability to now understand consent.
So what if it was a 16 or 17 year old woman? He would still call her little girl and call police. I agree, 16 is too young. 17 is better but still wrong
They are boys NOT men
Your lack of reply shows that you know its hypocritical and prejudice. How sad.
Pedo is a Pedo I don't see gender its not a gray area, you either are one or not one. I treat a pedo all the same, with disdain and avoid them and if they are putting a kid in danger i call the cops and protect the kid
That's rational way of looking at things. Can't believe so many have sympathy for the pedo woman
I don't really know the husbands motives for trying to defend the depo woman.
My guess on why he stopped his wife from calling the police:
At any rate it might be how men see sex as a good thing no matter what. Because it seem men glory the hell out of sex, a lot. Like holy shit it gets on my nerves how much it's glorified and worshiped. Bang a bunch of women and some how you're seen as cool. It just gets on my nerves how you can be worship for something like that.
This is part of the reason why men being rape is always so underrated and looked over.
Anyways I'm getting off track.
In terms of comparing it if it happened to his daughter, yeah he's being a hypocrite.
In the terms of law, your friend did the right thing.
Shit like that shouldn't be tolerated, it's against the law. Idgaf what nobody says.
I think he is just blinded by his hormones
Thinking how it would be amazing for him while ignoring what the woman has done
Yeah, it's just another dumbass double standard. Men thinking with their dick too damn much.
That's hypocritical.
I think that it is not my place to pass judgment on a person in a situation I know virtually nothing about, and that anyone who would deliberately, or intentionally, be a party to causing harm to a minor is not someone who should be allowed to be around children.
I'm not okay with current sex offender legislation, because it's nothing more than a sadistic Witch Hunt, but I do recognize the need to protect children from harm.
What kind of person this individual is, is not for me to say, but no one should harm children. Deliberately, or through negligence.
What if the child is not harmed but used by some pedophile sexually? That's taking advantage
I would consider that to be harm inflicted on that child.
Well that's what female pedophiles do and this husband said its fine because he is using her too. I think it's crazy and sick
Hypocrite yes but life is truly different for men vs women so they waiver Just because of typical aspects of differences between men and women
What do you mean?
Men at a certain age is thought to be able to handle his own simply off of his “masculine traits” so when you say things like “rape” of a young man with the offender being a woman it’s looked at more so a passage for manhood
Its ignorance
The lack moral foundation. Its called situational ethics. Hypocrites.
I'm not sure why some guys have such a double standard about underage sex. If my son were to be drawn in by a woman that much older I'd want to see them prosecuted. I certainly wouldn't defend her.
I agree with @PizzaLoverHouse
But that's not answering the question...
a lot of what i have to say has already been said so.
Say it, that's the point of answering questions on here. I want to see what you have to say
Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Most Helpful Guys