Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Half people say it does, half that it doesn't.
Among the half arguing that it didn’t, there is a further divide: the men who didn’t care about women’s pasts because they had no intention of ever ending up in any form of committed long-term relationship... and the men who didn’t care because they legitimately thought a woman’s past had no bearing on her future.
Why should you care?
a 2007 study of American women,"Sexual infidelity in a national survey of American women: Differences in prevalence and correlates as a function of method of assessment.,"discovered a 7% increase in infidelity risk per each additional partner (also, a 10% decrease in infidelity risk per each additional year of education) for women.
link- http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2007-09250-002
You may be surprised to know that 1 out of 10 children born in marriage in the United States are not fathered by the husband in that marriage, or carrying a permanent infection from one of her past partners.
When did she first have sex
Has she ever had sex with friends
Has she ever cheated on a romantic partner before, whether she says, “Yes, and he absolutely deserved it!”or,“I did, but I was young and immature and I’ve grown tremendously since then,” your response has to be the same: she’s out of the running (unless you want an open relationship).
If the first time she had sex was 22, she was too busy focusing on her studies in college to date, party, or spend an ounce of time on boys, her first lover was her tutor in school right before she graduated, and she attends religious service regularly, you’re safe not probing any further, usually.
If, on the other hand, she first had sex at 15, though only because her boyfriend was pressuring her; many of the men she’s been with since then were friends of hers; loves parties and dancing and drinking; and yes, she’s cheated before, but she’s grown a lot since then, you’ve got some cause to be concerned.
What Girls & Guys Said
23 38Why should it matter? I am very open about the amount of people I have had sex with. It isn't a big deal.
Because boyfriend is insecure, he doesn't want to be just another number to her. He wants to be her #1.
@Uhhjsshshdh I just don't think it should make any difference how many people you've had sex with. It doesn't mean you had feelings for the person. It can just be a physical act that both people enjoy
I agree. It shouldn't matter if you've slept with 0, 1, 7, 17, or 70 other men. If I'm with you I'm interested in you for you, not them. And I would welcome you sharing your experiences.
Only when it comes to health concerns. Without judging, it is an undisputable fact that the more partners one has (or has had), the greater the risk of an STD. That is my only concern when it comes to both genders and their ''numbers''.
I think the past does matter as the more sexual experience my partner has chances are higher that she will be better at sex. That doesn't mean i wouldn't date a sexually inexperienced girl but in general id prefer a girl with more previous partners.
The amount of lying about number worries me.
If past doesn't matter why to lie? If someone doesn't like your past, just don't date him. Lying causes bigger problems, and if your SO has lied about himself, you have no right to get angry because you lied yourself.
This is predominantly true. Add mother to that.
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I care, but I wouldn't try to convince someone to care if they don't. It's up to the individual to determine whether or not it matters to them.
How would you know how many partners a woman had in the past? She can just lie.
Hahahah, well its visible when a person lies, at least when you learn how to see it
@zzzondarrr I highly doubt you can tell. Guy: how many guys you've been with? Girl: 2 How can you tell from that?
How can you figure anything out because she can lie. Maybe she is murderer but lying about it. Why need to lie about past? If someone doesn't like your past, then don't date that guy. If you can't be honest, you have wrong guy.
People talk. It eventually comes out in some form or another.
You pay attention to the conversation that you are having with that person, IN PERSON. People don't speak in print. They speak using language which is a combination of speech, body position, eye position, inflection and volume. Some people are good liars and can spin a story convincingly, most people aren't that good.
Yeah a pathological liar 🤥 lmao... can relate. My husbands ex used to be one and my husband knew and always gave his family signs that she was lying through her teeth
@xButterflyKisses87x Even the pathological ones aren't always good at it. Some people are just really practiced and can make you believe the sun is green given enough time. These are the ones that are dangerous.
@Ashely_007 You little devil... lol
Do women lie?
If a guy ask me I am totally honest.
@Gyrfalcon Never. lol
@Paige90 I have to give you credit for this but most are not like that.
@Charleslvajr do you ever tell lies?
Yep, and sometimes they get me in trouble
Not to the important people in my life. Others feel like they are entitled to know but have no veracity so they get the adulterated truth. Enough to not be a full lie but not enough to give them an insight into me they don't deserve.
I wouldn't lie, but I know women who do and their bfs believe them. It's not as straight forward as you guys think.
Pm me
@Gyrfalcon why?
Non public true confession of my first gf’s lie (s)
I usually just keep on asking questions related to the subject, until I start to see the inconsistencies, because if the person is lying they need to make up stuff on the fly often, and they just can't remember all that they've said, and then they happen to say two completely different things on nearly the same question :D
It never is straight forward when women are involved. I will never believe most of what a woman says as the absolute truth. It's always "true as they see it" kind of event.
@zzzondarrr and that's when I break up. I'm not getting into a relation to get cross-examine. If the guy keeps bring up the question, I'll think he is possessive and insecure.
@Ashely_007 That's what I do before even entering a relationship :P
Wait, what's wrong with being possessive? 😂 Aren't you supposed to feel possessive of someone who you're devoted to?
@zzzondarrr are you in a relationship?
@zzzondarrr well you said you do that before a relationship. So...
@Ashely_007 no, why?
@zzzondarrr Thought so.
I'm in a LTR, married for 14 years and I know my wife's history and she know's her husbands. Notice the possessive forms used here. It's served us for 16 years total including the 14 married. Seems to work.
@Charleslvajr Not in the same context. That other guy said he does that before getting into a relationship.
@Ashely_007 buy why would I get into a relationship with someone like that? :D
I knew before we got into a long term relationship. It was a part of the getting to know one another and getting to understand.
And yes it's the same context.
@zzzondarrr I'm not telling you to.
Long Island Teas and a drunk talk about sex. Tells me everything I need to know. Don't necessarily need a number. Will know if she is/was promiscuous.
Past should matter for both sexes
The only things that should matter is your partners integrity and if they’re STD free.
@NewToThis83 that's your opinion
Yes it is, what’s your point?
Yea right. thats the first reason why there are more divorces. they are more likely to cheat.
What's yours? And if it's a low or high number what does that say about you?
It matters but it wouldn't effect me. That chart is not 100% accurate by the way
The key is to find a balance between sexual experience and sanity. I will say I have never been with a girl but I have to imagine that the ideal number is somewhere between 3 and 5.
Past matters a lot.
Past doesn't matter. I'm ready to accept a slutty girlfriend as long as she didn't do it for the money (no prostitute thus)
You're old !!! take it easy... lol
@Super2nd I didn't want to die young. That's why I'm old. :)
That's cool... lol
The statistics bear an unavoidable truth: the more men she's slept with, the less able she is to pair-bond. She becomes less able to pair bond either with the man or her child.
Do not shoot the messenger. The research is pretty clear on this.
But I am not against just having fun unless she has an STD.
But if she has slept with more than like, 15 men, she will not bear my children.
I feel like the number of bodies you have does matter. But I feel like a hypocrite because I'm not quick on the draw to tell my body count. I always just say "None of your concern" or "I have 2" thinking that's a safe number to tell people. Not bad, not innocent. But I do in fact have more bodies than that. I'm a sexually active person, I take caution, and I get texted regularly. I am in great sexual health.
It matters. It matters for all of us. Our history of actions are the best indicators of future action. That includes past partners falls in line with this.
Yes , if it's less than 10 I'm not dating her
Is there any studies of non American women?
Of course that the number matters, a lot, and for me everything above 0 is already unacceptable...
I seek for a deep lifelong relationship, in which which me and my SO would become each other's main purpose of life, and I think that for such level of connection it's just necessary that you are the only one that your SO ever had, and vice-versa...
That picture with the 4 girls is interesting, it shows one big truth, that after you have multiple sexual partners you start to separate intimacy from love, and the more you have them, the greater separation there is between those 2 things in your heart... They are indeed 2 different things, but they are just so connected, intimacy is a result of love and it serves to reinforce it, with those 2 things separated in your mind you will never be able to achieve great depths of connection with your partner, and once you separate them, you just become unable to ever properly connect them again... It's like with all the things that corrupt the heart, when you "learn" what is wrong, you just forget what is right, and some of those things that we are born with are just impossible to relearn again... That's one of the reasons why virginity and purity of heart has always been valued so much throughout the human history, only now the popular belief seems to be that it's somehow irrelevant... And then people wonder why there are no strong marriages and families anymore, and why depression and other mental illnesses are skyrocketing...
for me, i only live in the present, not the past
for many others, they obsess over this on many levels
which view is more right or less wrong?