Does sex get better with experience or does the novelty wear off?

[exitseven]

[DonkeyDan]

Well, yes it does get better with experience, but at the same time if that experience is with the same partner for years the novelty does start to wear off. On of the things that has made sex better and better for me since my divorce is being able to experience many different partners and learning new things from them about things that they like but also new things I like. Do get me wrong sex with my ex wife was great right up to the end, but regardless of how much you change things up it's still the same person with the same likes and dislikes and mostly the same kind of routine even if the scenarios are different. Having an active sex life with different partners for me at this stage of life reinvigorated my passion for sex and I enjoy it now more than I ever did.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s different with every person you try it with.

things get better with experience, confidence to try new stuff, confidence to actually chat about what each other like or don’t like etc,

[ludorock]

Way better with experience - and experience with one person specifically.

I don't think there's such a thing as someone who is good at sex with all people, because everyone is different. What I like, what turns me on and makes me feel good, my sensitive places are all very different from someone else, and there are no 'general tactics' that work for everyone.

I've been with my partner now for a decade and every time we have sex it is different and exciting and better than the last, because we know exactly how to help each other and each time we discover new things, and as we get more comfortable we continue to open up more and more deeply about what really gets us off so it continues to improve.

[AmandaYVR]

The anxiety of youth wears off and people tend to get a lot more knowledgeable, confident and chill.

But novelty is huge. And there's no way to recreate that. The body (and mind) knows. "I've been here before... seen this before. I know exactly how this thing works."

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR So that's why you need to get creative and play roleplay games. 😀

[GoldenAxer]

I think the novelty definitely wears off but other things wear in like familiarity.

[GoldenAxer]

If I relate to video games (although I'm not much of a gamer these days), the novelty of playing the Super Nintendo for the first time wore off. But the memories and nostalgia and familiarity associated live on. If we want to maximally pursue novelty, then we probably want something new all the time. If we like familiarity, sentiment, things of this nature, then novelty isn't the ultimate thing we seek. I'm in the latter category. That's why I'm married.

[GoldenAxer]

My wife is my Sega Megadrive, so to speak. I know I can get plenty more novelty with the X-Boxes, and Playstations, and Nintendo 64s, and Wiis, and NDS, and whatnots. But I got my novelty from the Super Nintendo. It wore off but I fell in love with it. I don't want new stuff here that much if it means I have to give up my love of the old stuff.

[GoldenAxer]

Err, I got my novelty from the Masterdrive as well as SNES. Well, I was torn between those two. What a horrible typo!

[GoldenAxer]

And of course, if we're talking about sex in general and not with a particular person, I think that also loses some of its novelty. At least it has been lost on me since the time I was a teenager. But there are other aspects as I see it, like nostalgia, which keep it interesting.

[GoldenAxer]

... well, anything we approach as a skill as I see never gets that old, because there's always room for improvement. I tend to approach sex as a skill which means that even after it has lost its novelty, it doesn't ever get that routine or monotonous.

[Screenwriter]

Some novelty wears off, so you have to keep reinventing the wheel with sex.

If it's done with love, love always deepens with time. I'd think sex would improve too.

[PenkWing]

It never gets old. In my case it gets better with experience because I was able to better identify my desires and my mental place. A lot of that was pretty obscure when I was younger, and I’m still figuring it out. The most important experience is probably with yourself, it’s not only about having partners. On the other hand, sex is all about communication, and your communication skills will get better if you use them. It’s just like how you can have more enriching conversations when you allow yourself to explore different opinions, and you’re not overwhelmed by the urge to prove a point. You will have better sex when you find what it really gives you. The novelty doesn’t play any role.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

With the right sex partner, it definitely can.. And sex shouldn't be a novelty, it should be desire and passion, why is better to have sex with someone you really love and really desire..

[DizzyDesii]

To me, sleeping with different people wouldn't be considered experience. Experience to me would be having sex for years and years with the same person but somehow still keeping it interesting and spiced up. So i really wouldn't know yet and still feel quite inexperienced

[DizzyDesii]

I've only had sex with two people and often tried NOT to have sex with them. But whenever we did have sex, i couldnt stahp 🤣 so i’m at least past beginners level

[exitseven]

thank you for the opinion.

[DizzyDesii]

@katelinder about what? Youve told everyone to message you. You might be one of those hookers 🤣

[loves2learn]

Deeeepppp question. Honestly, I do not feel qualified to answer. *bows out*

[exitseven]

boooo!

[loves2learn]

@exitseven your take please and thank you.

[exitseven]

sorry

[loves2learn]

Forgiven. I still want your perspective.

[exitseven]

okay- after a while it does change. The desperation is not there anymore. In some ways it is a good thing but it still was part of why the sex was so good. Then there is the getting older piece of it. I can no longer have marathon, multi orgasmic sex sessions. I guess the good part is growing closer to another person and knowing them and knowing how to love them. That is the good part of experience.

[loves2learn]

@exitseven thank you for that honest account. Much appreciated.

[elizamichale1]

Oh why not

[loves2learn]

@elizamichale1 only had sex with 1 man

[loves2learn]

Lots of sex. 😂 Twice today in fact. 😈

[elizamichale1]

Oh i see keeping it sweet and angelic 😘😘

[loves2learn]

Didn’t plan it that way. Life just happens like that sometimes. :)

[elizamichale1]

Umm n i actually did not have even once lol but now i am quite horny though since that other question... N well even with one it makes u experienced doesn't it?

[elizamichale1]

Yea true but u r keeping it that way n honestly u r the only person i have come across so far who even has kids but been only with 1 guy

[loves2learn]

Yes. I suppose I do have A LOT of experience with him lol. And judging from today, nope! Novelty has not worn off. 😂 I know I am unique in many ways. I should get dressed now. Lmao

[elizamichale1]

U definitely do honey If i was there i would have said dont lol

[weysally]

both happens, though the sex gets better the excitement dwindles, because most times you know what to expect,

[erandal]

For me it did. As I did it more I tried new things, I discovered more about what gets me turned on, and what does the opposite. I would think that sexual relationships can go stale very quickly when you don't mix it up a bit.

[ohshee]

I think it gets better with desire and the wanting to please your partner if you lose that or when you lose that it all fades away.. if you cannot share desire passion fantasy lust and make it about the other person and take her to a place and she's never been then it fades away
I've always said you have to experience it to understand it or at least I do LOL

[Apple1996]

It gets better overtime in a relationship since the connection between a couple gets stronger and stronger.(at least it should be getting stronger if the relationship is good).
And I'm assuming by experience you are meaning in a relationship and not experience like having many sexual partners.

[wittymilf]

Efficiency in trading orgasms gets better. So I just suppose it depends on what you deem good sex 🤷‍♀️

[exitseven]

I like that. Reducing sex to a transaction. Trading orgasms.

[wittymilf]

That’s what happens 27 years into a relationship 😂😂

[humanearth]

Depends sometimes it dies off and sometimes it gets more wild

What the driving factor is the sex drive of the people involved

If both have a very high drive even after years together. Wild sex parties live on till the night

if one has a high sex drive and the other don't, I see a lot of masturbation in their life

[bowenw]

It can go either way. If you don't keep it fresh and exciting by trying new things the novelty can wear off.

[elizamichale1]

It definitely gets better

[Grownlady8]

Hmmmm, I thing it gets better with time. I connection must be there. I'm totally speaking for myself. I have to be attracted and have a connecting and know that I want to be intimate. This doesn't happen often for me but when it doesn't wear off, unless the connection dissipates.

[girlygirl2034]

I think it would wear off for some but not all. Me it would never wear off

[karaspara]

Better with experience

[DaveToo]

I can't say as I ever got bored with any form of sex I was involved in.

[kellytheman]

In my opnion having sex makes it better so practice makes perfect.

[Wiredone]

Apparently it wears off