During sex, I was trying to pleasure myself and my boyfriend grabbed my hand moved it and said “no” and insisted he do it?

Was he doing this because he thinks I can’t do it? What are some reasons?
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  • i wouldn’t read that as his forbidding you to do what you want. I think it’s a natural impulse when you are in the middle of sex to want to give pleasure. I’m the kind of guy who would insist you let me carry your bags if I am walking with you. That’s not because I think you can’t do it or because I am trying to control you. I suspect that’s all that was happening here.

    Just tell him that you like him and enjoy sex with him and you like to touch yourself at the same time.

Most Helpful Guy

  • A man gets some of his sexual gratification from demonstrating that he can please his partner sexually. Your action sent the message that he can't really do that and he needs your help for you to get off. He probably felt somewhat insulted or threatened.

    • Nah; I don't think it's that deep. I think he just wanted to help. :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • I guess some guys are bothered by that, like they think they need to do everything. I do it all the time and my boyfriend doesn't mind at all. I think he likes it because it takes some pressure off of him, and I have more orgasms. It's a win-win.

    • And your right it does take pressure off of the guy. But it's more than that. No one knows how to pleasure someone better than ones self. Without talking about it I would never assume to know what the other likes or doesn't.

  • He’s jealous cause you can pleasure yourself better than he can

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  • He's probably just insecure about his abilities in that area- whether justifiably so or not. Talk to him about it; let him know it's not a criticism of his technique on your part.

  • He needs to lighten up and realize that some women really enjoy self-pleasuring during sex. I have an ex-girlfriend who was like that and I really liked that she was enjoying her sexuality.

  • Probably because he wanted to be included In the action rather than just an observer

  • Blowjob contest in college. The first palmful wins. We lost.

  • He may be overly self-conscious that he's not in control and pleasuring you.

  • Control of course. That's our job. You were usurping it. :)

  • If I was there instead of him, my cock would get rock hard to play with your pussy JK JK JK … Well, he was jealous that you could do it to yourself.

  • Could be that he wanted to take charge and not let you feel like you had to take care of your own pleasure.

    This is something that you really ought to be asking him.

  • We are no mind reader's. But it might be he want to pleasure you and have full control of your pleasure. Or he might think he is not doing something right and took a bit of offence to it.

  • Wtf, why

    • I think I know.

  • He wanted to pleasure you... der...🙄

  • I wish my man didn’t get jealous either. I wish he liked to watch and once I came he made me cum even harder.

  • Why are you cucking him with your hands?

  • you need to ask him ,, and then tell him why you do it communication is key to lots of things

  • It's the same thing as opening the door for you. Lol. It's called chivalry.

  • He probably wants to to feel like he can do absolutely everything by himself, and you only need him.
    When I marry I’ll let my wife pleasure herself as much as she wants while I try to pleasure her. I see it as teamwork.

  • He wants to be the ome you seek out when you want sexual pleasure. In other words, you link sexual pleasure with him. If you do so, you'll be more willing to be with for sexual release than on your own.

  • what a nice guy

  • Most likely he's dominate and wants full control on pleasuring you

  • Did you ask him why?
    What did he say?

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