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Facial cumshots, are they ok?

I notice most girls don't really appreciate getting a facial, though many guys seem to love dropping a load over a girl's face. For us girls it can be seen as humiliating, though for guys it has an opposite effect. Good or bad, I can assure you, as a girl when the fun is over and you are on your knees with warm cum on your face, you kinda feel like the spitting image of a slut.

Guys know that it's not the most appreciated thing so they are careful with even asking their partner, especially their girlfriend if it's ok. With a sober one night stand, things might be a little different and here and there a guy will just go for it. But with a drunk one night stand, it's very noticeable.

I'm a bad drinker and I admit, I have had very drunk one night stands with about 50 different men. It's actually most of my sex life and as bad as it sounds, I'm aware and ok with it. I just get drunk, have no idea what I'm doing and somehow take about any guy home. Of the 50 guys 40 have just shot it in my face without asking. How come? I think they just really want to try it and a drunk girl who doesn't say no to anything is probably the perfect chance. Also they probably don't really feel like it will cause any problems if they treat a girl in that situation without any respect.

What do you guys think about this? I honestly don't mind a facial, definitely not with an ordinary one night stand, but the way the decisions are made is just really weird and worrying to me.
Facial cumshots, are they ok?
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  • Your question is somewhat complicated. Facials take on a variety of emotions, depending on the sexual situation. I wrote yesterday about men and women being much more similar than we give ourselves credit for. Personality types tend to drive certain stereotypes between the two sexes. But in both groups, you have your shallow people.

    Being young and having fun without any strings attached is really no different than somebody who is divorced and doesn't want any strings attached as well. I highlight this because there are levels of no strings attached. And there are levels of intimacy and serious relationships that differ. Why is all of this important? Well, if you want to engage in a one night stand, a man make look at this opportunity as dirty sex and whatever happens, happens. A woman may look at the situation and think that since she's pushing to engage in the situation, she'll take on certain risk. Back to the shallowness in certain people. Yes, there are some nasty dudes out there. But there are some nasty women out there too that have their own interests in mind. I'm not saying this is you or any of your partners. I'm saying that even in the most basic sexual situations, they take on a lot more than we initially believe they will, regardless of level of relationship.

    I've been married for 18 years. When my wife and I roll around in bed and play, she loves the dirty talk. She loves calling herself my "slut." It's kinky. It's cute. It's fun. And it is between just us. I asked her about her saying that several years back and why she loves saying it. Her response? Because our intimacy allows her to be however she wants with me and can express her fantasies to me. Of course, we have a very deep, involved relationship. But that doesn't mean I can cum all over her face whenever I'd like. When we both desire it is when it may or may not happen. So with this all, always think about what you're okay with and not okay with. Bottom line is that a facial should be fun for the both of you and NEVER leaving you feeling badly.

    Best of luck.

    • Thanks! I totally agree. I also realise that the guys that see me walking and immediately think "nice, a drunk slut I can use" are the guys that approach me and probably score. The nice guys probably don't see me before one of those guys have me in sight already.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Your comments all make sense to me. I think what it comes down to is:
    - facials are a small act of dominance/humiliation
    - that humiliation can be role play because one or both find that hot, or genuine disrespect, or both
    - you’re sort of fine with them. Not sure if you just find them hot or are mainly indifferent
    - the fact these guys aren’t asking or caring about whether you mind suggests that the disrespect may be real not just a sex game At least with some of them.
    - you’re not sure if you care about THAT.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't have an issue with them per se but they should really be discussed beforehand, simply because so many women don't like them.

    To me facials are only degrading if they haven't been agreed on beforehand. It is also just generally important that both parties agree with what happens in the bed room.

    • so true

    • Very true. Good take.

  • I would prefer he not get it in my eyes or hair, other than that it kind of turns me on to see him cum. I guess I would rather him do it on my stomach or boobs, but facial is not horrible.

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  • One of those things that should be discussed between partners. I like them... till it gets in my eye on accident

  • I love getting cum on a woman but the face and mouth are a little over the top for me. It's a respect factor as well as the idea that I want her to enjoy sex and not pretend to like it which will cause resentment over time as she sees it a chore. I'm more into ejaculating on her bush, tummy, breasts, inner legs. I like her to see it as I pull out and release. But mostly I like to ejaculate deep inside the vagina where it's natural. I can't bring myself to cum on a girl's face.

  • I wouldn't do it unless i knew she was totally cool with it... for us yeah its like an urge... like some primordial "mark" or some nonsense like that, so i get why guys like to do it. I think its very much out the question for one night stands unless she brings it up and says "you can come on my face if you like"

  • Absolutely love it

  • The guy needs to ask. Personally I don't see the appeal in a facial. I'd rather finish on her chest or inside.

  • Personally, spurting my cum on a girls face does nothing for me at all. I'd much rather cum in her mouth or pussy. This whole facial thing was invented in porn simply for the reason they must show the all important "money shot". It has nothing to do with pleasure. I think you'll find the guys that are into it are also addicted to porn. I grew up in my late teens and quit watching porn as I found it to be so unrealistic and fake. If people ever take the time to learn what goes on at a porn set they'd know just how fake it is, even some of the cum shots are fake.

  • Only if you're a porn addict. Otherwise, it would never occur to anybody.

  • He can finish anywhere but my face, hair, or butt.

  • Damn this was sad to read
    It is a show of dominance and humiliation for sure.

    I have never cummed on a womans face. In fairness I have had sex with 5 women in my life and 3 of them were my girlfriends.
    I always felt it was disrespectful to blast a load on their face.
    So I normally just came inside them or on their breasts, belly, or butt.

    I dont think its ok, it lowers the self-esteem of a lot of women. and it doesn't sound like you enjoy it

  • They're okay as long as the two parties are into each other and maybe talk about it. The reason that 40 of the 50 (I can't believe I even typed that just now) have facialed you just immediately without asking and just by expectation is because you've made yourself into a quick and easy lay, drunk girl that just wants to get railed, so we rail you and there you go. That's all there is to it. They don't respect you, is why they do it. But that doesn't mean it's automatically a disrespectful thing-- it's only disrespectful that they're doing it the way they're doing it, not because they WANT to disrespect you, but just that they don't care one way or the other. You're easy and a slut, so they don't even think about it.

    • wow thanks for the compliments

    • It's not an issue of being complimentary or non-complimentary; I don't know you one way or the other, all I have to go on is what you've written. And I promise you that what I'm saying is how it is. Right versus wrong doesn't play into it. It simply is what it is.

  • I'm ok with it.

    • Mmmm

  • Its ok if you say so. Just because that many guys cummed on your face doesn't mean you had to let them, so you must have liked it? The one time I did it, the girl was really into it.

    • If a guy is pumping away, says he's gonna cum, quickly pulls out and shoots it in your face, you don't really have many options. There are other ways then either loving it or pushing the guy away.

    • True, but you do two things. Suggest he cum on your boobs, or just tell him not to cum on your face.

  • Necessary for a good sexual life!

  • Well my love. I always considered it to be degrading and never liked the idea of blowing my load on her face. I prefer to blow it inside of her. I will pull out and blow it on her pubis mons or tummy but only if she prefers. If she were to ask me to blow it on her face or told me to it in her mouth then i would.

  • You should always ask.

  • If that's what they like, why not?

    I mean seriously.. why do people HAVE to have an opinion about EVERYTHING

  • Unless the girl asks for it I think it is degrading but that is my opinion If you like it do it but ask first. If the person does not ask tell him not on my face , if your are fucking tell him you do not want his cum in your pussy it is up to you

  • If you're ok with them, they're ok

  • They are a massive turn on and a loving act performed by the girl for her man

  • I would never do that unless the girl asked for it.

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