First sex with him. We agreed to use condom but during sex I forgot to remind him?

We had unprotected sex. It lasted for about an hour. He's good and can hold his cum. I drank wine before being intimate with him. I forgot to remind him, did he forgot it too or he did it intentionally? I don't know where I stand to him because we only had 2 dates. He kissed me in the forehead and even kissed me good bye.
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  • At the beginning, did you clarify that you are insisting on condoms because you are unprotected?
    If it was not specified beforehand, and the woman doesn't bring it up once we get to the act, I would assume that her initial concern was just STDs rather than the pregnancy risk and that she has since changed her mind.

    If she mentioned being unprotected, I would definitely ask her again and proceed raw only with the confirmation that she will be getting plan b or something.

    Either way, it's weird and actively irresponsible unless you are blackout plastered or something.
    I wouldn't do raw without explicit consent.

    • Well-explained. Thank you! I just realized that maybe he doesn't respect me that much. That's why in the first place he wanted to do this casual thing. On our first date, I thought we're there to look for serious relationship. The second one, I almost told him I'm done but then he asked me if he can kiss me and if we can start to get intimate. And reminded me please be careful not to catch feelings. From there, I know he's just looking for a hookup. Silly me, agree to it and now facing these consequences.

    • Well, I think at least you don't have to worry about pregnancy. If he lasted that long and seemed unfazed then he was most likely honest about having safely pulled out.

    • Makes sense. Ill just trust him and look at it in a positive way. The experience was great, knowing that it's been 5 years since the last time I had sex. He somehow did his part to be nice

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  • First of all, you shouldn't have to remind him to use a condom. He needs to wear one if he doesn't want to face any consequences. Second, your chances of being pregnant are slim if he actually did pull out in time. Pre-cum can still get you pregnant, but your odds are much lower than they would have been if he came inside you. Last but not least, how much wine did you drink?

    • I agree with all your statements. I wish I am not too unlucky enough to get pregnant. I drank three wine glasses but it's only 5%, but I also have very low alcohol tolerance so I get dizzy right away

    • He offered the wine by the way

    • Was he drinking as well?

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  • I doubt he forgot. You might want to, like, go get tested to make sure he didn’t give you anything. If you don’t know him well, you don’t know if he’s sleeping with other people as well as you. Stay safe and try not to forget next time! <3

    • I will make sure next time. I'm just new to this type of dating game. I failed to do more researches and just based everything emotionally 😖

  • How could you forget? That seems surprising.
    Anyway... I doubt he forgot the condom.. in my experience, guys don't wanna use them.

    • I got drunk I guess and got caught in the moment. I was too nervous

    • I suppose he got caught up in the moment too, because it felt too good, or whatever. I guess next time, when you're both still sober, remind him to wrap it up.

    • Maybe. When there's next time. He is unpredictable and only texts when he wants to meet me same day. Drives me nuts

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  • Nah... he did it on purpose because you didn't remind him. Guys don't like condoms and will weasel out of it if you allow them.

    • I was caught off guard in that moment. I drank some wine so I can take off all the nervousness I'm feeling. The next thing I know, he's inside me.

    • Wow... well damn. Dude is not the most romantic type is he. Seems little rushed to me. Might be the most generous or gracious type of guy.

    • We did kiss on his couch while I'm on top with our clothes on. Then we get naked and headed to his bedroom. We did a little bit of foreplay actually like oral sex. Then the next thing I know, it's inside me without remembering about the condom hehe

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  • how would we know. make sure to take some plan b

    • It's the 5th day since the last time we had sex. I'll just wish I'm lucky not to be pregnant. My judgment has been clouded before and after sex with him.

    • wow. so you're a full blown idiot. fingers crossed you aren't, like we need stupidity reproducing even more D:

    • I know. It's been 5 years since I had sex. Maybe out of excitement, I suddenly became an idiot

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  • Hopefully you are on birth control. No condom means no sex and he should know it.

    • I am not. I haven't been sexually active in the past five years. He's my first outside relationship. I never knew it will be like this.

  • He didn't forget, he knew exactly what he was doing.

    • Got it. He just went in without the condom. It's my first hookup after five years so it felt so tight in my part the first time he went in so I forgot to remind him too

  • For protection from STDs and unwanted pregnancy be sure to write it down and remind him too

    • I will definitely keep that in mind for the next sexual encounters in the future. Thanks!

    • You bet 😎👍

  • Maybe he forgot, if your forgot and he also drank it's possible he forgot. Both option are actually possible you can never know for sure.

    • Maybe. I kinda feel violated but I don't blame him at all. It's just the consequences

    • If you both were drunk then honestly he surely just forgot to put on one int he heat of the moment.

    • After sex, I suddenly remembered and asked him, I thought you're going to use condom? He said while looking away, "You're clear right and I pulled it out before I cum."

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  • You forgot for an entire hour?

    • I really did. Probably because of the wine. Then after sex, that's when it crossed my mind like a reflex action without even thinking about it and just came out of my mouth out of nowhere

  • Maybe you shouldn't drink if you forget something so important so easily.
    Make sure you take the morning after pill, maybe a pregnancy test in a couple of weeks

    • I agree. Next time, I'll try not to drink. I'll be more responsible and maybe not do the hook up thing again. it's not for me.

  • A dude can only hold his orgasm if he masturbates A LOT.
    If you don't want your dude to be a two pump chump tell him to masturbate at least 2 times a day.

    • Hahaa for sure he did. I just can't believe he lasted so long and cum on my mouth with my consent.

  • Even if he knew what he was doing, what can you do? Lesson learned.

    • You're right. It's my first hookup too so now I learned something that will help me later

  • What’s the question?

  • That’s on him for not also remembering.

    • Definitely intentional.

    • Probably caught in the moment. But he's the host. I went to his place, he should be prepared for a condom. I was just too nervous for getting laid and missed the chance looking where the hell is the condom

    • Guys hate condoms and I hope your not pregnant.

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  • I kinda feel it was intentional because it was his responsibility to remember and I think since you didn't bring it up he felt like he could do it with out one.

    • I think so too. He did asked me few hours through text before we had sex. I said that we can use condom just to make sure. After sex, I suddenly remembered and asked him out of the blue, why he didn't use condom like. He looked away from me saying you said your clear and I'm able to pull it out

    • **you're

  • He may thought to feel you Raw. So to feel that he may not reminded you about the condom. Does he cum inside?

    • He didn't cum inside me. But before he cum, he went very deep while I'm on top for like 10 minutes maybe. I'm worried that I might get pregnant.

    • Oh really! When was your last periods?

    • I can tell me you something. But i m just thinking to tell you in public!

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  • He may have forgotten

    • Maybe he did forget and was carried too

  • I think he didn't want to use it in the first place.

    • I guess so😖 Why did he even asked me in the first place few hours before we meet up. I feel stupid

    • Because it feels very amazing RAW 😍😍

    • @Aqueeld I know 😓 It felt amazing though.

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  • Course he lasted longer you had wine lessened the feeling

    • Probably intentional then?

    • Was wine his idea

    • Actually yes, he offered me wine. The idiot me drank 3 glasses

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  • he didn't forget he wanted to cum inside you talk to him next time let him cum in your mouth so no baby

    • He did cum on my mouth. Just worried with the small chance of getting pregnant anf stds

    • use a condom for your pussy but let him cum in your mouth or ass but when doing anal make sure it does not run down to your pussy

    • cum on my mouth is okay. Not into anal yet although he asked me for butt poke (is that what it's called?) but I refused.

  • dont know he may have been tryna get ya pregnant

    • I especially told him before we do it that please don't make me pregnant

    • I thought that the wine would help me with my nervousness, but then it made my judgement clouded

  • It was a booty call.

    • I bet. He doesn't really plan to date me. But maybe lured me 😞

    • Still wouldn't advice you to stop seeing him. Its great to have a guy for valentines.

    • I'll see how it goes. Maybe if there's next time, I'll try to talk to him if we're on the same page. If not, that would be the last time.

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