Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I lost my virginity to a beautiful girl, you rarely see a girl as hot as her even on TV etc.. she had an angelic face, dark brown eyes, long dark hair with a fringe, really soft skin, slim but really curvy at the same time, enhanced boobs (bigger than average) and a tattoo on her lower back.
when i used to think about having sex for the first time i always thought i wouldn’t last very long because I’d be ‘too excited’
But in reality I lasted longer (25-30 minutes) than I thought because I wasn’t as turned on as I thought I’d be even with a girl that looks f*cking perfect.
I wasn’t as hard as usual after she put a condom and we started having sex.
I don’t know if its because it’s my first time or it’s because I’m not used to the sensation of the condom because I felt like it was a bit too tight.
I would say my erection was about 15-20% softer than usual.
i was feeling very comfortable and relaxed with the girl and it wasn't significant at all but I had to focus on her to stay hard.
I also felt like my brain was struggling to focus completely and I was thinking about other stuff lol.
do you guys have any advice/tips?
any personal experience you’d like to share?
any observation? Feel free to give your opinion.
First time having sex and struggling to stay hard?
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Updates:
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Oh I forgot to mention that I had a fight with multiple (3) guys less than an hour before sleeping with her, don’t know if its got anything to do with that Thanks for your opinions ☺️
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Im going to stop masturbating for a couple of weeks, im going to try to get used the sensation of wearing a condom and get thinner ones and a bigger sizes. Thanks for your opinions it has helped me
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 35First time nerves most likely.
It gets easier the more times you do her. Trust me when I tell ya. ;)
And condoms suck - like taking a shower with a rain coat. Tell her to get on the pill or get a IUD. Fuck condoms.
It’s because you watch too much porn. Your brain (mainly sexual stimulators and levels of endorphin) are jacked through the roof while watching porn, and your mind/body are becoming used to these new high levels for your penis to remain hard.
This is why so many men have Erectile Disfunction. The mind isn’t as stimulated from a real woman. If you keep watching porn, you may not be able to get it up at all.
Stop watching porn, your mind and body will begin to reset and you’ll solve this issue.
Sounds like its a combo of anxiety and the condom. i can never be 100% with condoms either. its why i dont use them haha.
dude its your first time so dont over think it.
Also dude if you watch pornos or jerk off often, cut it out. You are gonna want to store up the sexual energy for this woman. Also it desensitizes you to the real deal. its why you lasted 20minutes.
I don't know i never fought and then had sex in the same day. Which is lame because thats what my ancestors probably did haha I imagine it would, fighting is extremely stressful
Honestly I never had this problem. Sorry can't help on this one
Maybe something was keeping you distracted, you couldn't keep your focus on sex. Anxiety or stress could be factors with this. Something similar did happen to me actually and I just remembered it but I think for me I came too much in one day and I was out of juice
Then I will stick to my answer which is likely the case.
Honestly it'd make me feel insecure as if I'm not doing anything right to please a cute guy lol
The condom reduces your sensitivity. That's a normal reaction. Try using a his side skin condom next time.
Who looks better her or Jessica Alba the actress?
Im gonna sound like I’m lying but the girl was better looking. She wasn’t all natural but her surgeon did a really good job on her. She had fake boobs, and probably had done something to her lips too but it was very subtle
Ok I see. I hope you're telling the truth because she's a ringer a knockout Jessica Alba top-of-the-line Beauty. Queen and great personality
I’m not a troll lol, I know it sounds kinda hard to believe. This was the first time I had sex, and the girl who i slept with looks better than +90% of girls. I hope I won’t have a problem with the next girl I’ll sleep with because she probably won’t be as hot as the first one. I don’t know ignoring that’s makes sense
I don’t know if that makes sense *
She was 24 her name is Rebecca and she’s from Bulgaria
What happened did you break up with her already
It was just a hookup, nothing serious. I might see her again but we’re not in a relationship
Why just a hookup if she's so beautiful then why dont you date her? Its not necessary to have hookups and dump people
She’s a party kinda girl and she just wants to have fun with guys that’s why we decided to wear a condom. Might text her to hookup if I feel like it
You're missing the point
What’s your point?
Why were not dating?
I'm not a fan of hookups is basically using people and dumping them after. I'm an old-fashioned type of guy dating having a relationship
Because she’s a fuckbuddy material lol
🙄 ...
I wish I could help, but I’m a virgin and asexual, so I’m really no use. I wish you the best of luck in your sexual future though.
Honestly I'm a bisexual male and I've only blowed a guy but I did it becuase I loved him. That really fixes it all you know?
It could be the condom. It does reduce some of the sensation. You can try thinner condoms. Another thing to train yourself in staying harder is to masturbate by bringing yourself to the brink of ejaculation and stop all touching. Focus on other things. Then let yourself get hard again after you become flaccid and do it again. On the fourth try let yourself cum. Try this a few days and you might be able to train yourself to stay hard easier.
Yeah you could have been sttessed out or under anxiety that would do it.
My issue the first time was the condom. I felt very little. To top it off you're used to masturbating. Much more pressure than a vagina gives you. Try different condoms until you find one that fits you well. To test it masturbate with it on. It'll give you good idea how sensitive it is.
First you had performance anxiety you lacked confidence in your ability to fuck her brains out and give her the best world shattering orgasm of her life. Second you're watching to much porn and masturbating to much. Get rid of the porn and quit masturbating for a while and let your testosterone build up then fuck her brains out. Third try new positions and take control of the situation and be spontaneous with her like fuck her in the kitchen on the kitchen table or her back up against the wall
Not... once is rises... it's on... I may still grow inside her... if I like her a lot... but I've never struggled to stay hard
It happens a lot due to being too excited.
Sounds like you were distracted and focused more on your performance rather than enjoying her company, which would have given you the sexual quality you may have been looking for.
I'm a virgin I can't answer that question I don't have any experience with this
Probably gay. All men are. Try dick.
Why are all men gay?
Dunno. I don’t make the rules
You don't? Why not? Although, you were the one to say that all men are gay. Am I gay?
Knowing the rules does not mean you make them. Good day to u.
Fair enough, I must be the exception that proves the rule. Have a good day ma'am
Lol. Blue anons say all girls are bi. Pink anons say all gays are gay. Lmfao. I love GAG.
You are too nervous around her.
Yeah they probably were. They were probably her slutty little friends with benefits trying to scare off their comp for her. That’s a good reason not to hang around low lives like that.
What?
The guys. The other guys showing up. Yeah I’d say almost definitely it was because of her taking a liking to you and they know about it:
Not at alone lol
Not at all*
Well why did you say that in your update then.
You even agreed with it at the time.